How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

I am a Heavily pierced and a heavily tattooed person. One night at home where my wife’s friends were hanging out drinking, one of her friends asked me if I have any more piercings, I replied “yup down here.” She then asked permission from my wife if she could see it. Everyone was a little bit intoxicated and my wife replied it was up to me. Of course feeling a bit naughty and exhibitionistic that night, I decided to whip it out for a few seconds to satisfy the women’s curiousity. Of course everyone was shocked, giggling and curious, I was the talk of the night and so was my wife and they were asking her questions like how it feels during sex and things of that nature. I went to bed and let them be with their girls night out soire. My question is, this particular single friend of hers, that everytime she is intoxicated after this incident would ask me if she could take a “quick peek” at the said piercing. At first I was like “oh what the heck…” Now its like….okay get over it…….

Eugene O’ Neill was born on October 16, 1888. He was the son of
actor James O’ Neill and Ella Quinlan O’ Neill. Because of his father’s profession, O’Neill was sent to several Catholic boarding schools where he discovered his passion in reading (Seymour-Smith 1969). The early years in O’Neill’s life were mainly affected by his mother’s mental illness and her drug addiction and his violent relationship with his father. After being suspended from Princeton University, he embarked at life at sea, where he suffered from depression and alcoholism; during this period, O’ Neill lived as a beggar and tried committing suicide by overdosing on barbiturates. Soon after O’Neill’s parents and elder brother Jamie died which caused O’Neill to turn to writing as a form of escape. It wasn’t until he was diagnosed with tuberculosis in 1912, that he decided to devote himself as a full time playwright (Poupard 156). This turning point in O’ Neill’s life made him become one of the most promising playwrights and helped him start gaining an international reputation by 1920. He received the Nobel Prize for Literature in 1936. O’ Neill had two unsuccessful marriages, one with Kathleen Jenkins, with whom he had one son, Eugene Jr. and another with Agnes Boulton with whom he had a daughter named Oona and a son named Shane (Jensen 163). His third wife, Carlotta Monterey was the one he loved and spent the remainder of his life with. She helped guard his privacy typed his manuscripts until he was forced to give up writing due to his illnesses. Eugene O’ Neill died in a Boston hotel room on November 28, 1953 in great pain. His last days, he was unable to walk or even feed himself sometimes. Not all of O’ Neill’s work has survived, but most of which has are structured mainly on guilt, betrayal, and accusations from experiences in his childhood. “His plays were torn from him, and they contained many grave flaws; but he showed the real grain of life. He was often met with hostile criticism…an apt word used frequently used to describe the effect of his work is “lacerating.” O’ Neill’s play A Long Day’s Journey into Night is regarded as a master piece and is considered one of the greatest dramatic works written by an American. This play of his, is an autobiographical play in which he it resembles O’Neill’s life in many aspects. O’Neill himself appears in the play in the character of Edmund, the younger son who, like O’Neill, suffers from tuberculosis (Poupard 156).

B4 the holidays she as nice and thin like a heroin addict or a cadaver in a prison camp and thats the way I like em. But she started munching like nonstop around Dec 21 and now she is a tower of lard and I cant even see the belly piercing on her anymore. And she just keeps eating. Will this stop after the holidays?

My husband was in an accident a year and a half ago and since then he has been taking percocet and oxycontin. He gets them prescribed from the doctor but goes through them in less then a month and ends up getting more from friends. I try telling him that I notice he acts different but he keep blaming it on the accident, saying that he didn’t ask to get into an accident and that it wasn’t his fault he got into one. When he doesn’t have them he can’t sleep at night because his body aches and he throws up constantly. Im not sure what to do, our close friends notice the change also. I don’t work and we have three small children, im not sure what to say without sounding like a nagging wife. I need help.

Someone told me that Ann Smith, Dr. Bob’s wife published her journal. Does anyone know the name of it and where to get copies of it?

if a judge tells her that she thinks she should stay away from her husband

If a husband does all the handywork as well as works a full-time job, while your wife doesn’t — then there’s no reason for her or anyone on the outside to complain of her cooking and cleaning.

Men do their part. Women should do their part as well. Child-rearing, cooking, and cleaning is not “demeaning” and never was. It contributes to the household and is therefore important.

It’s beginning to look like a lot of women just want a rich Prince Charming man to sweep them off their feet so they won’t have to work or do any chores, so they can just eat chocolates and watch Oprah and soaps all day.

