How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

casue of death listed. he was seperated at time of death but still legally married- how can i obtain the autopsy report without going thru wife. we are not on speaking terms. very bad situation… would love any help thanks in advance

Of course the obvious answer is to quit, and maybe I’ll have too… I’ll explain.

I don’t drink a lot, in fact it is extremely rare that I get even slightly intoxicated. But I do like to have a few beers on the weekend. I never go out drinking with “the guys” at bars like I did when I was single, because now that I am married I believe that can be trouble, and I dont want her to worry. So like now, I’m just watchin TV and having a beer like I usually do on Friday night (fun, huh?).

She denies it when I confront her with it, but there is always such disaproval in the way she acts when I drink. Which is strange, because when we met she drank a lot but rarely does now. I still like to though, and I am responsible about it. I never drive if I’ve had even one drink, I don’t get stupid and i have never ONCE said or done anything negative to her while drinking. Am I right to stand my ground and be myself, or should I stop drinking to appease her?
yeah it wouldn’t be that big of a deal to stop, I guess I just feel like I’m being molded or something haha. I’m a engineering student, and after a particularly mentally exhausting week it is nice to have a few to unwind.

Yes, I do take her out, try to include her. Tonight I took her out to dinner, and she did have a beer.

Definately not a religious thing, she’s not religious at all… alcohol is a touchy subject in this country, I’d rather stop drinking than to cause serious problems in our marriage; but at the same time I don’t think it’s healthy for our marriage if I just give in to her whims all the time.
Awesome advice everyone, thanks. BT, yes she used to drink heavily when she was a teenager/early 20′s and it got her into a lot of trouble. That is a big part of why it bothers her. I was raised by parrents who always drank responsibly, so I guess that’s why i dont see the problem with it…. again, thanks everyone.

My wife of 12 years started working in a bar last year. She has become friends with a young, party crowd, and we’ve had some rough times over the course of the year. (See only other post).
One of her friends from the bar is getting a bunch of people to go to Key West next month for her birthday. I’ve become good friends with this girl too. Initially I was invited, along with this girl’s boyfriend. I just found out 2 weeks ago that I am no longer invited, and neither is her boyfriend. Apparently, only girls and gay guys are invited now. Initially, I was hurt because she’s been talking with us about how to celebrate her birthday for months now, and in fact she’s even asked me several times for ideas. First I was invited; now suddenly I’m “uninvited”.
I’m really not comfortable with my wife going on this trip. I’m not a contolling guy, but considering what we’ve been through, I think this is a really bad idea. This job has definitely put a strain on our marriage. For a while it was like she was trying to relive her youth. She would go to bars with her friends after work and not come home til 6am. A couple times I had to go into work late because I had to take our child to school when she was too drunk. I also caught her lying to me many times about where she is and who she is wife. Call me old fashioned but I think a husband has a right to know where his wife is a 4am.
She is very flirty and fun when we go out. One time several months ago, when we were out with some friends at a bar, I saw her making out with a total stranger. I freaked out. She said she was drunk and trying to get the guy to hook up with her friend. She said he asked to kiss her, and she let him. When I looked over, they were making out. I was devastated.
I finally put my foot down and threatened a divorce if things didn’t change. She has been honest with me recently (from what I can tell), and we are finally starting to get over our issues. Now she expects me to be fine with her going on a drinking binge in Key West for 3 days.
Initally, I was going to do something even more fabulous that weekend, but the financial reality set in. It would be too expensive and not worth it. Also, we have a son so I would have to find someone to take care of him.
Any suggestions on how to handle this situation? Should I just turn my head and hope everything is ok when she goes on this trip?

In the book it says that Keetah comes back to the village, but when i was doing a little more research it says that a man and his soon to be wife leave the village and go to vancouver. It also says that she becomes a prostitute and dies of a heroin overdose. HELP I’M CONFUSED!!!!!!!

I’ve always told my husband everything and I never had the need to hide anything from him until recently when two events happened and he ended up telling his friends about it.

My mom overdosed on prescription drugs and she was admitted to the hospital. She is not a drug addict, she’s an old lady who doesn’t read labels. Anyways. I told my husband to keep this under wraps because people might interpret it the wrong way, and guess what? One of his friends comes up to me and asks me how my mom is doing. I was furious with my husband. After I specifically told him not to tell anyone about this, he went and told people I barely knew.
I don’t care that he talks, what got to me is that he would talk about something I really wanted to keep between us.

