How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

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It’s about a dysfunctional marriage: the husband is an alcoholic and abuses the wife; the wife becomes addicted to cocaine; the husband has affairs and the wife’s mental health deteriorates. The novels ends with the husband pimping the wife and the couple living in a seedy motel by the ocean.

How can I make it more interesting? I don’t know; maybe I’m being too hard on myself, but something seems missing.

When she’s doing lots and lots of heroin and you know she secretly wants to bang all of your friends, would you be okay with that?

It’s a drug infused hippie honeymoon, who wouldn’t want that?

I’m asking for my bestie, Jo Jo

His second wife Cindy, the daughter of a wealthy Budweiser beer distributor, was addicted to prescription narcotics and even stole hard drugs from a medical charity that she ran. McCain acknowledges that she didn’t want him to run, and only agreed once he promised that she doesn’t have to go to New Hampshire or Iowa.
Source:http://www.realchange.org/mccain.htm

My wife just started going has been for two weeks has been to three meeting per week. I ask hire how they have been and she keep saying that the people are not like her at all and that she just can’t connect. She has found one group that she feel like she fits in and her sister are also in that group. I wonder if her going to a group with her sister will make it so she can open up more or less? She said she has not spoke at any meeting just been and observer and said she was an addict. If she is not talking at the meeting do that mean that she is getting anything out of it? Do most people talk at the meeting? Any insights or advice would be great.

Why do I get mad when my new wife spends money on her sons, my stepsons?

There real DAD is a total DEADBEAT, never payes child support, never calls, drugs and alcohol.

I have a daughter from past marriage and pay child support!

My wife was younger when she had her boys, now 30yrs old.

I really get mad when she wants to spend money on her boys why?

Money is not a problem, she gets really pissed if I buy my daughter something and not her boys!

Why am I having these raw emotionals, wife was a hooker, stripper before I married her, what is going on in my mind?

Should I stay married, I seem to be really pissed that I am the provider, I am not saying that I am EVIL, I am just really pissed, how could the real DAD be such a loser!

I am a self made success, Why would this DEADBEAT, drop off and not provide for his kids somewhat?

What should I do this not emotional sound for my wife, my daughter, stepsons.

She usually drinks during the day when I am at work and is visibly intoxicated when I come home.

She swore she wouldn’t get fat after marriage, but here we are, a year later and she’s tankin-up. I think she just trapped me to let herself go on an eatin’ binge.

Oh, I know. “Take what you like and leave the rest.”

But honestly, what about the newcomer who gets subjected to this stuff that gets touted as AA principle? “Step Series” are the norm here in South Florida these days, replacing Step Meetings. In these, you get one Worthy (chosen by a committee of Worthies, of course) who “shares” for 13 consecutive weeks at the same meeting. Most of them speak for the entire hour, which reminds me of an alcoholic “sharing” at an open bar. Never mind that conference-approved literature (‘A Member’s Eye View of AA’ actually says “The newcomer is greatly relieved that he does not have to submit to any lectures”. The opening format often says, “If you have had a drink or drug, please do not share…”. Sounds reasonable. But what about ‘Bill’s Story’ that ends with “…every AA meeting is a duplicate of that first meeting at the kitchen table.” Bill was drinking throughout that meeting with Ebby.

Shares from the floor are filled with ‘AA Tradition’ such as “Stay out of relationships for the first year”, or derogatory stuff like, “Your best thinking got you here”. Today (and what prompts this), we had a guy who has 25 years expand on these by saying, “I have learned to make it so that I keep any temptation out of my bed.” Great. You’re chaste. But since when is that shopped by an oldtimer as being a goal to attain? This followed on his smooth talk last time when he gave us a ten-minute dissertation on his “acceptance” that as a Jehovah’s Witness he had followed the answer that came from prayer and so”in spite of temptation”, benignly allowing his wife to die rather than having a blood transfusion and thus “defiling the human body”.

Besides seeing the newcomers indoctrinated or repulsed as the case may be, I myself am increasingly wary when i walk into the door of any AA meeting — at least those which do not take place in a church. Ones in churches seem to be relatively free of this sort of twisted stuff — so I’ll offer that as what might be a useful suggestion to those who have less than my own 13 years.

Your thoughts? And please. Keep it encouraging if you can. I’m just about at that place talked about in the 1st Tradition where “the alcoholic goes back into his cave, thinking how great AA might have been”.

I know. “Don’t Think”. Next…
Great and encouraging post, raysny. I’ve been to World Service to try and signal the disease within AA. It was like that episode of Star Trek: the one with the all-powerful creatures with the big brain-heads and silk robes doing little or nothing but “observing”, if that.

Not their business? How about your last stupendous sentence?

My wife is currently in rehab for alcohol, bulimia, and depression. She has been having problems for years and I finally told her if she doesn’t get help and stop, that I was going to get a divorce. She has now been there for 4 days and I still have no idea what’s going on? I know she’s in detox, but they haven’t told me how long she will be in there. Does anyone know how long someone should be in rehab with these problems? I think she should stay there for at least 90 days, but she seems to think she can get out in a couple weeks. ??????

