How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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Two or my funniest:

1) My buddies wife was telling him he should go to AA. I told him those AA handbooks make great beer coasters. Wife: Pissed. Buddy: Trying not to bust a gut. Me: Got a serious ribbing later.

2) Friend of mine overheard this at an AA meeting: “Blackout? I don’t remember having any blackouts!”

My wife is currently in rehab for alcohol, bulimia, and depression. She has been having problems for years and I finally told her if she doesn’t get help and stop, that I was going to get a divorce. She has now been there for 4 days and I still have no idea what’s going on? I know she’s in detox, but they haven’t told me how long she will be in there. Does anyone know how long someone should be in rehab with these problems? I think she should stay there for at least 90 days, but she seems to think she can get out in a couple weeks. ??????

I am interested in others views on this subject. I personally think that these centres have a great plan of action. The flaws are that grouping lots of codependent individuals with each other in a closed ‘big brother’ type environment is creating lots of ‘relationships’ between patients who pair off and enable each other to drink/do drugs again.
I am amazed at how people enter services to do the detox for their husband or wife and kids only to forget them in a few days and start a sexual relationship with another user.
What is your opinion on such services and do you have any better ideas?

A friend of mine binge drinks and insists that he is not an alcoholic because he can go without alcohol during the week. He drinks heavily until he is drunk on weekends. He never has hangover. He is 50 years old. He insists that he is only like this because he is sad (he wife left him 12 months ago). He has lost his driving licence for the second time in 10 years. I think he has to stop drinking altogether but he says he must wean himself off gradually. Will not go to AA because he does not have problem. What can I do to help him?

Can some of the alcohol in his system be transfered to the women via his semen?

Ok I have a 12 year old girl, and My wife (her step mother) and I had found out last minute that we were to go to a function. my dad and Alchie said he would watch her. when we came back 4 hrs later he was TRASHED he could not see straight and he did not know where he was/what he was doing

Much to my disappointment and my wife’s Shock

I have not said anything to him, he stayed the night because he could not drive. Or make it down the 3 flights of steers and left this am about 9 ish back to his mothers house…

He does not admit he has a prob or that he needs help.

I have already cut all unsupervised access to my daughter by my dad, He is removed from the authorized pickup list at my daughters school, He has 1 OUI/DWI . Probably not necessary but at this point I’m securing her as much as i can..

I grew up in a dysfunctional home. I Survived an Abusive childhood and will Never subject my daughter to what I went through , By 10th grade I had been to more AA meets than
most recovering alcoholics have been to in 3 years, I had to make sure he went. 3 nights a weekend 2 on Sat and 2 on Sunday… (I never went with the “Cool kids” to drink because I knew the road they were heading down and i didn’t want that ride… )
I’ve read the “Big Blue Book” 3 times and can recite any of the hit rock bottom stories..

To put it mildly I don’t drink.

I need to protect my daughter from the affects of alcoholism. She has already had a rough life. He mother broke it off with me and marred/divorced a deadbeat and my daughter was being taken for the emotional ride.

What do i do..

Other than know the i cant do anything does not help. the Serenity prayer just doesn’t work for me

My wife of 5 years and I have 1 child together. Our son is 3 years old. Shortly after his birth my wife began to drink often. About a year ago she became what I considered an alcoholic. She drank most every day and drank a lot. She was always drunk but when at work. She works evenings so she got drunk before work but not wasted and wasted when she got home.

After some big problems eg. driving drunk with our son and passing out when she was supposed to be watching him, I was at the end of my rope. I had a professional intervention done and put her into rehab for her health and for how she was behaving with our son and how she was treating me.

She was in rehab for 30 days and got out 2 weeks ago. The day before she got out of rehab she told me she had had sex in the parking lot with 2 different coworkers on 3 separate occasions over a 3 week period in March. One she had sex with once and the other twice right after she got off work for the night. My wife that I knew prior to alcohol would have never done such a thing. She told me this before getting out of rehab because she said the alcohol made her a monster and she wanted me to know so I could move on or forgive her and start anew life with her sober. She swears she will never drink again as it makes her a monster. She says if it was not for being an alcoholic that she would not have been in the state of mind of wanting to do anything to make herself feel better about herself. She says she would not like a person or think very highly of them if they behaved as she had…she swears she is not that person. In the last two weeks she has signed a post nuptial agreement in which she gets nothing if we get divorced…I get everything we acquire in the future including the house, cars and savings that we have now. She is trying to prove to me that she will never do such a thing again. She knows I am loyal and would never hurt her as she has done to me so she trusts me not to leave her and use the post nup unless she does something in the future to deserve it. She has returned to being a sweet caring wife but this could be because of guilt. Can alcohol really make a person a monster like this even when not drunk?