Another scenario happened which I wont go into details, and I told him not to say anything only because I want family affairs to remain private. Guess what? Another one of his friends comes up to me and tells me he is sorry that event happened. It was nothing shameful, nothing to hide. Its something I didn’t want anyone knowing because family affairs are meant to stay within the family.

I am sick and tired of him running his mouth after I specifically told him not to say anything.
I would hate to start hiding stuff from him because he can’t keep his mouth shut.

What bugs me the most is that his brother divorced his wife because she cheated on him. He told me to keep that under wraps and not say anything. I haven’t said a single word to anyone because I want him to know he can tell me anything.

How is it fair that he wants things to remain private when it comes to his own family, yet has no respect for me or my family when it comes to keep family affairs private.
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Please help me. What do you think I should do

our daughter is 14 now and in the 8th grade…10 months ago we found out that she had been smoking pot since the age of 12 (at least that is as far back as she will admit to)…she has step sisters that are 20 and 21 from my wife’s prior marriage…those girls didn’t live with us, but with her ex husband since we have been together…those sisters are in and out of jail…they are the ones that were giving our preteen pot…i told them to stay away from our daughter and if i heard they were giving drugs to our daughter again i would have them locked up!…well, our daughter a few months ago had used my home office computer for a school project…she left a pile of papers on my desk…one of the papers had drawings that she did of pot leaves “4:20 for life” get high, etc…it also had pictures of mushrooms she drew all psychedelic in style…i was very shocked, and worried…i brought it to the attention to my wife…we sat down with our daughter who of course denied that she was doing any drugs and that she just draws those things because, “i don’t know!”…i wanted to do a drug test on her, but the girl threw a tantrum, screaming and crying and the mom would not let me go get her drug tested…(i know, why don’t i grow a pair and be the man of the house right, but there is no harmony in this house if i do…?)…well, our daughters cell phone has been acting up, so i tried to fix it this morning…i got it to be able to turn back on…i looked at her pictures on the phone and i found 2 recent pics of her smoking a joint!…this just makes me sick to think she is doing this stuff at such a young age (well at all!)…are daughter does have school problems and definite behavior problems…how can i get her to stop doing drugs?…how can i get my wife to stop putting her head in the sand when it comes to our kid?…i tried before to get our daughter into counseling and get drug tested, but the kid throws tantrums and denies everything and the mom falls for it…what do i do?…i have to add that our kid has von willebrands disease which is a blood disorder…she is on medication for this…i am very worried that her doing drugs will harm her more because of this…plus, i really think the girls is prone to depression and is very moody, and defiant…how can i think that the drugs can’t be causing these things?…

I took my wife to the emergency room last night. She’s having difficulty breathing, fatigues easily, and her BP has been all over the place. The nephrologist told her that she is in the beginning stages of acute renal failure. I suspect that she has been abusing Lortab for several months, and I wonder if that might have anything to do with her kidney problems. In the past year, I’ve hospitalized her for opioid detox three times, but she has legitimate pain issues resulting for major surgery complications, making it easy for her to convince several doctors to prescribe Lortab. Any professional insight would be greatly appreciated.

my son was told by his wife’s attorney that she will get the house because she can prove he is an alcoholic

I get mixed signals. She’ll watch it with me if she’s a little intoxicated, but hates it when she’s in her normal mind. (She’s not an alcoholic) I do show her I’m interested in all ways. I hug, kiss her, compliment her, but I also like to look at porn, and sometimes like to draw nude women from photos only. Am I just a normal guy?

March 13, 2007 –Our White House Press Corps sources report further disturbing news about President George W. Bush. Our sources have witnessed a clearly inebriated Bush approaching members of the press corps and making rude comments, including one particularly crude remark about First Lady Laura Bush. In that case, Bush, nodding toward Laura, called her a “c**t.” While Bush’s drinking is no secret to the White House press contingent, that particular comment was reportedly the worst they have heard uttered by Bush. Our sources also report that Laura Bush’s stays at the White House are less frequent and that her overnight trips to the Mayflower Hotel often coincide with the president’s drunken binges.

Note: Some of our female readers were shocked to see the “C” word in the above news item. This editor wants to make it clear that word was used by George W. Bush to denigrate his wife.
Wayne Madsen Report
Ask the White House Press Corp. The news is spreading like wildfire around the country.
The press is the least of the President’s problems. He’s in over his head and is given anything he wants to fail again and again. Relish in news no one has because Reporter Girl is abusing the free speech system. Report her!

