How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

My buddy lives in Houston, TX, and he was charged w/ misdemeanor & convicted back in 2004 for assaulting his wife, (2′nd marriage.) In 12/2006 he was arrested & charged w/ 2′nd misdemeanor – assault/bodily injury f/ assaulting wife, (2′nd marriage.) Bond set @ $5K, he paid $500 & released from jail. He received a 3′rd charge (FELONY) – assault w/deadly weapon in 2/2007, (2′nd marriage.) Bond $$ for the 2′nd misdemeanor was enhanced to a FELONY @ $50K. He was charged – 3r’d time (FELONY) in 2/2007 – assault w/ deadly weapon, (2′nd marriage.) Bond set at $0 bond. He’s still in jail. Arraingment is set in a week or so in court.
NOTE: He’s been in jail & prison in the past, i.e. possession of drugs, selling drugs, traffic tickets, welfare fraud, bad checks, domestic violence/1′st marraiage. I think his fate will depend a lot on the prosecutor, judge & criminal history. So, what’s the likelihood he’ll get probation or end up in prison? If he goes 2 prison, what’s the min/max time?

Wife and I have been married 7 years.
Son is 4 years old (4.5 like that matters)
Wife had condition which made sex difficult/ impossible for the last 2 – 3 years
Wife had a complete hysterectomy in April 2010
I had a right orchiectomy June 2007, this actually boosted my libido (I had a lot of pain due to nerve damage from previous surgeries)

Wife has offered divorce 3 times I turned her down.
Wife has said that I should buy sex (common thing in Japan with “delivery health”) not really my thing.
I offered to take drugs to lower libido (drugs have nasty side effects as well as not available in Japan)

Wife’s libido is 0 and has been for years, kissing etc even pretty much out.

I have polled my friends and the response was to ” hope/ pray that I can reconnect wife to sex”

Marriage counseling is not available in Japan (bilingual and in our area, it is only really Osaka, counseling is not even big in Tokyo)
Having wife’s hormone levels tested is out as she is happy with her system the way it is now and an endocrinologist is EXTREMELY difficult to find

Looking for other options that I might be overlooking.
Right thanks.

Ok. she works full time and I look after the house, child.

I do all the cleaning, laundry, cooking, shopping etc.

I also run her bath, buy her treats, massage her when there is time and buy her clothes.
Oh yeah grandparents are no where near here. One set live in Canada (16 hours by 3 planes) or near Tokyo (2.5 hours by plane)

My divorced sister-in-law started dating a guy who just happened to have dated my wife about 10 years ago. It was a pretty rough relationship he had with my wife. He got into drugs and my wife tried getting him out of his situation. They broke up and years later her sister wanted to date him. My wife, now disgusted with him, warned her about him but she didn’t listen and dated him anyway. They started and stopped about 3 times based on arguments, him cheating on her and finally him going to jail after beating her. She also claimed in her police report that he had nonconsensual sex with her but he was not charged for that. He served his time and low and behold less than a year later they got back together and are now engaged. She claims (as she did before) that he’s changed and is in counseling and took anger management classess…woopty doo. The family is against this relationship especially for the sake of her kids (from previous marriage…forgot to mention that). They are 8 and 9 years old. This gets more awkward every minute of the day. Her sisters, mom, dad and everyone have discussed their displeasure of the relationship with her but she just says “you guys don’t know him.” She says we have to forgive him and we say fine, whatever he is forgiven but needs to move on. I can’t believe he even would want to stay in this relationship with everyone hating him so much. Why not just move on himself? He thinks he is Romeo and can just buy things, remodel her kitchen, be a playmate/attempted father figure to her kids and everything will be alright (fyi…her ex-husband/kids father is still around and has the kids every other weekend or so. they didn’t get along but he never beat her). What else is left to do? It doesn’t seem like she will ever listen. We are becoming the “bad guys” when we all know who the real “bad guy” is.

I used to be the most patient man alive. Then, I had two children. Now, my patience is completely gone, GONE! I love my boys dearly, but the two of them have drained my soul of patience and it’s starting to effect my marriage. I blow up with just a simple question from my wife. She feels like I’m attacking her. I’ve just lost the slow, calm, detailed side of myself to this short fused and angry man inside of me. I exercise regularly, I eat healthy foods, I rarely drink alcohol, dont do drugs. I’ve seen a therapyst before and he handed me a worksheet, like I was in grade school – not for me. What do I do now? How can I get my patience back? Anyone have any suggestions?

