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His second wife Cindy, the daughter of a wealthy Budweiser beer distributor, was addicted to prescription narcotics and even stole hard drugs from a medical charity that she ran. McCain acknowledges that she didn’t want him to run, and only agreed once he promised that she doesn’t have to go to New Hampshire or Iowa.
Source:http://www.realchange.org/mccain.htm

My wife just started going has been for two weeks has been to three meeting per week. I ask hire how they have been and she keep saying that the people are not like her at all and that she just can’t connect. She has found one group that she feel like she fits in and her sister are also in that group. I wonder if her going to a group with her sister will make it so she can open up more or less? She said she has not spoke at any meeting just been and observer and said she was an addict. If she is not talking at the meeting do that mean that she is getting anything out of it? Do most people talk at the meeting? Any insights or advice would be great.

Oh, I know. “Take what you like and leave the rest.”

But honestly, what about the newcomer who gets subjected to this stuff that gets touted as AA principle? “Step Series” are the norm here in South Florida these days, replacing Step Meetings. In these, you get one Worthy (chosen by a committee of Worthies, of course) who “shares” for 13 consecutive weeks at the same meeting. Most of them speak for the entire hour, which reminds me of an alcoholic “sharing” at an open bar. Never mind that conference-approved literature (‘A Member’s Eye View of AA’ actually says “The newcomer is greatly relieved that he does not have to submit to any lectures”. The opening format often says, “If you have had a drink or drug, please do not share…”. Sounds reasonable. But what about ‘Bill’s Story’ that ends with “…every AA meeting is a duplicate of that first meeting at the kitchen table.” Bill was drinking throughout that meeting with Ebby.

Shares from the floor are filled with ‘AA Tradition’ such as “Stay out of relationships for the first year”, or derogatory stuff like, “Your best thinking got you here”. Today (and what prompts this), we had a guy who has 25 years expand on these by saying, “I have learned to make it so that I keep any temptation out of my bed.” Great. You’re chaste. But since when is that shopped by an oldtimer as being a goal to attain? This followed on his smooth talk last time when he gave us a ten-minute dissertation on his “acceptance” that as a Jehovah’s Witness he had followed the answer that came from prayer and so”in spite of temptation”, benignly allowing his wife to die rather than having a blood transfusion and thus “defiling the human body”.

Besides seeing the newcomers indoctrinated or repulsed as the case may be, I myself am increasingly wary when i walk into the door of any AA meeting — at least those which do not take place in a church. Ones in churches seem to be relatively free of this sort of twisted stuff — so I’ll offer that as what might be a useful suggestion to those who have less than my own 13 years.

Your thoughts? And please. Keep it encouraging if you can. I’m just about at that place talked about in the 1st Tradition where “the alcoholic goes back into his cave, thinking how great AA might have been”.

I know. “Don’t Think”. Next…
Great and encouraging post, raysny. I’ve been to World Service to try and signal the disease within AA. It was like that episode of Star Trek: the one with the all-powerful creatures with the big brain-heads and silk robes doing little or nothing but “observing”, if that.

Not their business? How about your last stupendous sentence?

for 8 months while he was seeing the current Mrs McCain and about the current Mrs. McCain having stolen prescription drugs from a medical clinic when she was addicted to pain killers back in 1994?

He then indulges in Alcoholic Drinks

Someone told me that Ann Smith, Dr. Bob’s wife published her journal. Does anyone know the name of it and where to get copies of it?

It is a country song that was popular in the early 2000′s & talks of a young man at a AA meeting that reminds of himself (the singer)& stands up at the meeting and says how he use to be just like the younger man & how he should love his wife a little more & spend more time w/ his kids.I’ve been searching forever please help!!!

Views on McCain’s wife being a addict of prescription drugs and actually admitting to stealing them. Also how do you feel about Mccain being a compulsive gambler?
I feel Mccain’s wife’s addiction is very relevent when her husband the republican nominee tried to cover up the fact that she was stealing the drugs. And the gambling is disturbing because he might not take our money to crap table but I am sure he will find another way to gamble with it in the political sense.

My nephew got his girlfriend pregnant. Her home environment is horrible. She has an open protective services case due to physical abuse from her step father, as well as neglect from her mother, who is a recovering heroin addict. My brother and his wife want custody of their sons girlfriend, but how do they go about doing so? The pregnant girlfriend is still too young to go through emancipation in the state of Michigan.

My mom says that John Travolta’s wife wrote a book about de-toxing for kids, after their kid almost died from carpet fumes?

