How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

Archive for September 1st, 2010

Okay, well, there’s actually a few characters I’d like you to name (for a book in my story). First names are all that’s needed. Thanks!

1. Single mother, sort of irresponsible, always with a new boyfriend and occasionally binge drinks, though she isn’t an alcoholic. Not really a very good mother, but she does love all her children. Dark red hair, tall and slender.

2. 18-year-old boy, light, sandy hair, does drugs and used to do alcohol but hasn’t ever drunk since an incident a few years before. Intense and lonely, consumed by guilt but also selfish. (Son of person 1)

3. 20-year old girl, long, curly red hair and bright brown eyes, obsessed with making something of herself and studying to be a psychologist(daughter of person 1, sister of person 2)

4. A male prosecutor who has 3 kids, two boys and a girl, who he loves more than anything, except perhaps his wife. His other daughter was kidnapped and killed, which is why he’s a prosecutor. He loves his job and likes to think he’s making the world safer for his children. However, he has a brother who’s a criminal (theft, DUIs, and assault) but is now out of jail and living on a trailer on the prosecutor’s backyard. He finds out that his brother and wife are having an affair, and his wife wants a divorce and custody of the kids.

Thank you!!!

he has not made my wife and i life very pleasant, overdosed 3 times, had to give him mouth to mouth once for 20 minutes till ambulance came, has been to rehab a couple times, goes to counseling on saturdays, stopped several times. said tonight he has no plans of quitting and doesn’t do as much now. i’ve had enough, what to do
he makes 46,000 last year, is 24, only gives me 100 bucks a week. he made more money than i did last year. i am getting older and apreciate his help with things, but he really doesn’t do much for me, an only child. he started when 18 and i had no idea, should have kicked him out then, i guess. i wasn’t the best example, bad alcoholic and pot smoker, never did heroin though. the alcohol almost killed me and i drink very little to none now for 10 years or more and never to exess
He has been on suboxone for at least 2 yrs. pays for it himself & counseling also. stops the suboxone when he wants to use. he spent 30 days in a good rehab, got out, went to a few meetings and quit going. He is in group counseling now and it’s not helping whatsoever. our life has been a nightmare for the past 5 yrs. Thanks for your answers.

My wife has two little boys by her previous husband.There father is good to them but he wishes to keep drugs in his life. My wife supported him throughout their marriage and she has for the most part since we have been together. She has participated in his rehab classes, she has given him cash to put gas in his car to come see the kids, even went and picked him up and allowed him to stay in the house to dry out for 3 days. I have objected to all of this and yet the response is that i need to do” whats best for the boys”. Where do I draw the line?

I’ve always been the weird child, the one that stops and thinks about feelings, poverty, injustice, and abandoned dogs. I remember when i was little i used to dream that i would buy a HUGE house and then i’d pick up every abandoned grandfather of the streets and i’d help them ..i wanted to save dogs too. Now Im a psychology student, vegetarian and i am a home health care provider for elder people. but in less than a year i’ll get married to my boyfriend and i’ll become another house wife struggling to make ends meet. My family is happy now because i’ll be conforming to the rules of society.. i’ll no longer be the weird child. Now they’ll start asking about kids..when will i have kids..b-day parties..toys.. while i’ll be miserable everyday. I want to join the peace corps so bad….so bad. I want to go to Africa and serve for 2yrs. I want to travel and do adventuorus things..help people! get out of this intoxicating cycle. School-wedding-kids-life gone … i want to do more! they ask me “why r u not excited abt ur wedding?” i do love my boyfriend i do i really do but i dont want to live a normal life!!! help!!!
what should i do???

i know someone that has gradually developed a drinking problem over the past years. this past year it has gotten so bad that the wife has banned alcohol from the house and begged him repeatedly to stop drinking. each time he basically says no problem, then purchases alcohol and hides it all over the house. when no one’s home it’s obvious he drinks because when the wife and kids get back he’s completely drunk. they don’t know where he hides the alcohol so they can’t get rid of it. he has even engaged in dangerous activities as weedwacking while drinking a bottle of rum. when anyone confronts him about being drunk he completely denies that he drank anything. the next day he will admit he drank and promise not to do it again. finally his wife told him she thought he was an alcoholic and needed serious help. he said he was a problem drinker, not an alcoholic, and didn’t need help, just a little more self-control. his reasoning: he still holds a good job (drinking doesn’t interfere with work) and he has been able to abstain from drinking for about two weeks before without experiencing withdrawal symptoms such as shaky hands. the wife still insists he’s an alcoholic…who is right? is he an alcoholic or a problem drinker?

Got hooked on percs and lortab around November of 2007 and in March of 2008 came clean to my wife and parents about the pain killer addiction. Instead of just going through the withdrawl, I looked for an easy way out and started on Suboxone. So I was on Suboxone for over a year and finally on June 30th I had enough and checked myself in to a detox so I could get off everything once and for all. After a month, I finally feel good mentally again, better than I have in 2 years. Problem is the BACK PAIN. As soon as I started feeling good in every way my back started killing me. This has been going on for 2 weeks now. Could this be a lingering effect of the pain killers and suboxone?? Anyone have a similar situation??