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i have been reading up on signs of an abuser. my ex meets most of those criteria (i was his first girlfriend/wife, so there are no past girlfriends to look up and ask about former abuse there, and he doesn’t drink or do drugs so that is not a factor). most of my research says the abuser will use “playful” force, try to manipulate you into sex, or will try to start or force you into sex when you are tired, ill, or sleeping, etc. these all imply that he would never say no. in my own experience though, he said he didn’t want to because we weren’t married. then we got back from our honeymoon and things got worse. we (somehow!) got pregnant, and then he said he didn’t want to because he didn’t want any more kids. by the end of our marriage i felt like the fattest ugliest dumbest, most useless piece of garbage. so if that isn’t a form of abuse, then what is it exactly?
there were other issues in the marriage as well, as i said i was researching signs of abuse and he shows almost every one. the abuse was physical, verbal, and emotional. research is telling me that sex is something that can/will be controlled by the abuser as well… i am figuring that denying your partner because she didn’t take out the trash or gave a male coworker a ride home, not because you are sick or had a hard day at work, is a form of abuse as well. next, i don’t consider myself unattractive or fat, i felt like that’s how he felt and was making excuses. as far as the gay thing, yes, my friends think he is a closet case, and he dated a girl for 3 days in high school only to prove to his mom he wasn’t gay.

Please dont judge just help me I am with this man I have been with him a lil over a year, things were bad from the start a lil while into it i foung out he was married and I decided to stay anyway he told me he was getting a divorce bla bla bla still no divorce and come to find out he still talks his WIFE! I was fed lies and totaly deceitful this man lies to me straight face. I know FACTS about a few things and nothing is changeing. I am the only one who works and I support him and his habbit now I had suspicions about his habbit little bags and what not now i found a pipe a meth pipe, he denies any use yet i know for a fact! I am crazy I know I dont know what to do! I think he is a binge user I still cant believe I am allowing all this to happen to me, now the abuse he hits me not all the time but it happens he has done some pretty bad things to me, I never saw a man so eager to hurt me physicaly. He dosent work he dosent do NOTHING! I dont know how to ket go! I do care and love him! Why am I so stupid!?? Please tell me I need help i know i want counsling i lost me and my self worth why am i so weak?? HELP ME anyone I dont know what I need. This man cant possibly love me the things he does and says to, but at times he is the perfect man I dont know the difference any more between him being high i think he is nice when he high and mean when he is not so this means he only loves me when he is high! I totaly hate myself I am ruining my life i know i should leave its not so easy easier said than done.
THANKS EVERYONE!!! I CANT DO THIS ANYMORE! I HATE MY LIFE! THANKS TO THOSE WHO WERE NOT SO MEAN!
NO IM NOT ON METH.

I took my wife to the emergency room last night. She’s having difficulty breathing, fatigues easily, and her BP has been all over the place. The nephrologist told her that she is in the beginning stages of acute renal failure. I suspect that she has been abusing Lortab for several months, and I wonder if that might have anything to do with her kidney problems. In the past year, I’ve hospitalized her for opioid detox three times, but she has legitimate pain issues resulting for major surgery complications, making it easy for her to convince several doctors to prescribe Lortab. Any professional insight would be greatly appreciated.

I have a binge drinking habit which is making my life and those around me hell….I have tried allsorts to combat this and never got anywhere… if anyone has any ideas please dont hesitate to answer, I love my wife and children dearly they are my world and without them I would have nothing to live for but Im pushing them further away each time I do this.

every time it happens i feel like ok this time i will suceed ill win over it but i never do, i feel like a weakling…and literally cannot even look in a mirror for all i see is a coward looking back…….a fool who doesnt deserve what he has…. I have the most beautiful woman in the world … in every way….she is everything i need and will ever need…. we have three great kids 2 boys and a baby girl…. i always used to look inside me and say…. im not a bad person…. but now im not so sure…. if i can go and drink in binges of 2 or 3 days and blow money we desperately need…. what am i?

