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wife had Gastric bypass, can’t have that stuff no more, and she don’t like shots of Jack which was what I came up with. Any help appreciated

Have you learned nothing about what the “drug” alcohol, just like crystal meth or heroin or cocaine or pills that contain these habit forming drugs have been doing to our society, or family, our friends and our relationships? The point is this. You don’t allow everyone to have and hold guns, yet you think that there are certain individuals responsible enough to have them, hold them, and use them. Where are you going to draw the line between what is acceptible and what is not? When can I get drunk on an energy drink, and how long do I have to wait before I’m allowed to get “smashed in a blind stuper while running around the block with my neighbors wife from the new alcoholic energy drink?” It’s very simple. Deadly drugs are here and killing people and destroying the world that you know because you are allowing it by choice. You want it, demand it, and you are even willing to kill anyone to make sure that “the drugs” are here to stay. Go out and have another cigarette.Have a nice day.

My husband and I just moved from another state and have been staying with his parents for 2 weeks. We are moving into our apartment tomorrow (so today is our last night.)

While I’ve been here, I’ve noticed a lot of drinking. My FIL is not an alcoholic, and I’ve never seen him drink. His first wife however, was an alcoholic. I believe his second wife is, too. She is a very angry person when she’s NOT drunk (more-so at my husband his brothers – this has always been this way, because they are not her kids.) She has a very angry attitude towards her husband (my fil) also. Lately, I’ve noticed her drinking an entire bottle of $6 dollar wine before her husband gets home from work at night. (He works full time and then teaches weeknights at a community college.) She is then much more calm towards her husband, but her mood swings are terribly erratic towards his boys, still.

I realize this is not excellent class A wine or anything, but I believe this is becoming an issue. I am not involved and will stay out of the situation because it’s not for me to say anything, I’m not even close with her – I’m just curious as to if these are signs to becoming (or being) an alcoholic.

thanks for the help!
ok just to make this clear – this is about my mother in law…
Just thought I’d mention she’s downing ANOTHER bottle all to herself at this moment…

Does he sit at the dinner table with a wife beater shirt talking about the economy and the cost of their children’s college education? Are their children even going to college. For that matter, has his wife filed for a divorce yet, since her husband is always home sitting on the sofa drinking?

i drink about 15 to 18 beers a day.i just sip them so i dont get drunk.my wife tells me im becoming a alcoholic,but i thought you were an alcoholic when you drink everyday to get drunk.im homebound right now so i have nothing else to do but sit around and drink.i sleep until late afternoon and stay up until 3 or 4 am drinking.i drink about 2 or 3 beers an hour,but i dont get drunk.do i need help?

My father is a multiple-regressive alcoholic who needs hospitalization or detox any time he is off the wagon. He has been sober, supposedly for a few months. I an a 34-year old with a wife and 3 little kids. He and his wife are not understanding why I am so skittish to re-enter his life, after over a decade of pain and heartbreak. We are on speaking terms, but I know he wants more, and wants to see the kids more. I am trying to insulate them from the heartbreak I have felt off and on for the last 15 years.

So I guess the question is, is it fair for me to keep him at arm’s reach and to insulate my kids from having any real bond with he or his wife (also an alcoholic, BTW). My protectiveness says stay away, danger, danger. My love for him says, he’ll be gone some day and then it will be too late.

I have honestly been so hurt by him, I am most comfortable just avoiding him, but I feel like I have to decide. Advice from adults appreciated.

My new in laws are addicted to weed total alcaholics and the grandmother abuses prescription meds and sleeping pills while drinking heavily. I married my wife and have a step son now we decided to pull him away totally and have no contact. My wife is suffering separation Anxiety but my son seems to be doing fne. did we do the right thing? should we continue this separation? and also she and my new son lived with these people for 5 the childs whole life. he is 6 years and autistic

He is more self centered and secretive I think than while he was drinking. He goes to AA chairs a meeting as well and still hasn’t done half of the steps especially apologizing to the wife who stood by him all this time. Help

I made a wish this year – not a resolution, but just a wish. I asked god if he could find me a wife.

The problem is, I’m unsure what a wife or a potential wife would want from me. I’m 45, a little overweight, a recovering alcoholic and have had lots of girlfriends in my life. I wanted to marry the last one, but I screwed it all up by drinking and cheating on her. I never want to go back there again.

I’ve never been married before, and find alot of women are looking for a second or third husband and think that there is something wrong with me.

I did start a multi-million dollar software company, which failed in 2003, but I’m trying again. (I started it in 1987 when i got sober the first time)

What do you think is wrong with this picture. Do you think I’d never find a wife? That’s what I want most from life.