Anyone know what she is talking about *lol*

Two years ago, she told me a story about getting hit on by a married woman. I was at sea at the time, and she went out with some friends, including the woman and her husband. During the course of the night, it became known that this woman had affairs with other women which her husband approved of, and that she was interested in my wife. My wife claimed she was horrified, but somehow the lady ended up staying at our house that night and wearing my wife’s pajamas. She said she slept ont the couch, stayed there becasue they wanted to avoid driving drunk (but she lived in the same neighborhood) and nothing happened. Since then, we’ve had a kid, marital problems, a lack of sex, and suddenly I remembered this incident and feel like a complete a** for believing it. How should I handle this? I am thinking of asking her point blank. Even if nothing did happen, it wouldn’t be unreasonable to question…
Perhaps she has withheld sex in hopes I would cheat and somehow absolve her of guilt? I have no plans to do this, just trying to figure out what’s going on in her mind…

So basically, it’s this song about a man who is an alcoholic and the only line from the song i can remember goes something like …. told my mother/(or) wife and child that i wouldn’t go near it again.
- haha now i know that’s probably not enough to get any help, and i know this is not how it goes exactly, and probably none of you will have any idea what i’m talking about. but it’s worth a shot to ask..so if you know a song that goes somewhat like that.. PLEASE let me know! :)
a man sings it.. it’s not rap, pop. not really rock either, and i’m pretty sure it’s not country. hope that narrows something down.. HA! sorry..

My wife dated this guy 2 1/2 years before we met. They dated for 5 years. He was her high school sweetheart and they went to college together where she gave her virginity to him and then said that she still loved him when she left him and only did so because he was showing signs of alcoholism. She gave him a deadline to stop drinking and then he blew it but then showed her an engagement ring when she told him it was over. Additionally, she says that he changed so much (because of the booze) that he was no longer the person she loved, but she said she would cry at night because she missed him. She told me that disappeared shortly after she met me (there were 5 other guys in between).

She told me last night that she will always love him in a way. She described it as a, “Oh, we shared something special together” kind of brotherly love.

Should I be worried about this? How do I walk this out in a loving, non-judgmental way? Honestly this kind of makes me feel a bit inadequate and insecure about our marriage. We have been married for a little over a year now.
From most of the answers I’m getting, I guess I need to mention that the discussion came up because we were talking about a friend of ours that has a very judgmental husband. He gives her crap about sleeping around a lot before they got married. My wife told her friend that I handle her past well but not perfectly. That opened the conversation. I explained why I have difficulty with this guy and she explained it to me the way I described. I don’t think I can change her feelings, I just was looking for a perspective on how to not let them bother me and whether or not I should be concerned.

What Mike Vick did was not right, but Leonard Little killed someone(drunk driving)..Lawrence Phillips almost killed his college girlfried and then was drafted like 6th by the rams..Chris Benoit killed his wife and kid and it was in the news for about a week..Is everyone going F#&*ING crazy???

On probation for DWI in tx, almost done, fines all paid off and classes all done with, only 3 months left. I have a suspended license and was driving my 8 month pregnant wife home the other day since she was having contractions and was pulled over in a different county then probation. The cop did not check for my suspended lic seeing as my wife needed to get home/hospital asap. He did cite me two tickets, one for speeding and one for not having a license on me. Can this affect my probation since as it was in a different county?? Does anyone know the laws in texas?