Well 2 years ago, my mum and my step-dad broke up, and not too long after we made friends with this guy Jeff and his son, who lived two doors down from us who had also broken up with his wife. He was a total alcoholic (still is) and it wasn’t long till he moved in with us and his son and my sister hooked up, so they’re living down at Jeff’s old place. Anyways ever since he’s been living here he’s made my life a living hell. He calls me names like I’m stupid, worthless, lazy and tells me I’ve got nothing to live for. Last time we had a fight he was all “I’ve got more money than you”. And so I replied, “So you should, you’re 58.” and so he said “I’ll always have more money than you.” So I laughed and said, “You wish”. I went outside and he followed me (aka stalked), with his fists balled and started yelling at me about this crap. I told mum and she keeps telling me he’s gonna leave soon, but he never does. What can I do to ignore him till I can get the money together to rent a house?

In my book, there is a young girl, about 11 years old that gets abused by her dad. She us getting abused because her dad gets stressed out and becomes an alcoholic after his wife’s death. So he takes it out on his daughter. I need the abuse in her older brothers point of view if that’s possible. And I would like it to be in detail because that would grab the readers attention.
Thank you so much for the help:)

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LOS ANGELES, Calif. – Lindsay Lohan has moved to a substance abuse facility and signed legal papers hiring celebrity lawyer Robert Shapiro to represent her as she prepares to head to jail for violating probation in a 2007 drug case.

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Lawyer says Lohan staying at substance abuse facility
LOS ANGELES Lindsay Lohan has moved to a substance abuse facility and signed legal papers hiring celebrity lawyer Robert Shapiro to represent her as she prepares to head to jail for violating probation in a 2007 drug case.

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Lawyer: Lindsay Lohan staying at substance abuse facility
Lindsay Lohan has moved to a substance abuse facility and signed legal papers hiring celebrity lawyer Robert Shapiro to represent her as she prepares to head to jail for violating probation in a 2007 drug case.

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Lindsay Lohan has moved to a substance abuse facility and signed legal papers hiring celebrity lawyer Robert Shapiro.

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Lindsay Lohan has moved to a substance abuse facility and signed legal papers hiring celebrity lawyer Robert Shapiro to represent her as she prepares to head to jail for violating probation in a 2007 drug case.

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Ok I have a 12 year old girl, and My wife (her step mother) and I had found out last minute that we were to go to a function. my dad and Alchie said he would watch her. when we came back 4 hrs later he was TRASHED he could not see straight and he did not know where he was/what he was doing

Much to my disappointment and my wife’s Shock

I have not said anything to him, he stayed the night because he could not drive. Or make it down the 3 flights of steers and left this am about 9 ish back to his mothers house…

He does not admit he has a prob or that he needs help.

I have already cut all unsupervised access to my daughter by my dad, He is removed from the authorized pickup list at my daughters school, He has 1 OUI/DWI . Probably not necessary but at this point I’m securing her as much as i can..

I grew up in a dysfunctional home. I Survived an Abusive childhood and will Never subject my daughter to what I went through , By 10th grade I had been to more AA meets than
most recovering alcoholics have been to in 3 years, I had to make sure he went. 3 nights a weekend 2 on Sat and 2 on Sunday… (I never went with the “Cool kids” to drink because I knew the road they were heading down and i didn’t want that ride… )
I’ve read the “Big Blue Book” 3 times and can recite any of the hit rock bottom stories..

To put it mildly I don’t drink.

I need to protect my daughter from the affects of alcoholism. She has already had a rough life. He mother broke it off with me and marred/divorced a deadbeat and my daughter was being taken for the emotional ride.

What do i do..

Other than know the i cant do anything does not help. the Serenity prayer just doesn’t work for me

My wife’s ex has a DUI, drunk on duty charges in the military, a court martial conviction for cocaine use last month, is now being kicked out of the military, tells his son he’s a better person and parent than we are by bringing him into his closet and describing each of his medals on his dress blues to him, tells his son he’s overweight and dumb (even though his son is an athlete and a GATE student), he lives with 4 other adults, one of who is awaiting trial for cocaine possession and distribution. His wife and him also have a mutual restraining order for fighting with their neighbors, where the neighbor’s wife ended up in the hospital. Their neighbors testified against him in his court martial and reported the cocaine dealing initially.

My wife is seeking sole custody, supervised visitation for him until he completes drug treatment, parenting classes, and passes regular drug tests. We live in California.

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One of my officemates needs to be treated for cocaine addiction. His job has been totally affected. I think he started using drugs when he and his wife got divorced.

Substance abuse prevention speakers take the topic seriously, but sometimes I wonder just how many others do? I suppose as a substance abuse prevention speaker who knows the pain and torment personally from an experiential level, I am more apt to see the danger in substance abuse and drunk driving.