instead of focuing on make other countries good focuse on their society i aint no hater but im just saying
in my personal opinion i think that their society is messed up
kids grow up without fathers or moms
divorced couples 70% and its increasing(im not judgin but its a fact)
gay people think they were born gays
hookers proud of what they do
porn is everywhere
they use the F everywhere to anybody even on tv even old people
morals decreasing slowly
sex before marriage
lack of religoin.fake media,lying presidents
ppl in office who defense kids rights when they chat with them online privately
ppl in office have gay sex in public bathrooms like teenages kids in high school
pregnant girls everywhere , drugs in schools,messed up marriage e.g. ” im his wife but i still sleep with others maybe girls maybe guys”
sex jokes on national TV
they have no respect to people religoins or holy books
grandpartens go to strip clubs
lack of education about other countries
its not only me
its not only me who thinks that
loook at this Q

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aiap_Bi8ndKAo2kZyOnNA3JIzKIX;_ylv=3?qid=20071115001201AAR9cAV

i swear i aint a hater but they took saddam coz hes bad how about a poltician sleeps with kids?
or president sleeps with another woman?
well just because u have freedom doesnt mean you have use it in a bad way. you dnt mean you have to use the F word on tv. dont you have mannors?ofcourse not cause ur society doesnt teach u that does it ?

okay to make a long long story short as possible ..my hubby and i have 2 kids together and he has 2 from a previous marriage we have all 4 kids full time ..recently we were arrested on drug charges stemming from being framed by the man who molested our kids…well his ex wife is trying to get custody of the kids now and i wanted to know what u think our chances of keeping them are ..heres the facts of the case DCS is siding with us and the older 2 kids were NOT here when the drugs were found they were with their mother also the mother owes us 21,685 dollars in back pay child support the kids also told the counselors that she smacks them in the mouth (they have a busted lips) and lets them watch very scary movies with nudity (they are 8 and 11 yrs old) her husband drinks everyday and his parents have been convicted on drug charges .me & the hubby have no criminal background be4 this what do u guys think? she was already proven unfit by the court once back in 1999
MAYBE SOME OF YOU DONT UNDERSTAND THE STATEMENT INNOCENT UNTIL PROVENT GUILTY READ THE STORY I SAID THE DRUGS WERE PLANTED IN MY HOME MY THE MAN WHO MOLESTED MY CHILDREN ..YES MY KIDS WERE MOLESTED AND THE MAN WHO DID IT WAS IN MY HOME AND I DIDNT KNOW IT WHILE I HAD MY SON IN THE ER BUT SINCE POSSESSION IS 9/10TH OF THE LAW IM BEING PUNISHED BUT THATS A TOTALLY DIFFERENT SUBJECT AND NOT EVEN THE QUESION I ASKED ON HERE …BUT THANKS FOR BEING SO QUICK TO JUDGE PPL

Fox News loose millions after dozens of advertisers pull there adds after Glen Beck called President Obama a racist.
Does Glen Beck have the right to call President Obama a racist?
Take a look at Becks history first!
Glen Beck born in Settle, Wa. 10 Feb 1964 to a Christian family. Raised in Mount Vernon, Washington a small town about six miles north of Seattle. His family were long time members of the Ku Klux Klan Bellingham, Wa. chapter in the 9th district.
He started his first job in radio while attending Sehome High school in Bellinghan, Wa. but was fired when his responsibility’s with the Ku Klux Klan interfered with his job responsibility this causing attendance problems.
After going off to Yale he became dependent on drugs and alcohol before dropping out of college. Drug used were cocaine, marijuana and crack. He doe’s claim to be free of drugs and alcohol at this time.
After two girls and a very violent marriage, his first wife divorced him.
In 2000 he denounced the Catholic Church and converted to Mormonism, around the same time he claimed to no longer be involved with the klan but refused to denounce them. With his second wife he took on two step children one adopted child and had another child of his own 30 April 2006.
After years with CNN he started with Fox News in 2009 where some say he is free to openly attack minorities.
Does Beck with his history as a racist and former or possibly present member of the Ku Klux Klan have the right to call President Obama a racist?

