How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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The short version is they were mad at him over losing the lawsuit over the rights to his name and they wanted to show Bret Hart if he didn’t come back for the DVD, they would trash one of their best people so they did it. Most of that DVD was BS as fans who have followed wrestling closely know.

They are begging him to come do the HOF this year. They are under a microscope after the Benoit tragedy and even more Wrestler deaths since: Test, Umaga, etc. And Warrior has adjusted to life after wresting better than any other wrestler. He got out of the business at the right time and now he is financially comfortable with a beautiful family, is still married to his first and only wife, no drug problems, and he still is in great health and even still has a killer physique. Compare that to guys like Jake the Snake or Billy Jack Haynes who’s lives are a total mess, and they are lucky to be alive. Hell, look at all the marriage, family, and financial problems Hulk and Flair have had over the last 3 years!

Anyway, Warrior has a house in Arizona where the HOF is taking place and they still don’t have a headlining main eventer to go in this year. They’ve contacted him, they’ve put him in the WWE opening montage, HHH referred to him in a promo with Shemus, etc. Looks like they are really trying to put him in.

I am recently seperated from my wife of 3 years, we were together for 6. I am living in the apartment we lived in, working at the same job for the past 5 years, going to school to get my A.A.S. degree in Business with an emphasis in Accounting. I was so used to being married, with children, that I have forgot how it is to be single. My wife took all our furniture, left me with a few things to get by. I have acquired some furniture since September, since we broke up. It’s just hard being alone, I usually would break down if something tragic like this happened to me before. This time I have been able to stand strong, and continue taking care of my responsibilities. Usually, I would lose everything, and go do drugs for a while. So I guess my question is, … I am continuing on the right track I feel, I trust in Jesus, that he will take care of me. When will my life make sense again? When can I be comfortable again? When will I feel like everything is as it should be, even though I know it is the way it is supposed to be right now? I guess I am just venting. Anyone single girls in the 559 area that would like to talk to a good guy?

My husband had a child and was married nearly 9 years ago. His ex wife left in the middle of the night nearly 8 years ago and took their daughter. She bounced around and then came back after he pleaded. She returned 4 months pregnant and stayed for 10 months, had the child which is not biologically related to my husband, but he signed the BC and tried to make it work. She took off 2 months after the birth and was awall for nearly 6 years, my husband paid child support to her last known address the entire time. He filed for divorce 5 years ago and completed divorce by publication because her whereabouts of her and the child where unknown. At one point they surfaced about 3 years ago and he found out she was a habitual cocain and heroin user and had been since she was 16 which explains her sketchy behavior. He found out that legal custody had been granted to a grandparent, we attempted to file for custody but had to enter the foster care program, at the time we were students in college and could not enter the program ( he was no longer considered a guardian since the office was told he passed away 4 years prior, even though he paid child support to that office)

Either way, one week ago the mother and children surface again and tell us they are going to be about 20 miles from our home this weekend. She says they want to see him, even though they don’t know who he is. She informs my husband that they call her new husband Daddy and not to freak out about it. I should mention she does not legally have the children, and while we reported that to the state inw hich they live they will not do anything until the legal guardian says they are missing.

So she wants to have this meeting. We both feel that this meeting should be set in a structured enviroment with a mediator, not over coffee and dinner. We’re thinking this could be very hard for the children to handle, a lot to take in. The mother insists we do this in a public place and is refusing to have them meet in a structured setting. We are going to speak to a psychologist in the morning to get their opinion, but I am curious how other parents might handle this very odd situation.

At first the thought of a nice meeting, where they can meet their little brother and sister ( we have twins) sounds so nice, but then the more I think about it, I think it needs to be in a more structured setting.

The other side of it is, I think it could be really hard to know you were 20 miles away from your father and didn’t see him.

I don’t put it past the mother to tell them exactly that as well.

Please don’t get upset with me about this, I know it’s messed up and sad, but really we’re trying to do what is best for the children.