I think fairytale books about Repunzel, Snow White, Cinderella, and Romeo & Juliet should be banned from young girls. Seriously. They grow up to be women with Fairy Tale Complexes that think men were put on earth to bow down to them and worship their every movement and serve their every need. Then they get disappointed, depressed, and binge-eat when they face something known as reality.
Following this reaction, these women then turn into man-haters and femisandrists that then begin to question and complain that “there are no more good men”? Are there really no more good men? Or just no men that live up to your high fairy-tale expectations?
Carrie: Most people don’t “like” chores, but they must be done. Some do actually find cleaning and chores to be a form of stress-release. I know I enjoy cooking because I’m good at it. Men and women grow up doing chores. Deal with it.
Let me also state that these books are detrimental to young boys as well. They grow up feeling inadequate because most likely they will be unable to live up to the impossibly-high standards of being the prince charming that “rescues” women — and it’s intimidating to young boys who grow up trying to be that “knight-in-shining-armor” that rides over the hilly horizon on his white horse. Even though it’s 2007, and not medieval times, it still applies — the white horse is replaced with an expensive car with shiny expensive rims, and the “knight” status is a form of societal status and the “shining” element represents economical wealth and “bling” — all this is used to meet the expectations of today’s Western Woman, all which are nearly impossible standards a man must meet in today’s society.
Trish the Dish: Me stating that the books should be banned is merely “tongue-in-cheek”. I’m well aware that they won’t be banned and can’t be banned. Thanks for missing the point. The point is that parents have the power to not subject their children to such nonsense which unfortunately lays a groundwork for what children think life should be like in their future.

My wife is working on overcoming a sleeping pill addiction need advise. I told her that I wonted a divorce that I could no longer live with the lye and deception. She told me she would do anything to keep me. I told her I wonted her to go to a 30day rehab program she agreed. We set up a meeting with her therapist for later that day. The therapist did not think that she would qualify because she was not currently using and that her problem was not to that level. I said the I would like her to do an out patient program and make some big life changes and relay work on this addiction problem. She said she should start going to 12 steps AA meeting. So my wife stated this she has been going for two weeks 3 meeting a week I wonted her to do 90-90 but after the next therapy session with her therapist she said that in our rural are it is nearly imposable to go to that many meeting that 3 meeting a week would problem be enough. She also thinks that I am trying to hard that I just need to back of my wife and let her do what she feels she needs to do. I wont this to be the most important thing she has ever done I don’t feel that we can get on with our life until this is delt with. I don’t wont to be with her if I cant trust. I feel that is the bases for a successful marriage. Her therapist thinks I am way off the mark and she has been telling my wife that I am to involve in the process and need to back off. I think that the therapist treatment isn’t the most beneficial for the process (she is using unconditional positive regard) due to the relapse that my wife has had. How do I deal with? Is it OK to question what she is doing? I don’t feel that my wife is giving it her all. How do I find the balance of pushing to get results and giving up and walking away? Have you ever been hear? What are your experiences? I am frustrated, confused and tired any advice would be nice

I am interested in others views on this subject. I personally think that these centres have a great plan of action. The flaws are that grouping lots of codependent individuals with each other in a closed ‘big brother’ type environment is creating lots of ‘relationships’ between patients who pair off and enable each other to drink/do drugs again.
I am amazed at how people enter services to do the detox for their husband or wife and kids only to forget them in a few days and start a sexual relationship with another user.
What is your opinion on such services and do you have any better ideas?

My future wife is an alcoholic. She loves to drink, and I don’t. She doesn’t go to bars or anything like that on a regular basis, so that is not my concern. I love her very very much, and we get along fine….right now. We have so much in common, and we love to be together. What is a big piece of it all is that she gets drunk and says things I don’t like. She gets crazy, and I like that, but I don’t like when she is not controlling herself in public. Like flashing her tits at me in WAL MART. Not any concern with me, but you know, kids around and all. It hurts to see her act that way, yet I love her so much.

Just for info…I don’t believe there is anything anyone can do that will ever stop her from drinking.
The reason I said that I don’t believe she will ever stop is because she has been to AA meetings and treatment and everything. But after all of that, she still has to have her beer.
I don’t expect her to change. I do love her the way she is. But will it stay that way or will it change into something that I will regret forever…..

Hello dear friends and gentle R&P. Punch here to say a couple of things about the late Johnny Cash on the anniversary of his birth February 26 1932. Born J. R. Cash, he was an American singer-songwriter, actor,author, and Biblical scholar,who was one of the most influential musicians of the 20th century. Although he is primarily remembered as a country music artist, his songs and sound spanned many other genres including rockabilly and rock and roll—especially early in his career—as well as blues, folk, and gospel. Late in his career, Cash covered songs by several rock artists, among them the industrial rock band Nine Inch Nails.

Hurt

Much of Cash’s music, especially that of his later career, echoed themes of sorrow, moral tribulation and redemption. His signature songs include “I Walk the Line”, “Folsom Prison Blues”, “Ring of Fire”, “Get Rhythm” and “Man in Black”. He also recorded humorous numbers, such as “One Piee at a Time” and “A Boy Named Sue”, as well as railroad songs including “Hey Porter” and “Rock Island Line” and a duet with his wife June Carter Cash called Jackson.

