How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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Ok here is the deal I been single now 8 long years. yep that is right! I am almost 40 have a great personality and not to mention a good heart. I am also very attractive.
I guess I am pmsing but really I have met so many men over the last 8 years they either have a wife on drugs drink to much or don’t have good hygien!
Is there any women out there my age that are experiencing the same.
Could it be where I live in the midwest?
I am financially secure don’t need anyone to pay my bills I just want company!
Please do not say church though I am religuose I find some of the biggest hyprocrits in church where does one go that does not drink to meet someone?

sorry this is in marriage but I figured more experienced people would be in this forum did not want to deal with teenage responses

Ok, I AM 49 YEARS OLD AND IN GREAT SHAPE AND LOVES LIVE. I HAVE A NICE HOME AND A COOL DOG AND 2 BOYS AND ….WELL A WIFE.

WE HAVE HAD OR ISSUES OVER THE YEARS , MOSTLY MONEY AND SEX. MY WIFE HAS NEVER CARE ABOUT MY NEEDS , BUT HAD AN AFFAIR WITH ANOTHER MAN ABOUT 6 YEARS AGO THAT LASTED 1 YEAR. SHE TOLD ME IF SHE COULD CONTINUE SEEING HIM, WE WOULD HAVE GREAT SEX AGAIN. SHE MOVED OUT WITH THE KIDS 5 YEARS AFTER THE AFFAIR BUT ASKED TO MOVE BACK HOME JUST 3 WEEKS AFTER MOVING OUT. I TOLD HER WE COULD JUST LIVE AS A FAMILY AND WORK ON THE HOME AND FAMILY AND SHE WAS HAPPY WITH THAT. BUT NOW SHE IS HOME AND SAYS SHE DOES NOT WANT TO WORK ON THE MARRIAGE AT LEAST FOR 1 YEAR AND JUST THE KIDS AND FAMILY . SO NO SEX. SHE ALSO COMPLAINS ABOUT THE MONEY SO MUCH WHEN WE ARE DOING GOOD WITH THE BILLS AND MORTAGAGE. SHE SAYS SHE DOES NOT WANT ME TO HAVE ANY DRINK OF BEER OR WINE, BUT I NEVER HAVE ABUSED IT EVER. IF WE GO OUT TO DINNER, I CAN NOT EVEN ORDER A GLASS OF WINE. SHE IS VERY CONTROLLING . SHE SAYS SHE DOES NOT LIKE ME SO I ASK WHY DID SHE COME HOME/ SHE SAID BECAUSE I TOLD HER WE COULD WORK JUST ON THE FAMILY FOR AWHILE. I DID NOT THINK SHE WOULD RUN WITH IT…………… I TOLD HER WE NEED TO GO TO COUNCELING AND SHE SAID OK BEFORE SHE MOVED BACK AND NOW SHE SAYS NO.I DO ALOT AT HOHE, CLEAN THE HOUSE, FOOD SHOP, THE YARD, DISHES , TAKE OUT THE TRASH… YOU NAME IT. I TREAT HER VERY GOD, BACK RUBS AND ALL AND AS SOON AS I WANT TO GET SOME LOVE, SHE BACKS OFF AND SAYS SHE DOES NOT LIKE ME BECAUSE OF MY WAYS. I DRANK BEER WHEN SHE MARRIED ME AND SO DID SHE AND I NEVER OVER DO IT. THEYE ARE OTHER THINGS SHE SAYS SHE DOES NOT LIKE ABOUT ME BUT WHEN I TELL HER WHAT I WOUD LIKE TO SEE HER DO, SHE WONT LISTEN AND DOES NOT CARE. NO GIVE AND TAKE.

HOW CAN I HANDLE THIS SITUATION ?? I AM SO UPSET WITH ER AND NOW SHE HAS DRUG THE KIDS INTO IT. ????

My younger brother struggled for years with an addiction to pain medications, alcohol and eventually heroin. My family tried unsuccessfully over the years to get him some help. He never wanted any.

Finally, after being hospitalized with renal failure and pancreatic insufficiency in 2005 he admitted that he had a problem and allowed us to check him into rehab. He will be five years clean next month.

He has trouble holding down a job for extended periods of time so my wife and I have been letting him live in our guest room until he can get his act together. He’s good with the kids and is useful around the house.

Unfortunately, I came home from my job at the supermarket only to find him with a needle in his arm. You can only imagine my disappointment. He came up with some cock-and-bull story about how the drugs were prescribed by his doctor and they help regulate the sugar in his blood. Does he take me for a fool? I mean what kind of doctor prescribes medication that you inject in your arm?

I flushed his stash, took his phone (to cut him off from his supplier) and kicked him out on the street. I will not tolerate drug abuse in my home; especially around the children.