My brother in law is battling a heroin addiction. He voluntarily spent 30 days in rehab but relapsed as soon as he came out. Is there any way my wife or her family can get him court ordered rehab in massachusetts even though he is 23? we have heard of a section 12 or 13 order but cant seem to find info on it. please help as we don’t think at the rate he is going he will reach 24. If no such thing exist in Massachusetts what about Florida as my wife and I live in Florida so we may be able to get him down here if such a law exist in Florida.

Im about to put this lie to rest because im sick of hearing it. Ayers was born in 1944. In the 1960′s he was into the wild and radical activities. In the 1970s he was a fugitive running from the FBI. Obama is only 47. So you do the math. When Ayers was actually into these radical activities Obama was only a child and early teenager. Obama didnt even know this man back then. Today Ayers is a professor of education and a Senior University Scholar at the University of Illinois. He is a graduate of the University of Michigan, the Bank Street College of Education, and Teachers College, Columbia University. Bill Ayers, the university professor and brilliant author is no longer a bomber or radical. That was decades ago. Like I said Obama was a child. Ayers has articles that have appeared in Harvard Educational Review and many more. Please see the links for details. Now In the mid-1990s, Ayers and his wife held meetings at their Chicago home to introduce Barack Obama to their neighbors during his first run for the Illinois Senate. So Obama is actually connected to a brilliant man. The 1990′s is when Ayers wrote all those brilliant articles and books.

Ayers used to be a radical 40 years ago. Cindy McCain used to be a drug addict addicted to pain pills. She was investigated federally for stealing pain pills from a medical charity she headed and for having prescriptions filled in the names of the charity’s employees. She admitted it. But is she now? No she is not. She is a women with a family and the wife of a senator. Some people have a negative history that change for the better.

Mc Cain and Palin need to tell truth. Obama didnt even know that man during his radical times. That Maveric and Joe-6 pack Palin need to come up with something else. They have 4 weeks to do it.

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http://www.talkleft.com/story/2008/3/7/2303/06115

Wife has been in rehab twice in past 3 years and has attempted suicide 2 other times. She was awarded temporary custody. I am seeking full custody due to wife’s addiction. She leaves baby with her mother who has also had drug problems. Wife’s mother also abused her severely her as a child. Consequently,she was in a number of foster homes. Wife is defending mother, stating that abuse occurred 25 years ago. Yet wife never allowed her 2 other children by a previous marriage, now 14 and 16, to stay with her mother. My attorney tells me that nothing can be done until our court date in March. I am desperate. Please help with any suggestions. Thank you.

my wife and i have been together for about a year and a half. she told me she cheated on me a while back while i was out of town. i’ve always told her that cheating on me was the one thing i wouldnt stand for but, i forgave her. she’s an alcoholic which lead to her cheating, basically she got drunk and well, you can figure it out. i told her she needed some kind of therapy/detox.rehab whatever, but she never tried to make an effort to get help. recently she’s been hanging around drinking with friends of hers from work which i told her if she wants to do that i’m cool with it as long as she calls and tells me what she’s doing and where. i’m not a prison warden and i dont want to have to make her check in with me but i figured if she’s gonna go out drinking with a bunch of people i dont know i’m entitled to know whats up. the other night i got mad at her because she’s been hanging around this guy from work an awful lot. i’ve met him and he seems ok but c’mon, i dont know this guy and what he’s like. so we fought and she left. when i got home last night all her stuff was gone. was i wrong to confront her about it? i forgave her for cheating but was still pretty upset about it. and resentful. thanks!

Here is the issue. My soon to be ex husband lives a 1000 miles away and communicates with the kids though phone and skype (webcam). Lately he has not been setting up times to do this on the scheduled days. Then he text me saying Him and I need to work on our communication for the sake of the kids. ( seriously how do I need to help him, I use to text him to set up times but my counselor told me I need to stop doing that and that he needs to take the responsibility) He says a lot of things that do not make any since and is just all over the board. One week things will be fine for contact with the kids then the next week it is not. His behavior just really weird. I asked my counselor if he is just stupid or if he is crazy.
side notes
-his dad became an alcoholic after he left his wife
-he has totally screwed up his life by everything he has done in the last 7months
So, my question is how can I tell if I never see him or I am never around him. Obviously the only reason I care is because of our kids one is 3yrs and other is 6months. They have no way of telling me something is wrong with daddy.
it is in the court order that he skype and or talk to them twice a week. My parents keep telling me I need to cut him off and tell him no. Oh, and he did not move away he is in the military and we lived there and he told me to move out and go live with my parents. (man what an ass, looks horrible when I type it!)
I do not want my kids to hate me because I cut their father out but it seems like he is causing more harm then good.