Jackson

As his career was taking off in the early 1960s, Cash started drinking heavily and became addicted to amphetamines and barbiturates. For a brief time, he shared an apartment in Nashville with Waylon Jennings, who was heavily addicted to amphetamines. Cash used the uppers to stay awake during tours. Friends joked about his “nervousness” and erratic behavior, many ignoring the warning signs of his worsening drug addiction. In a behind-the-scenes look at The Johnny Cash Show, Cash claims to have “tried every drug there was to try.”

Although in many ways spiraling out of control, Cash’s frenetic creativity was still delivering hits. His rendition of “Ring of Fire” was a crossover hit, reaching No. 1 on the country charts and entering the Top 20 on the pop charts. The song was written by June Carter and Merle Kilgore. The song was originally performed by Carter’s sister, but the signature mariachi-style horn arrangement was provided by Cash, who said that it had come to him in a dream!

Ring Of Fire

His support of contemporary Pop and Rock artists was something that never changed throughout his long career. From 1969 to 1971, Cash starred in his own television show, The Johnny Cash Show, on the ABC network. Cash enjoyed booking more contemporary performers as guests; such notables included Neil Young, Louis Armstrong, Kenny Rogers and The First Edition (who appeared a record four times on his show), James Taylor, Ray Charles, Eric Clapton (then leading Derek and the Dominoes), and Bob Dylan.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uRx-5RCImAM

Johnny Cash & Bob Dylan – Girl From The North Country

Cash had met with Dylan in the mid 1960s and became closer friends when they were neighbors in the late 1960s in Woodstock, New York. Cash was enthusiastic about reintroducing the reclusive Dylan to his audience. Cash sang a duet with Dylan on Dylan’s country album Nashville Skyline and also wrote the album’s Grammy-winning liner notes.

Johnny Cash’s late period recordings with Rick Rubin, provided Cash with some of his biggest critical successes and releases from these sessions continue til this day!

this is a remarkable video!

Gonna Cut You Down

anyways, this leads us to the tribute question of the day
Would you care to leave a favorite song or words of tribute to this remarkable man?

in honor of Johnny I posted this deep in the black of night, please feel free to star this tribute to keep it going if you would be so kind

Many thanks

I’m at my wits end. My wife who takes medicine for severe depression, anxiety and bi-polar recently went to the Dr. because of back pain which she has had for some time and was told it’s mostly due to her weight (100 over weight). She went and had the 3 series of shots injected into her back and the Dr. gave her pain pills to help until the shots took over. I found out 2 days ago that she called her Dr. for more pain pills and he refused to refill the prescription because he gave her 120 pills 10 days ago, and I believe she had 30 pills about a week prior to that, so 150 pain pills in 15 days. I’m not sure what to do anymore….Help!!

Marriage A:

Frequent fighting. Husband has attacked wife numerous times while intoxicated, requiring medical attention.

However, husband and wife spend a lot of time together and can be very loving toward each other.

Marriage B:

Very little fighting, just chronic, low-grade hostility. Rarely talk about important things, or anything at all. Appear to hate each other.

Rarely spend time together.

I still want to work it out. About 9 months ago she started hanging out with a boarder in our house. We have a severely autistic child and it can be difficult for my wife to make friends so I thought it might be a good idea for her to have somone to talk to. She started hanging out in his room a lot with the door open and just talking. She was staying up late talking with his door open and he had a guy that was his friend in there too. I trust her and go to bed. I wake up at 3am and the wife is not in bed. I go to tell her to come to bed and the guys door is closed with the lights off and the bed springs making noise. I cracked the door and the wife is getting banged by both guys! I am in shock and felt betrayed and just closed the door and sat in a chair to wait for her to come out. She comes out after about another half hour and is shocked to see me waiting. She says she is sorry and she just kind of got stoned and did what felt good. This coming from the woman to much
…the prude to do anything more than missionary with me. So I try to work things out with her she tells me it was just a one time thing. But I catch her again and she is stoned other times now. She insists that if I do anything about the boarder she will leave me. To compensate she starts doing things with me in the bedroom that I had always wanted her to do but she was too timid…well she is not inhibited anymore. I kind of let things go on with her going and doing whoever she wanted, part becaus eI felt stuck and part because selfishly she was now totaly satisfying me sexually. This went on for a while and she even started sleeping with women too. Eventually I had a jealous runin with the boarder and he left he left. She has not forgiven me. This also brings a problem, I kind of want the normal marriage back and she says I do not satisfy her since she likes doing more than one guy at once and @nal both things I will not do with her. She also insists on pot which I hate.
The boarder was needed for the money because my wife could no longer work because of my son’s behaviors we could find no one who would watch him. I do not make much money and the ironic thing was she asked me to get a male boarder because she did not feel it was appropriate to have a woman boarder with me being a man.