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In addition, we have tried to gain custody of the children. At the time, we were told it was basically a legal adoption because custody and guardianship had been awarded to a grandparent. The court informed my husband that if he wanted to push forward we would need to have a home inspection in our state, when we applied for that we had to enroll in the foster care program and classes, we could not enroll as two unmarried students with part time jobs. The attorney in that state informed us it was going to cost around 12K which we didn’t have at the time.

We are working on building a case to gain custody rite now, it’s just not as easy as one might think.

About 3 weeks ago we started going to marriage counseling and is on our 5th session. So far the counseling has been useful, but I do want her to return back home. She said that she is only going to therapy to help me but she still wants a divorce, but she has not file or mention anything about the divorce since our 3rd MC session. The MC thinks that she is calling out divorce as a defense mechanism. We have been together for 8yrs and married for 1 year. No infidelity ,physical abuse, or drug use. Just BAD communication between us.

My wife was the one that wants the divorce because she was “fed up”. Even though she thinks that divorce is the best out, she starting to see that going to MC might not be too bad. Again nothing is guaranteed, it seems like she is giving a shot to work on our marriage. How do I get her to come back home? Or should I just give up?

8 yrs is a long time to throw away just because we have bad communications.

My husband of over 20 years has been good and bad to me. He has taken care of me financially, other than micro-manage my money. He does really nice things for me, but is sarcastic to me in front of others. He can’t go 1 day without talking about me behind my back. I beg him to stop, but he can’t.

Since we first got married, he ran to his parents about any kind of fight we had. They lived next door to us, what a total nightmare. After 4 years of this we moved away, and things got better.

Fast-forward to 8 years of marriage. We move close to his mommy and daddy, but not next door or anything. Once again, any kind of disagreement and he tattle tale’s on me like a baby. They ofcourse pamper him. His dad passes away. Things arn’t as bad, but his mother thanks I’m the skum of the earth still.

1. I don’t drink or smoke.
2. I have never cheated on him.
3. I have devoted my life to my husband & son whom is 19 yrs. old
4. Our son is now addicted to drugs, and my hubby keeps bailing him out of trouble hiring lawyers which doesn’t solve anything.
5. Before our son’s addiction, when my son would hide and smoke a cigarette for ex., my husband would punish him by not speaking to him for weeks to months on end.
6. My husband went overseas. His father wrote every time I would go anywhere, how long I was gone, etc. He would talk horribly about me to my own son. My son just stopped visiting b/c it hurt him to bad. Then his dad would go through my trash and report to my husband if he found something that I had bought that for ex. was in a box. Like a blower for the driveway, electric screwdriver, etc.
7. We do not have any debt what so ever, have a large amount of equity in our custom-built home, own every vehicle in our yard. Obviously I’m not so terrible with our money.

My friend says I just need to pack my things and leave for a few days, or weeks.

I’m contacting a lawyer. I know he loves me, but he also takes everything out on me. I’m the only one he has. When he gets over his temper tantrums he tells me I’m a good wife & he just has problems.

Where does this hell stop?