We now know the code names that the Secret Service has given to the Obama and Biden families. As for the President-elect, his new code name is Renegade. Michelle Obama is Renaissance.

Daughters Malia and Sasha are Radiance and Rosebud.

Vice-President-elect Joe Biden was given the name Celtic and his wife Jill is Capri.

My guess:
George: Idiot
Laura: I’m-with-stupid
Barbara: Inebriated
Jenna: Intoxicated

My wife and I have been together for 4yrs (married 2) and I made the big mistake a few days ago. She does not know about the incident and will MOST likely never know unless I come clean. The down and DIRTY of it all is that we (my wife and I) were at a party at some friends place, she left early and I stayed behind when it all happened a few hours later. During the heat of the moment I had the reality check and I said the classic “I cant do this line,” and drove home (another poor decision being extremely drunk.) I realize it was my fault for even being in the situation. I have never had a one-night stand or come close to cheating on any of my 3 prior partners. I am 26 and like to binge drink on occasion (not after this though.)

I considered myself a Christian up to now and have been reading the good book to find my solution. I feel like it is my sin to bear and that if I tell her it will only relieve me of my guilt and put an unnecessary burden on her. Any advice?

my son’s father is a pathalogical liar and uses his children as pawns in his chess game of…getting attention from women, lying, cheating, etc. he’s has a serious selfish problem. he and i were together for six years and in those six years he subjected his children to at least 2 other women and their kids. Now he’s attempting to subject my son to his “new” girlfriend who he met in AA. she’s a pediatric nurse mother of three and a Narcotics Addict. the last girl he cheated on me with thought he lived alone and had this little old dog, for a year he lied to her and continuously took his three kids (one of them, my 3 yr old son) over to her house. While in wal-mart one day, his oldest son, Jamesy asked him, “Daddy, why do you lie to lizzy about where we are going? Daddy why do you live with lizzy when you are seeing Dawn” he told jamesy, “i promise james, i’ll quit cheating on lizzy” at the same time he was buying flowers and asked jamesy to give them to dawn so it looked less romantic and cuter. she bought it. she and i met when he finally checked into detox. Alcohol is just one outlet of his manic ways. he’s up right now and living in vegas “acting” like he’s a changed man. But he’s left two voicemails in the last week and i can tell he has been drinking again. he’s now got his new girlfriend harassing me over texts. i want him to have “supervised” visitation if any at all. right now his eldest son is in counseling at school. he’s 9. he has panic attacks over his dad. he loves his daddy but his daddy has asked him to lie and keep quiet about where they go etc. he’s tells a good lie. i’m afraid the mediator will give him unsupervised visitation when he comes to visit from vegas. we’re in illinois. what are the chances that i can prove he subjects his children to immoral situations. what do i have to do to get my ducks in a row to prove his judgement is impaired. do i need statements from past women, his ex-wife, his eldest son’s school counselor? right now it just looks like we’re all angry women. but i’m trying to protect my child from being hurt like his eldest brother is hurting. HELP.

My ex-wife Penelope is a sturdy, thick-set, no nonsense woman who left me due to a gambling and heroin addiction, both of which i have mostly recovered from.

I have now become aware that she may be polluting the minds of our two children, telling them both that i am no good, i’m a womaniser and racist, and an abuser of women and children, (all of which is mostly untrue).

How do i convince them their mother is lying to them? Both my children are 43 years old.

A friend of mine is trying to decide what to do. In early 2008 he married a lady with a history of drug abuse. He knew she’d been in trouble with the law but thought everything was taken care of BEFORE he married her. And when he married her she was clean and even doing lectures against drug abuse in schools, etc. He is a very nice and decent man….doesn’t even drink.

Anyway, AFTER he married the lady he finds out she has more charges against her and she gets put into jail. Long story short, she will be doing a solid three year stretch.

I have been seeing this guy as friends only. Going to movies or out to eat, etc. He told me that he doesn’t know how he is going to handle this and doesn’t want either of us to be hurt. So we haven’t done “the deed.”

However, he acts like he is really crazy about me and he knows that I am a decent woman. Also, he has went so far as to kiss me. Now, I’m starting to get very uncomfortable. I mean, I like him. I liked the kiss. But he is still married. And I don’t date married guys.

Do you guys think he will divorce his wife or wait the three full years? What would you guys do if you were him?

I’m treading very lightly in this situation and not letting myself get emotionally attached.