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My wife has two little boys by her previous husband.There father is good to them but he wishes to keep drugs in his life. My wife supported him throughout their marriage and she has for the most part since we have been together. She has participated in his rehab classes, she has given him cash to put gas in his car to come see the kids, even went and picked him up and allowed him to stay in the house to dry out for 3 days. I have objected to all of this and yet the response is that i need to do” whats best for the boys”. Where do I draw the line?

A hospital said that my wife was using drugs based on a preliminary drug screen later after the confirming test it showed that she was negative for all drugs with the exception of a drug the hospital itself administered. This kind of mistake almost cost my wife and I are two little girls, our marriage, her college funds, and eligibility for state aid. I would like to sue them but don’t know on what grounds that would be or for how much.
A hospital said that my wife was using drugs based on a preliminary drug screen later after the confirming test it showed that she was negative for all drugs with the exception of a drug the hospital itself administered. This kind of mistake almost cost my wife and I are two little girls, our marriage, her college funds, and eligibility for state aid. I would like to sue them but don’t know on what grounds that would be or for how much.
Don’t know what kind of lawyer handles this and is there a way to deal with this without an attorney.
I don’t understand how this is a crazy lawsuit and the emotional distress is plenty enough. Plus my wife is not allowed unsupervised care of her children. So it is not an almost she lost her children and I have temporary full custody of them. I’m not trying to get a huge sum of money I just believe that the hospital should not be allowed to do something like this and expect us to suffer for their stupidity

our daughter is 14 now and in the 8th grade…10 months ago we found out that she had been smoking pot since the age of 12 (at least that is as far back as she will admit to)…she has step sisters that are 20 and 21 from my wife’s prior marriage…those girls didn’t live with us, but with her ex husband since we have been together…those sisters are in and out of jail…they are the ones that were giving our preteen pot…i told them to stay away from our daughter and if i heard they were giving drugs to our daughter again i would have them locked up!…well, our daughter a few months ago had used my home office computer for a school project…she left a pile of papers on my desk…one of the papers had drawings that she did of pot leaves “4:20 for life” get high, etc…it also had pictures of mushrooms she drew all psychedelic in style…i was very shocked, and worried…i brought it to the attention to my wife…we sat down with our daughter who of course denied that she was doing any drugs and that she just draws those things because, “i don’t know!”…i wanted to do a drug test on her, but the girl threw a tantrum, screaming and crying and the mom would not let me go get her drug tested…(i know, why don’t i grow a pair and be the man of the house right, but there is no harmony in this house if i do…?)…well, our daughters cell phone has been acting up, so i tried to fix it this morning…i got it to be able to turn back on…i looked at her pictures on the phone and i found 2 recent pics of her smoking a joint!…this just makes me sick to think she is doing this stuff at such a young age (well at all!)…are daughter does have school problems and definite behavior problems…how can i get her to stop doing drugs?…how can i get my wife to stop putting her head in the sand when it comes to our kid?…i tried before to get our daughter into counseling and get drug tested, but the kid throws tantrums and denies everything and the mom falls for it…what do i do?…i have to add that our kid has von willebrands disease which is a blood disorder…she is on medication for this…i am very worried that her doing drugs will harm her more because of this…plus, i really think the girls is prone to depression and is very moody, and defiant…how can i think that the drugs can’t be causing these things?…

Wife has been in rehab twice in past 3 years and has attempted suicide 2 other times. She was awarded temporary custody. I am seeking full custody due to wife’s addiction. She leaves baby with her mother who has also had drug problems. Wife’s mother also abused her severely her as a child. Consequently,she was in a number of foster homes. Wife is defending mother, stating that abuse occurred 25 years ago. Yet wife never allowed her 2 other children by a previous marriage, now 14 and 16, to stay with her mother. My attorney tells me that nothing can be done until our court date in March. I am desperate. Please help with any suggestions. Thank you.

A friend of mine is trying to decide what to do. In early 2008 he married a lady with a history of drug abuse. He knew she’d been in trouble with the law but thought everything was taken care of BEFORE he married her. And when he married her she was clean and even doing lectures against drug abuse in schools, etc. He is a very nice and decent man….doesn’t even drink.

Anyway, AFTER he married the lady he finds out she has more charges against her and she gets put into jail. Long story short, she will be doing a solid three year stretch.