For 4 months i have dealt with a crippling depression. It really peaked when my wife reached six months pregnant and i became convinced she was cheating on me. I was convinced that i could do nothing right ever and so i just didn’t do anything. I was abusing alcohol and drugs just to keep calm. I slept an four or five hours a night. I never wanted to get out of bed because once i got out of bed I was expected to do stuff. My wife wanted to work out together and i couldnt motivate myself to work out. I couldnt motivate myself to do anything. She had to keep house and basically run everything for us because i wouldnt do anything. I was constantly on edge ready to explode about everything. I thought she wasnt showing me love and didnt respect me. Torwards the beginning of August i started hurting myself. Running headfirst into concrete walls, punching walls, cutting myself, on many occasions i was close to suicide and talked myself out of it for her and my sons sake. I told her about everything going on and she didnt really say or do much because at this point she had already withdrawn from me. it made me so mad that she withdrew and wouldnt talk to me. Then the serious suicide attempts began after i lost my job. I was smashing my head on the wall until i passed out, my wife had to pull a loaded shotgun out of my mouth, i even tried jumping out of a moving car with her and my son inside just because we were fighting. Then one night we had a big blowup fight when we were drinking. I told her i was leaving and taking our son to her parents house and took him and started walking there. She chased me down and swung at me, missing, and hit my son. I snapped. I told her to swing at me again and she hit me in the face and I slapped her. Then she hit me again and i slapped her again. Then she tried wrestling my son out of my arms and i felt he was in danger so i pushed her down and covered her mouth until her parents showed up. After this i walked away and was going to kill myself. I broke one of my fundamental promises, not to ever hit a family member. and it tore me up. I called her, asking for her forgiveness so it wouldnt be on my soul when i died and she kept me on the phone long enough until the cops showed up. I was arrested and she got an exparte against me. Now she wants a divorce. I have since been diagnosed as bipolar, and i am going through treatment and i am on medication. I feel like i can look at stuff objectively and act on reason and not on emotion. I can tell when i am having an episode manic or depressive and i am able to think things out during these episodes. I love my wife very much and want to patch things up. I believe i can be a loving supportive husband and want to be. Most of all i want to be a good father for my son. She is so mad at me about hitting her that she refuses to go to counseling with me for our marriage and is taking steps to try to make me not love her anymore. I want to show her that I can be different. I know that for months i told her i would change, but this isnt something i could change by myself. Now i am starting to see the path to change i need to take and i want my soulmate to be a part of it. I dont feel like I deserve another chance and neither does she but we promised each other in sickness and in health and i believe i was acting the way i was because of my sickness. Its not that i didnt want to do anything ever, but i couldnt motivate myself too. Idk. Any ideas or suggestions?
edit: I have been clean since the last incident and understand now that i was using those things as a crutch instead of facing my problems. I should have been talking to her about them instead of burying them in a daze
and i am seeing a counselor and a therapist for my disorder and i am going to two marriage counselors, one professional and one religious.

Man Eli I hate U.
And when I think of U.
I think of U as a monster.
And when I do I go eat at Red Lobster.
Trying to keep my mind clean.
Man Eli u were so fuc*** mean.
I’ve had it with all those abuses.
U beat me up so bad and u left me bruces.
Remember that time U asked me to be your wife.
I said no and u threaten to cut my throat with a knife.
Man Eli I was tired living that life.
I was at the mall and I hear my cell phone ring.
I dont answer your call so u can hear my voicemail sing.
Just leave a message after the tone.
I didnt call u back because I didnt like your tone.
When all u cared about is your friends and illegal drugs.
Thats why I didnt like your stupid friends thugs.
When Weed and Heroin made u paranoid.
After that u wanted a steroid.
In our relationship there were emotional and tears.
I was so stressed out I had to drank me 6 beers.
Time goes so fast but I have to let go the past.

i am 24 years old, i have been married for 3 years now, and have been with my wife for almost 6 years. i grew up with a domineeringly religious mother and a very passive father. my mom home schooled me and really ground her beliefs into my head. my wife grew up in a more normal though still very religious home, and still holds fairly strongly to her beliefs. while my wife and i where dating i had some doubts about my faith, but the people around me just said it was normal and would pass. about 6 months before the wedding i began to have some severe emotional issues related to my faith, i found i could barely stand to think of myself as a Christian and yet i felt guilty about this. i started abusing drugs rather heavily, and i wrecked 2 cars in the month before our wedding while under the influence (though i was never charged). the 2nd accident i broke my neck. i never said anything about the degree of the drug problem or the doubts i was feeling to anyone, and my wife and i went through with the wedding. i put my doubts out of my mind, sure that they would subside if i just continued in what i thought was the way i should go.