I grew up the son of a mother (a former high school cheerleader and honor graduate) who was an alcoholic and substance abuser. As a child I saw my beloved mother self-destruct and torment my grandparents as a result of alcoholism and using every drug imaginable. Ironically, my mother (a former drunk driver herself) was killed when crossing the road as a pedestrian when an 18 year-old drunk driver hit her – killing her on impact.

Dead on arrival, police awaited the return of the young drunk driver who left the scene of the accident. Upon returning, the police video (which I later painfully watched) showed the young man crying and screaming, “I can’t live with this on my mind!”

As a former lifeguard and fitness trainer I don’t drink alcohol to this day. Yet I don’t condemn those who do and kindly serve as the designated driver whenever anybody close to me drinks.

After a childhood of pain and hell as a result of substance abuse and drunk driving, I myself was hit and nearly killed in July 2008 by a drunk driver (a two-time DUI offender driving after her license was revoked). The 61 year-old lady barreling down the road in a large Chevy truck, driving drunk at 4:40PM on a Tuesday afternoon, hit my car repeatedly (completely totaling it and nearly killing me) without stopping, attempting to flee the scene of the accident, after which she hit and totaled a parked car before being arrested by police.

For nearly five months I drove numerous rental cars, while battling my insurance company to be financially compensated to purchase a replacement vehicle for my automobile totaled by the negligible drunk driver. Even worse I spent days and nights in hospitals and doctors’ offices receiving medical treatment after the accident for injuries, which still cause me pain and trouble to this day. The added stress and strain medically and financially also negatively affected my marriage, as logistically my wife and I shared the one vehicle the drunk driver totaled.

Personally encountering the crooked and fraudulent business practices of tow truck companies, medical professionals, insurance claims adjusters, and car salesmen added additional aggravation and suffering to my life at a time when I was most vulnerable.

Nevertheless I somehow persevered and battled through it all to stand tall, becoming a voice of conscience to substance abusers, drunk drivers, they who prey on victims of catastrophic accidents, and those suffering through seasons of tragedy turning their world upside down.

I guess God spared my life so I can speak to others.

and the husband who is drunk can also say wrong thngs to the child that can disturb the child?
and the woman must endure…and feel bad and unable to concentrate to her life?

Your body is a magnificent machine – Don’t abuse it

If you take care of your body well it will run smoothly as any other finely tuned machine. But you must make sure you fill it with the proper fuel and service it properly on a regular basis. The proper fuel consist of a daily consumption of healthy food and nutrients

Then your machine will perform more perfectly to keep it running at top performance and help build a stronger immune system. It’s more likely now that you will be able to defend your body against all kinds of sicknesses and serious diseases. You will be amazed of the positive changes that will happen in all your bodily functions.

Now it’s true some people were not fortunate enough to be born with a healthy body. However they still should practice healthy eating habits also. Depending on the severity of their conditions there is always a chance to reverse a serious sickness or health condition. There have been many stories of people experiencing a medical miracle.

It’s a great concern to me that a large percentage of the population has resorted to unhealthy diets. Since the general public is usually on a fast pace everyday they neglect planning regular healthy meals. It’s so much easier to stop on the way home and pick up a meal at a fast food restaurant or stop at the grocery for a processed frozen meal.

Let me encourage you to become more educated about the hazards of fast food, processed food or any food high in percentage of fat, sugar, sodium or any other unhealthy ingredients. You will be totally shocked by what you find out about foods you eat everyday. These types of foods can create adverse conditions within your body. Then the next thing that could happen is you have broken down your defense system and increased your potential for contacting a serious disease or illness.

When some of my friends and relatives began dying or contacting a serious disease at an early age I realized why this was happening to them. It all had to do with their eating habits and other unhealthy practices. Then to make matters worse they succumbed to conventional medicine and became hooked on prescription drugs.

Then it happened in my family the day my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer. On the first visit with my wife to her oncologist I had a heated discussion with him. I wanted to discuss alternative treatments instead of conventional for her disease. He was not receptive to my ideas at all. As it turned out my wife did agree to his treatments without my endorsement.

After that time I vowed I would immediately start searching the Internet and any other places for information about alternative medicine. In the last four years I’ve continued my search and will continue to do so for as long as I’m able.