I have been seeing this guy as friends only. Going to movies or out to eat, etc. He told me that he doesn’t know how he is going to handle this and doesn’t want either of us to be hurt. So we haven’t done “the deed.”

However, he acts like he is really crazy about me and he knows that I am a decent woman. Also, he has went so far as to kiss me. Now, I’m starting to get very uncomfortable. I mean, I like him. I liked the kiss. But he is still married. And I don’t date married guys.

Do you guys think he will divorce his wife or wait the three full years? What would you guys do if you were him?

I’m treading very lightly in this situation and not letting myself get emotionally attached.

my son(her step son) is 5 he went to his moms this weekend, my ex called and said he wasnt feeling well and asked me to come get him. I went and got him and he said he felt fine. he told me that his mommy had a guy over and they were smoking something in this galss pipe that spelled funny and that mom sniffed powder up her nose. Anyhow he also said “Mommy says that now that you have a new wife and baby you wont want me there so I mite come live with her.” I asked him if that was why he wanted to come home. He said “Yea I told mommy I felt yucky and wanted to go home” I have custody but she has visitaion every other weekend. She is BEHIND WAY BEHIND on child support and is a heavy drug addict.. I want to take ehr rights away..can I just stop sending him when its ehr weekend, She also calls here while I am at work and harasses Carrie, and did so every since Carrie found out she was expecting
my current wife has been so wonderful to Cayden(my son) he hugs her and tells her he loves her and ask if he can call her mommy instead of Carrie. She says she loves him too and wants me to just take all rights from my ex.

Manchester, N.H. — Another key supporter of Republican presidential contender Rudy Giuliani suffered an embarrassment when he admitted the “serious sin” of at one time calling an escort service accused of being a prostitution ring.

Sen. David Vitter (R-La.), who is Giuliani’s most prominent Southern conservative supporter, was implicated when the so-called “D.C. Madam” disclosed that his phone number was found among the telephone records of the escort service, Pamela Martin and Associates, in a period before he was elected to the Senate in 2004.

This was a very serious sin in my past for which I am, of course, completely responsible,” Vitter said in a statement Monday night. “Several years ago, I asked for and received forgiveness from God and my wife in confession ..and marriage counseling.”

Vitter’s implication in a prostitution ring comes just three days after Giuliani’s former state campaign chairman for the crucial primary state of South Carolina was formally arraigned in a federal criminal cocaine-possession indictment.

After a town-hall meeting in New Hampshire yesterday, Giuliani called Vitter’s admission a “personal matter” for Vitter. Giuliani also defended his own record of appointing qualified people as mayor of New York, though he conceded some were disappointments.

That two of Giuliani’s key Southern supporters have become ensnared in prostitution and drug cases could revive concerns about some of his past New York associates, notably Bernard Kerik. He has pleaded guilty to two state corruption charges for accepting free renovation of his apartment.

This story was supplemented with Associated Press reports.

After over 13 years of marriage, my wife has left and says she wants to be by herself. She has left several times before in our marriage for similar reasons and I have gotten her back. For the past 10 years, she (now 42) has been going through menopause with all that goes with that. The past year has been okay as we have enjoyed each others company and done fun things, even though it has been sex-less and filled with mood swings, etc. I am a christian and love my wife and am having a hard time dealing with the situation. I hate to see her destroy herself, much less our marriage. She seems to exhibit all the signs of clinical depression except for being suicidal (as far as I know). She has tried hormone replacement therapy and uses “happy drugs” to try and help with mood swings, but no help. I guess my question is, how can I get some REAL help for her and possibly save our marriage or should I just take care of myself and hope for the best for her?
To address some issues presented here: I have suggested counciling – she declines, we have been to church together – I still go, she stopped, I have suggested exercise and diet – she agrees, but never acts on it, I do most of the housework and cooking to pamper her – no help, I have taken her on many “fun weekends” away and vacations – no change, I have suggested doctor consults for change in HRT and “happy drugs” – she does not follow thru, she has issues with jobs (changed five times in 10 years), she has issues with her family (arguments with her daughter {not speaking from time to time} as well as her sister and mother and my two grown children. I think the point here, for me is, you can lead a horse to water. Maybe I have tolerated it too long and not been more insistant that she find help. Is there REALLY anything that I can do to help her, I think marriage is holy union of God and am concerned about that, but I am more concerned about her future health-mental and physical.