after about a year i desired to go to school, but the only school with my program was about 100 miles away. i registered for classes anyway, figuring i would stay in a hotel or something for the 2 nights a week i had to be there, and soon found a part time room mate who quickly became my best friend. hanging out with him and other people who weren’t so caught up in church quickly roused that old resentment of religion in me, and over the last 2 years those doubts have grown into a new philosophy. over the last year i have tried to talk to my wife about it, and she has always reacted vary badly, talking about how she felt like i lied to her about what i believe, and then she would go into a sort of denial, acting like it never happened. this fostered a lot of resentment between both of us, and we began to argue a lot. in the last couple weeks i have finally accepted that i cant keep pretending i believe something i don’t. i started a blog (that no one has read yet AFAIK) and started writing about my change in views, to try and bring my thoughts into a more clear perspective. i also confronted my wife about it. she went nuts, she said that she felt betrayed and that i didn’t like her anymore, because i was so unhappy. she said she was afraid i was going to leave her for a friend of mine who i grew up with and had kept it touch with (in her defense i should point out my wife is aware that this woman and i did have feelings for each other when we where like 13, but nothing ever came of it, i told my wife that before i introduced her to this friend about 4 years ago). after my wife calmed down a bit, i explained to her that this had nothing to do with leaving her, that I’ve been angry and frustrated because her reactions have created a hostile environment in our relationship that i cant tolerate anymore, that i need to be able to be honest about who i am and that if i cant do that then this is not a functioning marriage. she conceded that she was wrong, and admitted that i deserve to be free to be myself, but ever since she has been vary cold. we are still doing things together but there is a distance there, and we have decided to go to a counselor. the thing that pushed it over the edge though is that tonight she told me she cant have kids with me, that she wont bring a child into the world to be confused by parents with different views, and i understand her reasoning, but we both really want kids. the only reason we are living where we are now is because she wanted to move close to her parents to have kids, and i wanted kids. i gave up any chance of having my dream job to come here and start a family, and now she is saying that wont happen. i know what my options are, but i’m really confused and don’t know what the right thing to do is. should i give it a shot and see if we can be happy together? or is this the end…
i think my post was too long and some of what i was getting at was too vague. i’m not a christian anymore, i was so burned by it that i want nothing to do with it.

i’m wondering now if we should even stay together, we both want kids, but she says she wont have them with me. i dont think its good for us to both be unhappy because we are afraid to move on. i’m just really confused about how i should proceed.
i don’t think she feels divorce is wrong, i think she is just as afraid as i am of facing life without each other. we have already been together through more than most marriages at such a young stage could handle, and that was before this happened.

i really hope that i dont give the impression that i lied to her about what i believed, i expressed what i was feeling to the people around me as best i could at the time, but then the only way i know how to express it was in terms that someone of faith would use when their faith is feeling weak, it wasnt till a year after we where married that i realized that the problem was deeper, that i was weighing the evidence for my beliefs and they came up wanting. i realized that (for me at least) it was all based on fear of hell and fear of steping out on my own, and thats not how i want to live.
i think it boils down to i was too young to get married. i thought i was pretty mature (i was running a successful business for awhile, i had a big head from that), i though that i new myself and what i wanted and that what i was feeling was the typical waxing and waining of faith that most religious people feel.

in fact i was very immature and my sense of who i am was based on the approval of those around me. i was still like a child in that way
thanx amy that was really good advice.
i really dont think its a rebellion thing though, i was really rebelious as a teenager and this is different. i’ve always had issues with my mom and if it weren’t for my dads health and him not being able to drive anymore i would have cut her off years ago, that was before i even realized how my beliefs where changing.

the one thing my wife and i do agree on is that kids are out of the question now. my problem with the subject is that now that i have forced her to stop denying how i have changed, she doesent want kids with me at all, and i dont want the option taken off the table.

i also worry about how our relationship will be after we have kids. my dad did share the same beliefs as my mom, he just wasn’t active while she was a zealot. my wife isn’t so zealous but she is still a pentecostal, where as i think its all a crock of $#!+

I met this guy and went out with him a week later. We had a lot of fun and really hit it off. I really like him and was highly attracted to him. Two days after the date, he calls me, saying he misses me and asked me to marry him. I thought he was joking at first. But he was serious. Turns out, he was drunk and explains himself 2 days later after that. He says he is really embarrassed, but says again, he wants to get married, and that I fit the bill of what he wanted in a wife. He is extremely attractive and successful and went on to explain he’s lonely and marriage has been on his mind a lot lately. Now, the stunner of this situation is that he already showed me off to his employees and family members as “his lady, his future wife”. Is it really true that guys speak the truth when intoxicated? And now a week later, I havent heard from him after that whole fiasco. What’s up with this guy?