I now publish my findings in articles I’ve written and submitted to several directories. I also have a health web site, a bimonthly newsletter where I dedicate one page entirely about health issues. Just recently I published a free special report about the importance of a proper diet. I offer it free on my web site. I will also continue to publish special reports on other health topics.

Until enough people become truly serious about taking charge of their own health this nation’s population is going to become sicker and sicker. We are now one of the unhealthiest country on this earth. The government, the medical profession and the pharmaceutical industry are mostly responsible for this situation.

Many people that I talk to about my belief think I’m foolish to believe such things. I truly feel sorry for those who believe otherwise. I can’t understand why anyone would want to resort to taking a great amount of prescription drugs to solve their illnesses. I believe it’s more beneficial to be on a healthy food regime where you can enjoy life to the fullest. My wish is that America will become a healthier nation real soon. I intend to spread my philosophy as much as possible so it will eventually happen.

Copyright © 2007 All Rights Reserved Sonny Julius

The Mayor of San Francisco announces that he’ll enter rehab and counseling for alcohol after it’s revealed that he had an affair with the wife of his campaign manager. Isaiah Washington is undergoing counseling for his use of a homophobic slur. Michael Richards is in counseling for yelling racist epithets. Met Gibson enters rehab for alcoholism after making anti-Semitic remarks when stopped by police for driving while intoxicated., Sen. Mark Foley enters rehab for alcohol after it was revealed that he had sent sexually suggestive e-mails to teenage pages., Reverend Haggard enters rehab when confronted with having a sexual relationship with a male prostitute.

The list goes on and on and on.

Then there are the Lindsey Lohans and Nicole Ritchies who enter rehab for drugs, alcohol or whatever, become ‘experts’ on addiction recovery, tell everyone how their lives have changed, yet within a short amount of time are seen partying, driving under the influence, and acting out.

We read the newspapers, listen to the radio and go online wondering, who is next in the line-up for rehab? Who will come out a few weeks later, write their memoirs, go on the speaking circuit, and tell us to live our lives?

There could be a gold mine in running rehab centers for celebrities that don’t want to take responsibility for their actions and for counselors who specialize in famous people who make racist, homophobic, or any other hate-filled remarks.. There’s probably also money to be made by graphic artists who create diplomas for graduates of rehab and counseling who are declared ‘cured’ of alcoholism, drug addiction, racism, homophobia, and homosexuality.

Rehab is getting a bad name and soon there will be no room for the average alcoholic or drug addict who works hard to stay clean and sober, takes responsibility for their actions, and knows that there is still work to do after the first 30 days.

I’ve been clean and sober for over 22 years and I’ve put a lot of work into transforming my life. One of the first things I learned in AA was that alcoholism and drug addiction are not excuses for injuring yourself or others. Part of my recovery was making a list of people who I had harmed, making amends to them personally and accepting the consequences of my past actions. I didn’t make an announcement to the world and I still don’t think I have all the answers, but I do know a thing or two about rehab.

I realize, for example, that my amends and apologies have to mean something and indicate a change in actions and thought processes. I also know that “apologies by proxy”—when celebrities make inappropriate remarks then apologize to well-known people from the group targeted by the remarks—just don’t cut it. There seems to be no end to well-known people who make racist remarks about Black people and then call Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson seeking absolution, as if they have the power or time to forgive and make such comments ok.

Entering treatment for addiction means you get treatment for your addiction. Any other changes you make are up to you. That also means that.a racist alcoholic, who gets treated for alcoholism can still be a sober racist, anti-Semite, homophobe, or engage in inappropriate behavior.

As a diversity and inclusion strategy consultant, I speak to individuals and organizations throughout the world. I hear racist, homophobic, anti-Semitic remarks from all kinds of people. At the same time, I’m with people who work hard to understand others who are different than themselves, who learn to break through incorrect assumptions and stereotypes, and appreciate the opportunity to interact with others in meaningful dialogue.

Rehab is not the cure for all the -isms or for hate. The cure is education, self-examination and the willingness to get to know people from diverse backgrounds as human beings and understand their lives and experiences.

Simma Lieberman

P.S. The cycle continues: Ms.USA was on Larry King talking about her new self and giving advice after several weeks of rehab.

I am a born again christian with an abusive husband when drank and kind when sobber. this disturbs my faith. Help me help him understand how wonderful I feel when the Holy Spirit finds peace in my heart when he is sobber and kind.