I am 23 years old male who has had 4 abdominal surgeries.I have been on all drugs even morphine was legally prescribed for me. Now I am healthy and as strong as anyone else. I dont get along with women because my abdomen looks so scary. I look very handsome from outside and girls try to seduce me all the time. I scared the shit out of a girl when I took my shirt off in bed and she left me the same day and my confidence shattered.I will be getting married very soon.I dont know what to say to my future wife about my tummy.I dont want to tell her about it before marriage because i fear she will leave me. Should I go for plastic surgery? Need advice please.

My wife and I have will be married for 2 years this May25. It has been one hell of a streesful time. I have had to come to terms with her drug habit, an affair, and delusional finger pointing in-laws. I work in the gulf of mexico and my job takes me away for long periods of time (usually 7 days). I understand that my wife gets lonely when I’m gone and it doesn’t bug me when a friend or sibling come over to visit. But there are times when she seems to blow me off when I call from out here. My job is highly stressful, I am responsible to keep cranes running which is hard cause they break down all the time when they are used heavily, then the oil company has to pay people to sit around and get get paid to do nothing until I get the crane running again. I am really good at my job and the amount of $$ I make reflects it. My problem is that after working a 15 or 16 hour day covered in oil, dirt, and sweat I would like to call and have a nice conversation with my wife. But when she has company I feel like i’m intruding on her. The other night I called and she was at her sisters’ tattoo shop, which is fine,I asked what time she was gonna be home and she said she was gonna go to her sister’s for awhile (it was 10:30 PM). That really bugged me because why can’t she just go home and wait for me to call. I am a pretty private guy and I don’t like sharing my personal feelings with alot of people so I tend to not open up when I know there is other people around, and she tends to stay closed in those situations too. I don’t think it’s asking that much of her to be at home at night considering I pay all the bills, cook when I’m home, change diapers when I’m home, cut the grass, wash clothes and dishes, and I don’t go anywhere. I don’t go hang out with friends or go to bars or fishing or hunting or weekend trips or anything. My life is my family and work and thats is it. I don’t even drink when I’m at home. about the only thing I do that is for myself is watch the Packers or Saints on TV on sundays during football season and maybe an occasional baseball game on TV. My wife doesn’t have a regular job, once in while she will help her mom’s boyfriend by painting and cleaning a house he remodeled. I really don’t know what to do anymore. Am I wrong for expecting her to be home every night or is that me trying to be controlling?

I am remarried and we have four children together…My husbands ex-wife has messed her kids up and I am trying my best to get them have a healthy life. She has done drugs in front of them and because of that we got custody of them. It makes it real hard to be a family because we are kind of disfunctional because their mom does no wrong…We usually get the short ens of the stick and we do everything for them….Any advice would be appreciated…..Thank You :)

My husband has been sober for several months, until he hung out with his “friends.” The main “friend” was celebrating his birthday…had HIS wife ask me if I was going to LET my husband hang out with the guys…and not to worry she assured me that they were his friends and wouldnt pressure him…. Well, it wasnt up to me wether of not my husband went…which he did. We talked about the drug and alchol use that would be going on prior to his leaving. He assured me he would be fine…etc…

Well, needless to say, he came home drunk and high. He broke the verbal contract. We have been going to marriage counseling due to his alcoholism and drug use…Marriage counsling seemed to work, as I know my husband didnt want me to leave and take our 2 young daughters with me. So, I dont know what to do now. I have a feeling this will continue to happen every so often…no matter marriage counseling or not. Should I leave him? He had been sober for 2 months…and is more spiritual…

but, I think that he secretely hopes to once again be a user of drugs in the future…and that this soberness is only soposed to last a while..until me his wife “gives in” and enables it too. B/c in the past I too drank but am NOT an alcoholic, and did smoke the weed…it was the way I could relate to him without being mad at him, or a way to hang out. But, I am past that. I am no longer a user, and am no longer going to dumb myself down to those levels!

My friend was just released from jail for domestic violence against his wife and drug abuse. His wife dropped all charges and the temporary order of protection and freed him from jail after a week. They are both addicted to perscription drugs. They both deny that they have a problem. They are both in therapy separately but she told him that they couldn’t go to marriage counseling because the insurance wouldn’t cover it. He has been in therapy before but He told me yesterday that he felt he had no choice in going back to her because she basically can make or break him with the charges. She is basically holding the domestic violence charge against him so that he doesn’t leave her. Does this sound like a marriage that will last?