My bro has 2 children w/ his wife. Both recovering drug addictics (oxycontin). They’re marriage is in severe trouble. I seem to be the only one that any of the parties (him, her, & each family) can open up and talk calmly to about it. No1 else can talk to each other without screaming. I heard my mom talk to my sister in-law today and say the most hateful things that I never thought she was capable of. I’ve heard my sister in-law (who has been a great friend for over 10 years) say hateful things to and about my bro & family. I’ve had my bro tell me that he’s getting better, then his wife calls me 1hr later & says he’s about to commit suicide. My bro (18.5 months older) is my best friend and few siblings in the world r as close as us or have been through as much together. Every1 inside the situation is losing it & all think I’m the best 1 to talk to him, her, mom, or anyone. But every1 is telling me “the truth”, but all truths conflict with each other & what I see 1sthand. What can I do?
the children are young – 1.5 and 3. I went down there to watch them last summer while my bro was in rehab. My sis-in-law is going through treatments now getting pills called suboxin… they are both so unstable and my bro is so freaking manipulative of everyone, but everyone somehow thinks they are above his manipulation.
He got committed to the hospital tonight, but I’m afraid she will make things worse for him while he’s there. I know she wants well for him… but I know that, if she’s not on OCs, she not far from them. I HATE OXYs WITH A PASSION!! SO MUCH!! John, your high school sounds like mine. I graduated in 02 (my bro in 00, sis-in-law in 01 – we were all in the same crowd), and I know that she’s so unstable and might be going around spreading her instability to other addicts, and then the oxy-addict grapevine gets started and worse and worse and worse… but for now, I just found out he’s in the hospital, so that’s a relief.
Its so hard to tell someone the cold, harsh, truth when you think it will drive them to suicide, especially when the only other person they have is their drug-addicted wife (who is recovering but is INCREDIBLY UNSTABLE). And it’s like the two families are pitting themselves against each other. And her family and my family have been intertwined long before children were born or my brother got together with her in the first place. Her cousin was my brother and me’s best friend since middle school, and he’s a drug addict too (I’m not POSITIVE about that, but pretty sure – I do know that he’s an alcoholic). So each family is convinced that the other is crazy, and each one sees me as the only stable mediater. It’s too much pressure… everyone has a different version of the truth… everyone wants to know what someone else said to me because they know I went to talk and help someone else… I don’t know how I made it out of that circle w/o becoming an addict and still loving all those ppl

So my parents r getting a divorce, my mom doesn’t want to, but my dad says he has never really loved my mom like a wife, and the marriage just won’t work out. I at first was really upset, but then I thought about it and realized that my dad could move closer to my friends, and I could see them more, so the divorce isn’t as bad for me. Its still bad though. But I’m worried that my parents will start drinking or doing drugs, or will be suicidal and depressed, especially my mom because she really loves my dad. Can u help me somehow?
my dad still loves my mom, just not as a wife… so maybe they can stay friends…

I’m 36 yrs. old, have 3 kids, was married before for 20 yrs but it was a real rough marriage and I was never truly happy from the day I said, “I do”! My fiance is 30 yrs. old, has full custody of his 3 kids, was married before for 5 yrs and got a divorce because he found his wife was using drugs and cheating on him. Anyways, my parents and my g-ma keep telling me I should wear any dress at my wedding the second time around or people will stare at me like I’m crazy. Are my family members being old fashion or are they right?

My buddy lives in Houston, TX, and he was charged w/ misdemeanor & convicted back in 2004 for assaulting his wife, (2′nd marriage.) In 12/2006 he was arrested & charged w/ 2′nd misdemeanor – assault/bodily injury f/ assaulting wife, (2′nd marriage.) Bond set @ $5K, he paid $500 & released from jail. He received a 3′rd charge (FELONY) – assault w/deadly weapon in 2/2007, (2′nd marriage.) Bond $$ for the 2′nd misdemeanor was enhanced to a FELONY @ $50K. He was charged – 3r’d time (FELONY) in 2/2007 – assault w/ deadly weapon, (2′nd marriage.) Bond set at $0 bond. He’s still in jail. Arraingment is set in a week or so in court.
NOTE: He’s been in jail & prison in the past, i.e. possession of drugs, selling drugs, traffic tickets, welfare fraud, bad checks, domestic violence/1′st marraiage. I think his fate will depend a lot on the prosecutor, judge & criminal history. So, what’s the likelihood he’ll get probation or end up in prison? If he goes 2 prison, what’s the min/max time?

I have been going through some really difficult times with my marriage, my family and myself for some time.
My wife and I have been seeing different psychologists plus we go to two different marriage counselors.
One doctor is strongly convinced that I should be on anti-depressants and so is my wife.

My problem is that my problems are situational, that I dont need drugs – I just need to improve my life. I worry that my Dr. wants me on anti-depressants because it’s an easy answer for him; and that my wife wants me on them for selfish reasons.

The last thing I want to do is change who I am, o get myself to a point where I cant live without them.

Any thoughts?

My wife and I have been through a bad marriage, I did drugs and have had problems in my past that still affect me. She left to go stay at her moms house, She filed a legal separation, but said she doesnt want a divorce yet she wants to see how things go, and she wants me to get my shit together. She says that if I do there is a chance that we can talk about the relationship again. She still says I love you. On the flip side she doesnt want to spend any time with me right now, she says she needs time…She wants to be able to trust me again before we talk about anything. I know what I have to do. She still wears her ring and seems to be home all the time except at work. Im not sure what to think..She wont even give me a time limit.

1.From the sound of it does it sound like I have a good shot at winning her back?

2.Can she still love me and not want to be by me or even talk to me right now?