We have a drug and alcohol counselor coming tomorrow. I will not let him live under my roof until he gets assessed. Am I taking the correct measures? Is there anything else I can to do to prevent my brother from getting sucked into that life again? I love him dearly and it would kill me to see him get sucked into that downward spiral again. Thanks and God bless.

A year and a half ago my husband disappeared. Said he had to go out to the garage one night around 9 p.m. and he didn’t come back for 2 months. I searched every place I could think of. Of course the wife is always the last to know everything. We had only been married a year and a half. To shorten this somewhat, my husband had a cocaine addiction that I wasn’t aware of. I worried about him. Not knowing if he was dead or alive. I found out he was staying with another woman. One of his “connections”. Life was hell for me. When I realized exactly how bad he was, I had many people telling me do this or that. Forget about him. Move on. Divorce him. I had been married before for 20 years. When I met my husband I truly felt I had found heaven. He was perfect. Or at least perfect for me! He was the kindest, most loving man I had ever met in my life. He was good to anyone and everyone. Always helping someone. Great with my two daughters. Each day and night I would search for him. I would get text messages from time to time saying things like, “Help me, I’m lost.” Or “Thank you for being the person you are.” I realized something. Addictions are an illness. For whatever reason people decide to turn to drugs, once they become addicted, they cannot help it. In my vows I said, “In sickness and in health”. This was a sickness. I wouldn’t have divorced him if he had cancer. So I couldn’t give up. Finally I turned to his family, parents and brother. I told them what was going on. I begged them to help. I even told them that if he didn’t want me, that was fine, but I didn’t want to see him dead! I loved him and wanted him to get better. His family told me they wouldn’t get involved. They never attempted to help in any way. Each day I would go to the bank to close our checking account because he was dipping into the overdraft and leaving me negative $300 every day. I couldn’t close the account until it was positive. The stress was so much for me, I went on stress leave at work in order to not lose my job. My parents ended up giving me $2000 to get the account straight. I had no food, nothing. No way to buy food for my 15 year old daughter. My ex mother in law stepped in and sent more food than 5 families could have ate. My in laws didn’t care because she wasn’t their grandaughter. On a Sunday night my husband had used so much drugs that he started seizing. This “woman” and all the friends there, stuck him in a room and left him! He finally came out of it and woke up on Tuesday. On Tuesday night, he came home. He begged me for help. He said he realized then who truly loved him and that he wanted to live. It was a rough road. I sat with him, tied him to the bed, and didn’t leave his side while he was going through detox. It wasn’t long, weeks, he started getting back into it. This time it wasn’t as bad. He would only stay gone for a day or so. Finally this past July, he begged me to put him in rehab. He has now been clean for 7 months and 9 days. I still love my husband with all of my heart. But there are so many problems and I’m not sure we will ever get through them. I feel that my insecurities and my constant worrying is going to push him away or back to the life he was living. I forgave him. I realized it wasn’t his fault. Yes, he did chose to use the drugs, however, this was the life his parents had lived. I wasn’t aware of that. He ended up telling me things that still makes me cry when I think about them. How his only memories as a child was his parents always strung out. People at there house laying around on the floors doing coke and having sex. And he remembers being taken away from his parents. Now, here is a major problem. His parents told him so many lies. Told him I was calling them with all kinds of lies. I only told them the truth. They claim I never asked them for help. And that all I did was call to tell them how much trouble he was in with the FBI. He never got caught. I never told them such things. They were horrible to me. After he came back, I was so far in debt, I was evicted from my home. His parents didn’t care. My parents took us in. They gave us a home. My mother and I had argued when he was gone and she told me she never wanted him around her again. I told her that I would respect that, however, he was my husband and I would not turn my back on him. I told her that I had never loved someone so much in my life and I would be there when he finally wanted help. She accepted that. He didn’t talk to his family for a year. Now that he is talking to them again, and going to visit them, it’s like nothing ever happened. His mother still makes the comments to him that she doesn’t believe him when he tells her what he was doing. She says he is lying to cover my lies. They also expect me to call and apologize to them. I did nothing to them. I told him the only apology they would get from me is, “I’m sorry I loved your s
feel like I’m losing my mind! I want my marriage to last forever. He tells me every day how sorry he is and how he would take it all back if he could. Yet, he let’s them get by without apologizing to me! Please, don’t tell me how stupid I am. I don’t need to hear the negative things. I know people say if my spouse did this or that to me, it would be over. I said the same things, and ate those words. Until you go through a situation yourself, you really don’t know how you would handle it. Please, only helpful answers?
I loved your son enough to go to any lengths to save his life! And I’m sorry you guys didn’t love him enough to help.” I feel that I was the only one there for him. The only one who fought for him. And now they are treated like they did nothing wrong. I feel they did me wrong and they owe me an apology and a thank you! Also, I question everything. I’m constantly looking for something. Searching his vehicle, his pockets, everything. I do this to see if he is doing these things again. How do I get past this? How do I accept the fact that they are back in his life regardless of how they raised him and how the treated me?