He laughed when i yell at for smoking reefer, so I beet him with the walking stick, my grandpa beat with me. My wife say it is wrong to do to child, It cant bee bad he only bleeded out a little bit, and smoking the pot is bad for the soul, I don ot want to him be drunk alcoholic!
why swear at me?

my wife is shooting heroin 2 weeks straight now, just found out. she said she does not need to go away. over the past year she has drank alcoholicly, abused cocaine, out all night over and over again. neglects me, and our 2 small children, i feel her insanity has taken over we are all prisoners to her behavior. now that her arms are covered in needle marks, i just want her to go to detox but she won’t. i am fearful to leave her with our 3 year old and 20 month old, does anyone have any suggestions for me. 800′s ? support, advice?

for 8 months while he was seeing the current Mrs McCain and about the current Mrs. McCain having stolen prescription drugs from a medical clinic when she was addicted to pain killers back in 1994?

wife’s maiden name? Bills wife not Bob

Why do I get mad when my new wife spends money on her sons, my stepsons?

There real DAD is a total DEADBEAT, never payes child support, never calls, drugs and alcohol.

I have a daughter from past marriage and pay child support!

My wife was younger when she had her boys, now 30yrs old.

I really get mad when she wants to spend money on her boys why?

Money is not a problem, she gets really pissed if I buy my daughter something and not her boys!

Why am I having these raw emotionals, wife was a hooker, stripper before I married her, what is going on in my mind?

Should I stay married, I seem to be really pissed that I am the provider, I am not saying that I am EVIL, I am just really pissed, how could the real DAD be such a loser!

I am a self made success, Why would this DEADBEAT, drop off and not provide for his kids somewhat?

What should I do this not emotional sound for my wife, my daughter, stepsons.

my wife gain weight very easy, but lately it’s noticeable…and she complained of body ache, headache,tiredness…somebody told her she has body intoxicated ! and after reading some article (from a magazine) everything described in it match her condition,is it right?and where should my wife(or who) go for help?

she walks in from going out on a drinking binge with her friends ,passes gas and tells me to quit whining…….when will I get to go out!…Doesnt she know Iv e been stuck at home ironing the bath towels??

I believe that my wife has a big problem with her sleeping pill addiction. She has been in with her councilor sense November. In December she had a relapse and abused some painkillers she got from a being in a car accident she admitted to abusing them. Two months ago I found her lying to me about money issues and asked her to move out. I wonted her to get real about her addiction so she joined AA I wonted her to do the 9090 programs. She was to clamed she was too busy to do the so she would go to 3 meeting a week witch she did for a while. She also was going to join a gym to work on her weight problem and did but only went once. Last week she only made to one AA meeting. I feel like she is now using again based on her patterns from privies use. I wont her to go to rehab and get her life back together I don’t feel that she is going to be able to straiten her life up with out devoting a very large amount of time to this. Last time I talked with her doctor she told me that my wife would not qualify for rehab that her addiction was not sever enough and that she has been clean for a while. My wife lies to me about once a week, is going to AA but has not made any relationship with the people their, and I believe that she is using again. What can I do to get her in to a rehab program, will she qualify? Why am I the only one who thinks this problem is a big as it is??
she dose have very good ins

I was reading an article, and I found it really sad. A man marries his wife when she was over weight. They have 3 kids back to back, and she gains even more weight. He says he use to LOVE her at her heaviest and didn’t want her to lose any weight. She’s so heavy that she now has high blood pressure, and becomes diabetic. Well she decides to take matters into her own hands, and loses 200 lbs with a strict diet, exercise, and herbs to detox the body. She then has a tummy tuck and a breast reduction (against her spouses wishes). After the weight loss men notice how attractive his wife is. He becomes jealous and insecure. After a very nasty argument he tells his wife he didn’t love her anymore, because she was no longer “fat enough for him”. He moves out and files for divorce.

My question: Would you risk your health to keep someone like that husband happy?

I know I wouldn’t. What’s your opinion?

I made a wish this year – not a resolution, but just a wish. I asked god if he could find me a wife.

The problem is, I’m unsure what a wife or a potential wife would want from me. I’m 45, a little overweight, a recovering alcoholic and have had lots of girlfriends in my life. I wanted to marry the last one, but I screwed it all up by drinking and cheating on her. I never want to go back there again.

I’ve never been married before, and find alot of women are looking for a second or third husband and think that there is something wrong with me.

I did start a multi-million dollar software company, which failed in 2003, but I’m trying again. (I started it in 1987 when i got sober the first time)

What do you think is wrong with this picture. Do you think I’d never find a wife? That’s what I want most from life.

What can I do to make myself attractive enough so that some woman that I’m equally attracted to will marry me?

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