After our 3rd child, my wife started take anti-depressents / anti-anxiety drugs. This may be why she has absolutely no sex drive. Prior to #3, the sex was good. I do love my wife.

Dear Abbey once said “when there is no passion within the marriage, there will be passion outside the marriage”. I haven’t been looking for passion outside, but I finally told my wife that if some came my way, I probably would go for it. Well, I did. Now I’ve got this strong emotional desire for a co-worker. We’ve been friends for over a year, and the three of us have gone out several times.

My wife left for a 2 month vacation with her family, and my co-worker invited me over, and it happened. And it was GREAT! We sat and talked for about 6 hours one night. I have not had that kind of companionship with a woman since 3 years before I hooked up with my wife. Let me be truthful — before the sun came up, we knew each other Biblically.

I don’t want it to end with my co-worker. What should I do?

He signed up for a martial arts class, but after work, didn’t go because he fell asleep, then gets up and wants to use my car, to go to a party. I tell him “no” because he can’t even go to a class that I paid for but wants to go party, and all hell breaks loose because he thinks I’m wrong for not letting him use the car. He is 25 years old, and been 2 months clean from a heroin addiction. Am I the ‘bad guy’ for putting my foot down? My wife, he and I, had a terrible fight over this, as to where I kicked him out of the house (again) after things turned violent. I’m still reeling from the episode and wondering if fellow parents would have done things differently. Thank you for your answers.

Wife had drug problem 4years ago and other charges. Now clean but was arrested again this time sellnig drugs.She has done the rehab,some jail,house arrest, and only had 13 months to go on probation. Now with new charges looking at minimum 5 years jail up to 15 years. We are in early 40s should I wait or let GO???

I’m really talented in bed, but I don’t necessarily enjoy sex all that much. Like once a week is fine by me (I also have a mistress who I deliver to a few times a month). But my wife isn’t really all at talented herself in bed, and is quite large now, so I often consider it a chore.

Anyway, my wife, while she won’t admit it, seems to get really crazy as the week progresses. She’ll start calling me names, cursing all the time, flying off the handle. She gets mad if I even look at another woman. Then I finally give in and put on one of my shows. She is totally calm after, like a heroin addict getting a hit; she even seems to joke about the tawdry women I seem to attract.

But, meanwhile, my wife won’t actually ASK for sex, and pretends it’s just a bodily function. But her mood changes so dramatically after I decide to take her not-so-subtle hints.

Is your spouse like this?

Ok, I posted about this a couple days ago but I am going to state all the truth from what I know..My wife and I were suppose to go to a tavern halloween party just a couple blocks from our home,I got sic the nite before and did not attend,she asked me if she could go with her brother who is staying with us for now,I told her go have fun and be careful,all was good until her son came over to watch tv with me that nite and told me he seen a biker halloween guest and a other women dressed up like a pirate (thats what she was)in the parking lot of the tavern kissing,I did not think to much about it at first but later I did, they both came home together around closing time they were there roughly 5 hrs.she was not heavily intoxicated and seemed happy.she did win best costume.I was upset that she did not bring her cellphone with her so if anything went wrong I could pick them up etc. We did talk about the couple in the parking lot me and her son,she said she did not go outside and said WHAT! you dont trust me! to be expected I know,but she did not talk about the party much at all either the nite she came home,or the next day. I feel there is things not mentioned that occurred by her or her brother. we have been married 7 yrs, I know i got insecurity issues but something here dont feel 100% ok. I guess will see how the next few days go.

My brother in law received a letter in the mail stating he was being charged with intoxicated manslaughter. The accident happen 6 months ago when he was driving back from Dallas Texas to Houston Texas. Before leaving Dallas his wife and him had a 16oz beer. When they were driving back they were talking and he went on the shoulder and his wife grab the steering wheel and tried to move the van back into the lane but she over corrected it and the van flipped over a few times. She was instantly killed. My brother in law was in ICU for a week until he came out of coma. My question is why didn’t they charged him at the time he was released from the hospital? Also the letter said he was being charged but didn’t give a court date. My wife and his mom are very worried. Has anybody gone thru this before? This happen in the state of Texas.