March 13, 2007 –Our White House Press Corps sources report further disturbing news about President George W. Bush. Our sources have witnessed a clearly inebriated Bush approaching members of the press corps and making rude comments, including one particularly crude remark about First Lady Laura Bush. In that case, Bush, nodding toward Laura, called her a “c**t.” While Bush’s drinking is no secret to the White House press contingent, that particular comment was reportedly the worst they have heard uttered by Bush. Our sources also report that Laura Bush’s stays at the White House are less frequent and that her overnight trips to the Mayflower Hotel often coincide with the president’s drunken binges.

Note: Some of our female readers were shocked to see the “C” word in the above news item. This editor wants to make it clear that word was used by George W. Bush to denigrate his wife.
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Ask the White House Press Corp. The news is spreading like wildfire around the country.
The press is the least of the President’s problems. He’s in over his head and is given anything he wants to fail again and again. Relish in news no one has because Reporter Girl is abusing the free speech system. Report her!

My wife finally came back home last week. She left for a few weeks to her sisters after I stupidly hit her across the face sending her onto the couch. I regret it and I had been drinking. I don’t really drink anymore except for 2 in the morning just to take the edge off (I don’t get intoxicated) before I go to my dental practice.

The other night though I almost had to hold back so I didn’t hit her again. I was NOT drinking. I NEVER felt the urge to hit her or anyone in my life! I am an intelligent professional and should be able to control my emotions. I’m so afraid I may hit her again and I do NOT want to make that mistake twice. What could be going on? I NEVER felt like this.

I love my sister but she is a nightmare when she has drink taken. She didnt drink for 2 years but she fell off the wagon at the weekend. mainly what she did was text and phone my other brothers inlaws and accuse my my brother and his wife of being basicially unstable – she also told a good few family secrets to these people who no one gets on with. She is now very upset, crying all the time – hates herself and is in dispair about her drinking especially after doing so well for so long. she is back at her AA meeting today. what can i say to her honestly that will help her. i hate her on one hand know she cant help it on the other and feel sorry for her. help please. ps when sober she is the nicest person one could meet. thanks all
is there anything i can say to put it all into perspective for her – she is so upset- and she hates herself so much. it was an embarressing stupid thing to do but she sure is suffering for it now thanks

I drank alcoholically for along time. Did all the things your not supposed to do. but have never been unfaithful. We have two teenage boys at home in a 14yr. marriage and 19 yr. relationship.I’m 41, she’s 44. My repeated attempts to stop always ended me in rehab programs or detox, till this last time when she dropped me off at yet another detox clinic and said don’t come home. the only chance was to get with a sponser and work the twelve step program of AA. Now I live in a
sober house, work the program. am involved in the fellowship of AA, and get to see my family just not stay with them. Any chance she’ll let me come home any time soon?

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can any give me advise how to help her and how i can cope with this situation please

1. Which one of the following statements is not correct?

A. Laws have developed from our sense of ethics.
B. Medical ethics and medical laws vary from jurisdiction to jurisdiction.

C. Our sense of ethics strives for the greatest good for humanity.

D. Ethical standards are usually more strict than the laws.

2. Which one of the following physicians violates medical ethics?

A. A physician reports another physician who’s presently using cocaine.
B. A physician disconnects the respirator of a brain-dead patient who has written a living will.

C. A physician performs an abortion on a married woman without consent from her husband.

D. A physician tells the parents of a 15-year-old drug addict that she’s pregnant.

3. Euthanasia, organ transplants, and genetic engineering are all issues dealing with

A. malpractice.
B. the Hippocratic Oath.

C. bioethics.

D. negligence.

4. Which answer best describes the relationship between the following words: duty, derelict, direct cause, damage?

A. Contractual agreement
B. Proof of negligence

C. Points of civil law

D. Four Ds of misdemeanors

5. A contract is best defined as a(n)

A. tort.
B. enforceable promise.

C. civil law.

D. exchange of something of value.

6. What is abandonment?

A. Leaving the office before seeing all of your patients
B. Discontinuing patient care without telling the patient

C. Refusing treatment to a patient in an emergency situation

D. Treating a patient without written consent

7. Which answer best describes the public duties of a physician?

A. Making patients aware of their rights
B. Using adequate knowledge, skill, and care

C. Making correct diagnoses, effecting recovery for patients, possessing the maximum amount of education.

D. Reporting communicable diseases, preparing birth and death certificates, controlling access to drugs

8. A doctor removes the wrong limb from a patient. This is an example of which kind of malpractice claim?

A. Non compos mentis
B. Respondeat superior

C. Res ipsa loquitur

D. Subpoena duces tecum

9. Mr. Reed has called the doctor’s office to find out the results of his wife’s pregnancy test. What is the correct procedure?