Of course, pro-illegal supporters will be the first to say that “Many more Americans are killed by citizens”. I SAY, those killed by illegals would STILL be alive if the illegal that killed them had not come here in the first place!***********************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************DWI killer of mother, daughter gets maximum sentence
By Terence Corcoran • tcorcora@lohud.com • January 14, 2010
CARMEL — An illegal immigrant who was driving with no license and a blood-alcohol level nearly twice the legal limit when he plowed into and killed a Southeast mother and daughter received the maximum sentence Wednesday of 8 1/3 to 25 years in state prison.
Conses Garcia-Zacarias, 35, who has been held in the Putnam County jail since the June 8 fatalities, pleaded guilty in November to two counts of vehicular homicide in the deaths of Lori Donohue, 37, and her 8-year-old daughter, Kayla. The second-grader and her mother were leaving the girl’s dance class at Seven Stars School of Performing Arts in Brewster when Garcia-Zacarias struck them with a pickup truck.
The act instantly took away half of the Donohue family, leaving Robert Donohue and his 5-year-old son, Christopher, grieving for the wife and mother, sister and daughter they lost.
“Explaining to my 5-year-old son that he can never again hug and kiss his mommy and sister has been devastating to him, me and our whole family,” Donohue told the court Wednesday.
Donohue was accompanied in Putnam County Court by more than two dozen friends and family members who took up four of the six rows in the courtroom.
Lori Donohue’s father, John Luhrs, 70, of Bethel, Conn., also gave a victim-impact statement. He placed photos of his daughter and granddaughter on the prosecutor’s table before looking up at Putnam County Judge James Rooney and saying, “Your Honor: A parent’s worst nightmare.”
Lori Donohue grew up in Yonkers and rose through the ranks at Dorian Drake International Inc. in Harrison, where she worked as a sales manager. Kayla attended JFK Elementary School, played softball and swam. She was a Girl Scout and had been collecting cookies to send to troops in Iraq when she was killed.
Kayla Donohue was pronounced dead at the scene of the 6:35 p.m. crash while Lori Donohue was flown to Westchester Medical Center in Valhalla, where she later died.
In an instant, all of our lives drastically changed,” Luhrs said. “Our hearts are absolutely broken — no, our hearts have been ripped out.”
The deaths grieved and outraged the community and reignited the debate about illegal immigration, drinking and driving, and the hiring of undocumented workers.
RelatedGallery: Man gets maximum in DWI deaths
Garcia-Zacarias worked on horse farms in the U.S. for several years and the white, F-350 Ford pickup truck with Florida plates he was driving that night was registered to Valerie Renihan, a horse trainer who leased the house on Tonetta Lake Road in Southeast where Garcia-Zacarias and several other men were living.
Renihan, whose Facebook page said in June that she was working out of Staysail Farm in North Salem, has said through an attorney that she never gave Garcia-Zacarias permission to use the truck and that he got drunk that day and stole the keys.
Neighbors said he and the other men living in the rented house regularly used the vehicle.
Chief Assistant District Attorney Christopher York said the criminal investigation is open and active.
Rooney said Garcia-Zacarias told a probation officer that he was so drunk the evening of June 8 he did not remember the fatal crash.
Police say he sped down the wrong side of Brewster’s Main Street and barreled through a T intersection at routes 6 and 22. The truck crossed the narrow parking area dividing the road from the dance school building and ran over Lori and Kayla Donohue as other horrified parents, children and instructors stood nearby.
Through an interpreter, Garcia-Zacarias expressed remorse and talked about how his actions have hurt his own family.
“I apologize to the family and I ask forgiveness. It was not my intention and it’s something that could happen to any of us,” he said. “I ask them to forgive me. I have my two daughters over there (in Guatemala) who are also suffering because of this.”
Garcia-Zacarias will serve his sentences on the two counts of vehicular homicide concurrently, or at the same time, as stipulated by the law, Rooney said.
“Do not look to me for forgiveness,” Rooney told him in imposing the maximum. “God may grant you mercy, Mr. Zacarias, but this court will not.”
Garcia-Zacarias faces deportation to his native Guatemala after serving his time.
Donohue said his family would fight any effort by Garcia-Zacarias to shorten his sentence.
“At every parole hearing he has, he will see our faces,” Donohue said

Would Letterman make joke about the fact that Obama’s mother was “knocked up” by a polygamist who was a drunk?

Would Letterman make a joke about the fact that Obama’s father that he worshiped, even though he only saw him ONCE, cut and ran on Obama to return to Kenya to his OTHER wife and die while driving drunk?

This is kind of long, so I appreciate those of you who take the time to read it all. I think these details are necessary so you can see where I’m coming from.

My uncle got married a few years ago to a women he met at AA (yes, Alcoholics Anonymous). My uncle has always been the “screwed up one”. He’s had problems with alcoholism, a coke addiction, keeping a job, and has been in jail a few times. He’s caused problems at past family functions, but he’s been pretty good about it for the past 8 or 9 years or so.

Anyway, it’s his wife that has become the problem. This past Christmas we had a family get together at my cousin’s house (my cousin is my matron of honor). My uncles wife got very VERY drunk. She had a bottle of whiskey hidden in her pocket and was drinking it. We were all unaware of this until later. So she goes and lays down in my cousin’s roomate’s room for awhile. Then she gets up to use the bathroom. On her way out of the bathroom she starts SCREAMING at my mother. She accused my mother of sleeping with my uncle (who is my dad’s brother… we’re not THAT screwed up..LOL). She then repeatedly called my mother a wh*re and other things and then went back and layed down. My mother and the rest of us laughed it off and went back to chit-chatting and what not. She then starting banging doors, yelling and screaming,and calling my mother a wh*re again and again. My cousin tried talking to her and calming her down but it was like talking to a mental patient. This woman had serious dellusions.

So we’re thinking that this women has passed out because she’s gone quiet, but that wasn’t the case. She starts ranting and raving about how my cousin is a horrible mother and that she’s going to get her kids taken away from her. At that point my cousin flipped and tried to kick her out of her house. We ended up having to call the cops and she was taken away in handcuffs.Down at the station, she caused more problems and was held for the maxiumum amount of time allowed. My cousin is so livid over the whole situation and never wants to see my uncle’s wife again.

So I’m getting married June 5, 2010. My cousin is My MOH, her husband is my Fiance’s best man. I DO NOT want my uncle’s crazy wife at my wedding. No way, no how. Not only do I not want it ruined with something horrible like what happend at Christmas, I don’t want my cousin to have to deal with her either.