What can I do to make myself attractive enough so that some woman that I’m equally attracted to will marry me?

NO DATING SERVICE SPAMS PLEASE

My future wife is an alcoholic. She loves to drink, and I don’t. She doesn’t go to bars or anything like that on a regular basis, so that is not my concern. I love her very very much, and we get along fine….right now. We have so much in common, and we love to be together. What is a big piece of it all is that she gets drunk and says things I don’t like. She gets crazy, and I like that, but I don’t like when she is not controlling herself in public. Like flashing her tits at me in WAL MART. Not any concern with me, but you know, kids around and all. It hurts to see her act that way, yet I love her so much.

Just for info…I don’t believe there is anything anyone can do that will ever stop her from drinking.
The reason I said that I don’t believe she will ever stop is because she has been to AA meetings and treatment and everything. But after all of that, she still has to have her beer.
I don’t expect her to change. I do love her the way she is. But will it stay that way or will it change into something that I will regret forever…..

When you went into recovery did you fall out of love with your husband ? If so did you find that love him after ?
We had been married for 5 yrs before she started to drink and that was to be SOCIAL HA HA yah rite

I’ve made it clear to my friend that I won’t drink with him, or hang out with him while he’s drinking, or hang out with him at bars. I think that providing him somebody to hang out with where he knows there will be no drinking is a good thing. A mutual friend of ours insists that I should cut off all ties, as the alcoholic friend needs to focus on his wife and child and not losing his job. He submits that hanging out with him only distracts him from the severity of his situation. What’s the right course of action?

My father-in-law just had his second wife leave him because of his horrible excessive drinking (was married 30+ years the first time, 5+ the second), yet is constantly convinced that it was ‘all her fault’ both times that their respective marriages dissolved.

My wife and I have a great marriage with no such problems similar to this (both in our 40s, married 15+ years). We also admit that we’re nieve about how to understand alcoholism as well as knowing how to help him out.

In the past we’ve attended support groups for families of alcoholics. The problem now though is that hes 1000 miles away across the country and refuses to come and live with us even though we have the financial means to take care of him.

We’re just feeling lost without this man in our lives, and when hes not drinking is a very good guy. Hes on the verge of losing his job and its killing my wife.

Any and all suggestions are welcome.
We’ve tried to get him to attend an AA meeting but he just says ‘I dont need those dam things, those are for drunks’.

A couple of times a week I like to have some beers after work. I never sit down & drink a ton of beer . . usually between one & five of them. I enjoy getting the ‘buzz’ & watching tv on stressfull days. She complains about it like I am a heroin addict or something.. Is she right?? I thought alcoholics went to meetings.. (bad joke)

She wants to go out and drink every night, it’s okay for me to go with her but if I suggest it’s time to go home, she gets mad and says I am trying to stop her fun. I don’t know what to do I love her madly but I just can’t reason with her.

What are the rights and legal protection for the wife when her husband is a alcoholic?

My wife is the daughter of an alcoholic and her mom was the wife. Her mom is really bad is there any support group for them. They live in Brownsville texas 78520

I do not agree with President Bush on a lot of things, but I cannot tolerate people making up lies about the president either. I just want to know the truth.

I got into a discussion with a certain person that suggested that the president is still an alcoholic, and that his wife plans to leave him once he finishes his term. Evidently, he obtained this information from a news paper. Now we all know that the average news paper isn’t always the most reliable source of information, yet this individual reads the paper as though it were the very Bible. What is the truth? Continuing alcoholic or liberal bs indented to downgrade the president.

Ive been going through a ruff patch this year… probably the worst year of my life. I was at a party in February & got pulled over driving home and got a DWI & lost my drivers license for 6 months. During the period that I couldn’t drive, I found out my wife was having an affair & we got a divorce (I was more upset that I couldn’t see my son every day).

So all of the time that I sat alone at my house & not being able to drive, I done what most severely depressed people do: drink. My neighbors are alcoholics and since I really needed someone to talk to during my divorce & since I couldn’t drive, I spent alot of time hanging out with them drinking. Now Im worried Im becoming an alcoholic; if I get stressed, pissed, or depressed… I just want to drink & not just one or two or three. I checked into AA in my area but there isn’t one since I live in such a small town.

What steps can I take to help me deal with my problems without turning to alcohol. I also have my son for a full week every other week so I refuse to drink then, but it seems like its getting harder to say no. Can anyone give me some advice?

Remember I live in a small town so there is no AA or support groups of anykind.