A. After you verify that Mr. Reed is who he claims to be, you give him the results.
B. Tell him you have the results, but he’ll have to speak to the doctor.

C. Tell him that you don’t release patient information to others.

D. Ask him if his wife knows he’s calling.

10. A physician provides emergency care at the scene of an automobile accident. Which act protects this physician from lawsuits?

A. Good Samaritan Act
B. Medical Practice Act

C. Controlled Substance Act

D. Uniform Anatomical Gift Act

11. What is it called when a patient voluntarily accepts a known danger?

A. Implied consent
B. Contributory negligence

C. Assumption of risk

D. General liability

12. A person who is incapable of providing his or her informed consent is considered

A. negligent.
B. incompetent.

C. emancipated.

D. derelict.

13. Which of the following information would be considered to be in the public domain?

A. Patient A was shot during a street fight.
B. Patient B has a venereal disease.

C. Patient C has AIDS.

D. Patient D has a mental illness.

14. Ms. Walsh has called to request that her medical record be transferred to another doctor. What do you do?

A. Advise her that she must stop by to sign a release.
B. Ask her why she’s unhappy with her present doctor.

C. Verify her identity and forward the record to the other doctor.

D. Forward the record even though she has a large outstanding bill.

15. Which one of the following statements is true?

A. Emancipated minors aren’t legally allowed to give their own informed consent.
B. A competent adult patient can’t refuse treatment if that treatment is needed to prevent death.

C. A patient can withdraw his or her consent at any time.

D. Informed consent must be indicated by a written or oral agreement.

16. At lunch in the hospital cafeteria, a small group of medical office staff is discussing the lifestyle of a patient who has recently tested positive for HIV. You know for a fact they’re wrong. What do you do?

A. Tell them. They should know the truth. Besides, you aren’t violating the patient’s right to privacy and confidentiality since you all work for the same doctor.
B. Tell the patient. He has the right to know what others are saying.

C. Don’t get involved. It’s none of your business-the staff has the right to talk about anything when they’re off duty.

D. Say nothing about whether they’re wrong or right, but tell them they’re violating a patient’s right to privacy and confidentiality, if they continue, inform your supervisor.

17. What is Roe v. Wade?

A. A law that provides legal protection for physicians who provide emergency care
B. A law that forbids physicians to prescribe drugs for known drug addicts

C. A U.S. Supreme Court decision that gives women the right to an abortion during the first trimester of pregnancy

D. A U.S. Supreme Court decision that gives women the right to an abortion at any time during pregnancy

18. Because of a doctor’s negligence, Mr. Jones is unable to work. What kind of compensation is Mr. Jones entitled to?

A. Contributory compensation
B. General compensation

C. Reciprocal compensation

D. Special compensation

19. Which one of the following statements about AIDS is not correct?

A. ARC usually comes before AIDS.
B. AZT is a treatment for AIDS.

C. AIDS only affects homosexuals and drug users.

D. AIDS is transmitted through sexual intercourse.

20. Denial, anger, bargaining, and acceptance are all recognized stages of

A. chronic disease.
B. depression.

C. eugenics.

D. dying.

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I,m divorcing him as many of you may already know because of his meth addiction,and although it not been easy I have stood my ground bcause of many atemps and broken promisis about getting off the dope and lying and all the other crap thats not good in our relationship.anyway hes been thretning to kill me almost constanly because I wont stop the divorce and let him live with me ,hes been (restraining )me from leaving the house when been bullying and badering me takes my keys and phone and makes me stay in the house ,he has a real fear of abandament because thats what keeps happening to him .yesterday morning he was suppose to go to work first time in two weeks when we woke he started in again again and asked the same question over again, why wont I give him A chance ,well its because I remember how many theres already been and things were just getting worse and Iso I told him that I CAN NOT AND WILL NOT STOP DIVORCE , He got up and came over and CHOKED me and told i need to Die
I was able to lie my way out of house hours later and called police now hes in jail and may be (stong chance)going to prison on 3 felony charges and is begging me to drop felony charges other people who know and Love him tell me to let it happen and I just dont Know what is best way
jail? prison? just rehab? or all?
The thought of an already abused and abandand from childhood weak drug addicted man in prison is an awful sight in my minds eye ,this is awful
I have been very thankful that people on yahoo answers have been there as I have let my self be taken away by this man from my work that I liked and interaction with other people ,so I could be with him every moment.I thought this was true love because last hubby was never home and dident care at all where i was or what i was doing .How does that saying go ? o ya out of the frying pan right into the fire.

love

She is 40 I’m 44

We been happily married for 18 glorious years in her mind.