My question is this: How do I explain to my Uncle that while I’d really love for him to attend, I do not want his wife there? My uncle is my godfather and while he’s a little screwed up, he’s still a good guy. It would crush him not to be invited. I think he might understand if I explained about his wife, because he realizes how screwed up she is and had apologized to us for what happened and everything. He’s made comments about divorce and such, but I’m not sure if he’s really serious or not. All I know is that I don’t want him to be hurt and insulted.

I’m just not sure how to handle this. Does anyone have any opnion on what I should do?

If you grow up in Hawaii, raised by your grandparents, you’re ‘exotic’
and ‘different.’

If you grow up in Alaska eating mooseburgers, you’re an American story.

If your name is Barack you’re a radical, unpatriotic Muslim.

If you name your kids Willow, Trig and Track, you’re a maverick.

Graduate from Harvard law School and you are unstable.

Attend 5 different small colleges before graduating, then you’re well- rounded.

If you spend 3 years as a community organizer, become the first black President of the Harvard Law Review, help register 150,000 new voters, spend 12 years as a Constitutional Law professor, 8 years as a State Senator of a district of 750,000 people, chair the state Senate’s Health and Human Services committee, spend 4 years in the United States Senate representing a state of 13 million people, sponsor 131 bills, and serve on the Foreign Affairs, Environment and Public Works, and Veteran’s Affairs committees, you don’t have any real leadership experience.

If your resume is: local weather girl, 4 years on the city council and 6 years as the mayor of a town of 7,000 people, 2 years as governor of a state of 650,000 people, you’re qualified to be a heartbeat away from the presidency.

If you have been married to the same woman for 19 years while raising
2 daughters, all within Protestant churches, you’re not a real Christian.

If you cheated on your first wife with a rich heiress, left your ill wife, and married the heiress the next month, you’re a Christian.

If you teach responsible, age-appropriate sex education, including the use of birth control, you erode the fiber of American society.

If you staunchly advocate abstinence-only education, while your teen daughter ends up pregnant, you’re a responsible parent.

If your wife is a Harvard graduate lawyer who gave up a position in a prestigious law firm to work for the betterment of her inner city community, then gave that up to raise a family, you don’t represent America’s family values.

If your husband is called ‘First Dude’, has a DWI conviction, didn’t register to vote until 25, and was a member of a group that advocated secession of Alaska from the USA, yours is the quintessential American family.

And, finally, if you’re famous for your quick temper, you’re the one to have your finger on the red nuclear button.

Are you stilll open to ideas about the candidate of your choice? Or, do you shut out opinions about the “other candidate?”

Check this out:

I’m a little confused. Let me see if I have this straight…..

If you grow up in Hawaii, raised by your grandparents, you’re ‘exotic, different.’

Grow up in Alaska eating mooseburgers, a quintessential American story.

If your name is Barack you’re a radical, unpatriotic Muslim.

Name your kids Willow, Trig, and Track; you’re a maverick.

Graduate from Harvard law School and you are unstable.

Attend 5 different small colleges before graduating, you’re well grounded.

If you spend 3 years as a brilliant community organizer, become the first black President of the Harvard Law Review, create a voter registration drive that registers 150,000 new voters, spend 12 years as a Constitutional Law professor, spend 8 years as a State Senator representing a district with over 750,000 people, become chairman of the state Senate’s Health and Human Services committee, spend 4 years in the United States Senate representing a state of 13 million people while sponsoring 131 bills and serving on the Foreign Affairs, Environment and Public Works and Veteran’s Affairs committees, you don’t have any real leadership experience.

If your total resume is: local weather girl, 4 years on the city council, 6 years as the mayor of a town with less than 7,000 people, and 20 months as the governor of a state with only 650,000 people, then you’re qualified to become the country’s second highest ranking executive.

If you have been married to the same woman for 19 years while raising 2 beautiful daughters, all within Protestant churches, you’re not a real Christian.

If you cheated on your first wife with a rich heiress, and left your disfigured wife and married the heiress the next month, you’re a Christian.

If you teach responsible, age appropriate sex education, including the proper use of birth control, you are eroding the fiber of society.

If, while governor, you staunchly advocate abstinence only, with no other option in sex education in your state’s school system while your unwed teen daughter ends up pregnant, you’re very responsible.

If your wife is a Harvard graduate laywer who gave up a position in a prestigious law firm to work for the betterment of her inner city community, then gave that up to raise a family, your family’s values don’t represent America’s.

If your husband is nicknamed ‘First Dude’, with at least one DWI conviction and no college education, who didn’t register to vote until age 25 and once was a member of a group that advocated the secession of Alaska from the USA, your family is extremely admirable.

OK, much clearer now.