3. Does it sound like I should just give up hope on her, even though I love her?

The last couple years have been a mess for my marriage and my wife. We have been married 8 years and have a almost 6 year old. A few years ago my wife was in car accident and had some back problems. She took pain pills for a while then I thought she had stopped since no longer saw the bottle around. But she had become addict to pain pills and was still taking them but buying them illegally. Things seemed ok but about 6 months ago. I came home from work and she was not home. She disappeared for about 4 months tell I got a call one late night from police that she was in jail. Come to find out that was arrested for prostitution and they believed she was strung out on drugs as well. When she was released we spoke and I got her into a inpatient drug rehab which she should be out of in a couple more weeks. I have been so confused and thus not contacted her much at the center but understand she is doing very well.

I still love her and both daughter and I miss her very much. But do not know where to go from here. Am confused, angry, upset you name it my emotions run the gambit.

Registered Sex Offender I have read his case. He was charged with statutory rape when he would NOT give up his parental rights. The victim of the age of 15 was his legal wife with her mothers consent. My children are not his children their fathers don’t do anything for them. this man has served 8 years in prison and no one can give that back to him. When people hear that he has to register the first thought is he is a molester. They print the charge but not the report of how the case was built. My daughter father has drug and gun charges but after he serves his time no one else has to know. What about Killers that kill kids they do not have to register if they do their time. The Law is now getting to be so confusing.

Basically, Ive always been average at everything, and rather ugly and shy around women, Ive been rejected all my life and ave neevr had a date or kissed girl. I turned 40 in january, 5 years ago approxmatley i got sick of not knowing and had sex with a hooker. I feel even worse, I mean I have to pay a woman to sleep with me….how can anyone be so undesirable that the only way they can get female contact is by funding some poor womans drug habit? I visited my mum yesterday, and I dont mean this in a sexual way, but t as the closest thing to marriage I have ever felt, a cooked meal, a woman who cared about me, leaving was the hardest thing I ever had to do and I nearly downed a bottle of pill when I got back to my empty cold flat. Im a doctor btw, I make a lo of money but what good are material possesions. My mum always thought I didnt get married because I was too busy wih my job, but thats not true, I try so hardt find love. i broke down in front of her and crie and blabbed about how lonely I was.
What can I do? Is it worth me spending my money on stuff like eharmony and match? Or should I just pay for some female company and acceptits the closest thing I’ll ever have

my ex wife has a known history with drugs and has six kids. She is working over nights and leave her kids with her second ex husband (not me) who also has a known history (and possible current problem) with drugs. Two of the kids are his, and two of the kids are mine, and two are from another marriage. The house is decrepit and the children are being left there for 5 days out of the week. I’d like to look into this farther but can’t due to protective orders. Would leaving the kids with this person for weeks at a time be considered neglect? And would I be justified in calling DHS to do an investigation?

I know this may seem a little childish but my ex-wife has been sending my present wife of less than 2 years, e-mails. These emails are filled with lies and accusations of me cheating, drug use, and physical abuse.. These emails have brought some strain on my marriage now…Is there any legal action i can take???

My sister is going through a divorce (has been for over a year now) and I have to stress that this is not a crazy ex-wife thing. Her ex beat her throughout the marriage and abused drugs, since they have been apart shes called the cops a few times when my niece would come home reeking of marijuana and they said they dont get involved in divorce cases, he had the cops called on him for haveing a party (a few times) and there were minors there doing everything from drinking to huffing stuff the cops took the drugs and left no record nothing he was in a home when a drug raid went down and still no arrest. On top of that everyone from doctors to my sister has called CPS for reasons i will not talk about, together hes been under investigation 7 times not only for my niece but for other girls too… the kicker is that my sister is haveing to defend HER parenting skills to the courts and we cannot figure why, how do i help my sister help herself? What do we do when the cops dont care??

Without giving some long story about all the things that have lead up to this, I really need advice on how to stand up for myself and get out of this relationship. I am 40 and my wife is 38. We have been married for 1.5 years. She had four kids and I had two. She is a recovering alcoholic and drug user. I knew this in the beginning and she was ok. When we got married she totally started to change into the meanest, self centered person I have ever meet. It is always a two way street I know. I have helped with all responsibilities so I do not want to hear that I need to do that. She is irrational and everybody that looks at her the wrong way or says something the wrong way is an a-hole or a B**** and she does it to me also. All the kids in the house, including hers, avoid her at all cost. I have started to worry about my kids coming to our house because I do not want them around that. To add to this she has been taking Vicodin and Xanex and Ambian for the past 3 months but, I am not allowed to judge her on this actions.

I need some advice on how to grow some man berries and tell her that it is over, and take my lumps since it will be all my fault in her eyes anyway. The children that are in this house do not deserve this and I feel like I am letting them down but, I need to be comfortable in my own house and that is not possible with her.