I am ready to live I have a wife and two girls and I am going to detox off of percoset 30 ..I have been snorting 4 a day I have gone to get help with a counselor for the mental part ,but will be detoxing at home…please help with any important info .my wife will be helping me …and please leave the un-needed opinions to yourself this is hard enough as it is…thank you

I deploy to Iraq, 8 months go by with only a few problems here and there, I go on leave and spend more time with family than I do with her, (I appologized) I redeployed after leave and like an idiot spent more time doing other things than talking to her she got upset and we fought for several weeks over it. She then dissappeared on a drug and alcohol binge with friends and some guy, ends up pregnant by the guy and finally comes back, now I havn’t given full details but believe me when I say I did EVERYTHING short of cheating myself to drive her TO cheat, I have forgivin her and we are moving on looking forward to the baby, could you do the same?

My wife was told 5 years ago she had Bipolar.She has post dramatic stress disorder as well as adhd. We have two children. She has been on several medications and nothing has worked. She has recently came clean on many men she has slept with. She was addicted to prescription meds went to rehab.Since then I have discovered she is taking 12 different meds now. Not all are narcotic but she can not seem to cope with day to day life. Me two childeren cant stand to be around her and ask me why i dont divorce her. They are age 9 and 10 and im affraid if i do,she might get the kids half the time. She sleeps until atleast noon each day and im very concerened. Will she ever get better ? Need advice on what to do….

My wife takes drugs to replace the hormones her pituitary gland doesnt make. This gland is responsible for all the sex hormones. So basically she has no sex drive and when she tries to please me which is about once every 2-3 weeks she she initiates with a luke warm offer that is at best not sincere and at worst cold. We are married for two years and considering adopting a child but I am really struggling with the no sex thing. Is this normal for married couples in their thrities that are married only two years? I have a pretty healthy sex drive and although I am not considering ever cheating on her I dont see how I can last in this relationship without a healthy sex life and the feelings of love that come with it.

I still want to work it out. About 9 months ago she started hanging out with a boarder in our house. We have a severely autistic child and it can be difficult for my wife to make friends so I thought it might be a good idea for her to have somone to talk to. She started hanging out in his room a lot with the door open and just talking. She was staying up late talking with his door open and he had a guy that was his friend in there too. I trust her and go to bed. I wake up at 3am and the wife is not in bed. I go to tell her to come to bed and the guys door is closed with the lights off and the bed springs making noise. I cracked the door and the wife is getting banged by both guys! I am in shock and felt betrayed and just closed the door and sat in a chair to wait for her to come out. She comes out after about another half hour and is shocked to see me waiting. She says she is sorry and she just kind of got stoned and did what felt good. This coming from the woman to much
…the prude to do anything more than missionary with me. So I try to work things out with her she tells me it was just a one time thing. But I catch her again and she is stoned other times now. She insists that if I do anything about the boarder she will leave me. To compensate she starts doing things with me in the bedroom that I had always wanted her to do but she was too timid…well she is not inhibited anymore. I kind of let things go on with her going and doing whoever she wanted, part becaus eI felt stuck and part because selfishly she was now totaly satisfying me sexually. This went on for a while and she even started sleeping with women too. Eventually I had a jealous runin with the boarder and he left he left. She has not forgiven me. This also brings a problem, I kind of want the normal marriage back and she says I do not satisfy her since she likes doing more than one guy at once and @nal both things I will not do with her. She also insists on pot which I hate.
The boarder was needed for the money because my wife could no longer work because of my son’s behaviors we could find no one who would watch him. I do not make much money and the ironic thing was she asked me to get a male boarder because she did not feel it was appropriate to have a woman boarder with me being a man.

She did pot in high school and did not do it again(as far as I know) until the boarder incident.

Yes, I do now suspect she had previous affairs(she does not admit to it). When she worked at one company she started working late with no answer of phone and went in Saturdays and sunday to work. But was not bringing home any overtime pay…???

I fear that things are at the point of divorce. We have gone down two seperate paths..