We split because I lied to her about having done drugs. It was casual use, and it was wrong. I’m not trying to justify my crime, but I didn’t spend the rent money on it. Since the split, I have gone to councelling, etc. There has been no further use, and there will be no future use. My wife and marriage are worth far too much to me. I was wrong to do it at all. I love her with all my heart and wish to reconcile very much. 7 months ago, I was served with a TPO for harassment. I found that when your spouse hangs up on you, and you call to ask why, it’s harassment. Because I cannot call, or communicate in any way with her, I have no idea whether she’s divorcing me, just needs time, hates me, or anything else. She also has all of my possessions. The TPO only allowed me 1 trip to our storage to get my things, but was already empty. I do not want a divorce. I have never been unfaithful, even during the split. I believe in her, but I’m not sure how to deal with this, emotionally or legally.

my wife left me because i had a drug problem that i needed help to overcome, i only asked her to love and support me the way i was always there for her. we have 6 kids and out of those 6 i know 1 isnt mine and i have doubts about another, but i never condemned her i stood by her through everything, all i needed was the same from her,but what she said and what she did were 2 different things,but i still love her ,during thanksgiving i visited her and my kids, and she told me how sorry she was, and that she loves me and that she wanted to work it out ,and we ended up in bed that night, well i had to come back 2 reno 2 wrap up loose ends, and after i gave up everything and was leaving, she called and said she changed her mind,and hasnt talked to me since what should i do?

We have been married for 5 yrs lived together for 11yrs she has been staying at her dads for 1 month she wants to move to the bay area with her cousin who is a drug dealer and smokes which she hates im desperate to save our marriage

On the Pineapple Express 2 disc DVD, there’s an extra titled “Red & Jessica’s Guide to Marriage.” I want to know who the actress is who plays Jessica? Cause she looks hella familiar to me and it’s driving me mad. And unfortunately, the character isn’t listed on IMDB so I have no clue where else to look. Thank you for any help!
The character of Jessica (Green/Greene) is not in the actual film (original OR extended version), and is just featured in an Extra on the DVD.

Here is a screencap of “Jessica” I made off of the DVD:

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Amber Heard played Angie in The Pineapple Express, Dale Denton’s high school girlfriend, so she is NOT the actress I am lookng for but thank you.

point of their hating me. I have been pushed, called a b**ch on numerous occasions, excluded from conversations by being told that what they are talking about is none of my business. My husband just lets it go on. Not too long ago I asked one of them if he even loved me a little bit, he answered I want to stick knives in you. My husband drug me out of the room and said it was my fault for asking. My reply to his son was, hay! Lies are being told to family and some of them have been alienated from us because of this nonsense. It is hard to defend yourself against what you don’t know is being said. I had a mild stroke last weekend because of this stuff. My husband chose to use a blind eye and not see what was happening. I have always been healthy and fit, so a stroke is really a surprise. He has taken his children to an expensive hotel this weekend to talk to them. He only saw that what was happening was happening because of an email sent to my daughter by one of them and by some very cryptic messages from his ex. He has only called me one time since he left work at 1 yesterday. I am home alone and still not 100%, he usually calls me several times a day to chat – I don’t know what to make of this stuff. I honestly don’t know what to do. Any help is welcomed here.

i have a 34 y/o stepson and his 2 girlfriends are living in our home.they paid no rent and party alot.one of his girlfriends is knocked up he is in to young girls.he lies and makes excuses for things that he does.he is very inmature for his age.he does work,but all his money goes to drugs and partying.my wife won’t let him grow up and she goes along with everything he does.this is putting a buren on our marriage.my wife won’t go to couseling.i have ask her serveral times to go.i am about to give up.i am disable and my wife does take good care of me.she is a good woman,but lets her son take advanage of her.

My friend is trapped in a loveless marriage to a mean vindictive drug abuser. They have not lived together for two years. They have no children or property together.
If he files for divorce can he be forced to pay alimony and provide medical insurance etc. She has threatened to ruin him financially can she do this. They have been married for five years.

Thankyou.