I was saved about 13 years ago and was delivered from alcoholism by Jesus Christ. I was in a bad marriage and my wife did not support me in my changes and new Christian ways of living. The stress of this made me pick up the alcohol again. How do I stop? And please dont tell me to just put it down. Anyone who is a drinker knows this is not as easy as it sounds. I would like to hear from someone who has had a similar experience, and how did you overcome it? I would like to be back to where I started with my relationship with Christ.
To clarify, I am typing this question for my husband

First, I’m not defending to the cigarette…

But I think the alcohol produces more victims than the cigarette. Many people kill when are drunk driving a vehicle, fighting under the effects of the alcohol, or hitting drunk to her wife and children. Also, a lot of people die by cirrhosis.

I don’t know somebody has caused an accident to smoke, or the cigarette motivated somebody to fight and to kill another person, or somebody hit savagely his wife and children to be under the effects of the cigarette…

I think the alcohol is worse than the cigarette. However, every year, more billion dollars are spent in campaigns against the cigarette than against the alcohol…

Why to pander to the alcohol? How many trillion dollars are moved behind the industries of the liquor and the beer?

It’s a double moral.

An university professor said: “The alcohol is necessary in the society because it’s the drug that brutalizes… the governments need to govern brutalized people.”
NOTE: When I use the term “brutalize”, I mean to make to somebody idiot.” Please, excuse me if my translation to English is not the correct one.

My in laws and I did an intervention on my wife a few days ago for her alcoholism. The rehab facility that she was taken to faxed a Doctors note to my wife’s employer stating, “she will not be available for work for the next 6 weeks she is in Doctors care.”

My wife’s employer called me today stating that she will be fired if she is not back within 3 weeks. Can they do this?

The federal labor law states…
Family and Medical Leave Act

Covered employers must grant an eligible employee up to a total of 12 workweeks of unpaid leave during any 12-month period for one or more of the following reasons:

to take medical leave when the employee is unable to work because of a serious health condition.

I did not list the others because they do not apply

Would alcoholism be considered a serious health condition?

After having multiple negative pregnancy tests, and then missing her period, (now 3.5 weeks late) latest test shows my wife’s pregnant. We identified a few nights (3-5) with multiple drinks 1/2 bottle of wine, etc etc (birthdays, anniv,) as well as going into the jacuzzi 4X. We were careful to test for pregnancy before the outing and thought it was ok.

Could this have an effect on the baby/pregnancy? Hopefully not…

I like to drink whenever I can. My wife says that I probably have a drinking problem. It’s kind of depressing I must say. So in order to deal with this depression I have been trying to drink lots of booze. So far it is working alright. My wife is definitely a lot happier that’s for sure. But occasionally the alcohol wears off so I’m wondering exactly how much should I drink to get over this depression while still somewhat functioning?

He has some friends who are totally useless, they call him out to drink! there is nothingelse they call him for. I dont like them. they are not even to his standard.
I have tried telling 2 of his friends about what happens when he come home from drinking, they told me- dont worry we wont call him out anymore which lasted for 1 week only and after that they keep calling him out.
I just dont understand why he has to go out and drink with his friends. I have tried to stop him by blackmailing him to choose which he wants.. his wife or alcohol.. but still after few days he is back to drinking.
Can someone tell me some trick that i can use on him.

My friend is having a birthday party and inviting many guests. It is a surprise party being held by his wife. The birthday boy occasionally drinks alcohol. There will be 2 relatives attending the party that are anti-alcohol, so his wife is asking that it be a “dry” party. What do you think about this? Do you think the party should be “dry” because two people disagree with this behavior?

Typically I will have to drink a 6-pack or so for my voice to be deep the following morning. It usually remains deep at least until lunch time or so the following day. Although typically soft-spoken, some say I sound like Barry White. Anyway to keep that deep voice? My wife likes it!

If so, how much will he let you drink at one time?

I drink just a little bit. I am a social, light weight drinker. Not a heavy weight. Just enough to make it merrier.
What kinds of drinks???? Maragaritas, wines, beers, etc.
For right now, I drink bud light or Miller lite or Natural light in a glass with ice cubes. Thanks guys

Just curious. I know if I’m with my ‘wife’ and I’m 21 and she’s 19-20 she’d probably be offended if I refused to buy her alcohol or something.

I just want to know could you get charged / put in jail if you somehow got caught.
Pennsylvania