She did pot in high school and did not do it again(as far as I know) until the boarder incident.

Yes, I do now suspect she had previous affairs(she does not admit to it). When she worked at one company she started working late with no answer of phone and went in Saturdays and sunday to work. But was not bringing home any overtime pay…???

I fear that things are at the point of divorce. We have gone down two seperate paths..

It is a country song that was popular in the early 2000′s & talks of a young man at a AA meeting that reminds of himself (the singer)& stands up at the meeting and says how he use to be just like the younger man & how he should love his wife a little more & spend more time w/ his kids.I’ve been searching forever please help!!!

My wife and i had a fight earlier today because she thinks i am over protective of my son like possessively protective but i disagree. My wife is my 2nd wife because my 1st wife became an alcoholic shortly after our son was born so i divorced her and got custody of my son well when she had our son over for one of her visitation she got drunk and sent our three year old son to the hospital for a week. So yes needless to say i am very protective of my son and my wife is pregnant with a baby boy and today she just i guess noticed or decided to bring it up and it caused a fight. She thinks i need to let her adopt my son and she thinks i need to be less protective of him but i do not agree. Advice? I wont let her punish him i wont let her take hi places i wont let him play around a lot

how do i celebrate?.. fattening breakfast at the cafe?.. $1,000 tattoo?.. mid-day binge drinking?.. suggestions?.. suggestions?..

by the way, i took the day off work so i could go to the closing… i just wanted all of you who are working right now to know that…

PARENTING PARENTS
As Mary grew up, her parents had a happy marriage, and both held down well-paying jobs. Both parents suffered from alcoholism and smoked, but in most other ways, they were good parents. They always attended school functions and generally provided for a sound education, her good health, and her happiness. In high school, Mary dealt with some anxiety about her parents’ health by attending Al-Anon meetings to help her understand their addiction. She was comforted by her parents’ ability to continue functioning well despite their addiction, and Al-Anon’s suggestions for dealing with their choices.

After Mary left for college, however, she noticed changes in her parents. When she came home winter break from college, she noticed that her parents had new prescriptions for strong narcotic pain medication for “back pain,” which they had never suffered from before. They now used the medication as an additional intoxicant with their alcohol, and often in excess of the recommended dosage, clearly in violation of the warning labels. Mary felt as though her parents were abusing the drugs, and brought this up with them. They replied that there was nothing wrong with the medication, that it was legally prescribed, and that they had no intention of quitting use of the drug.

Over time, she noticed that their prescriptions increased in quantity and potency, and she became increasingly concerned. During summer vacation, she noticed that they would take the medication first thing in the morning, and continue taking it all day long. One morning, her mother forgot to take the medication and was sick by lunchtime. Mary felt certain that this was a side effect of strong addiction, and that something had to be done.

Mary was worried about how her possible actions might affect her relationship with her parents. She was concerned about the effects on her older brother, his wife, and two children. She knew that her parents were active in the community and at church, and she didn’t want to damage their reputations. She also wondered whether her parents’ doctor would even discuss their health with her given current privacy laws and doctor-patient privilege. Additionally, Mary was concerned that, if her parents lost a legal source for the medication, given the addiction she suspected they suffered from, they might seek similar drugs on the street which would be more costly and much more dangerous.

What should Mary do about her parents’ apparent abuse of and addiction to prescription drugs and alcohol?

I’m a quite prominent dentist in my area. I hit my wife who called the police on me. They took me to a detox cell (it was a weekend, so I wasn’t working), now I am facing possibly having my dental license suspended for 6 months AND losing my wife. I need suggestions on what I can do. I have a lawyer…but I need to win her back… and keep my job.

Suicide on TV condemned in Britain

By GREGORY KATZ, Associated Press Writer Gregory Katz, Associated Press Writer – 15 mins ago

LONDON – The scene is difficult to watch, even for viewers inured to the subject of dying by a steady diet of violent Hollywood and television fare. Craig Ewert, a former computer scientist from Chicago, is shown lying in bed with his wife at his side while he takes barbiturates. He asks for a glass of apple juice to mask the bad taste and help him swallow. Then he uses his teeth to turn off his ventilator — and dies on camera.

Britain’s obsession with reality television reached new heights — or depths — Wednesday night with the broadcast of the assisted suicide of the 59-year-old terminally ill American at a Swiss clinic.

Showing the final moment of death had long been a final taboo, even for no-holds-barred British TV, where sex and violence are common, and the broadcast unleashed debate on an issue that strongly divides public opinion.

The rest of the story is on this link if you want to read the rest of this story.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20081210/ap_on_re_eu/eu_britain_televised_suicide