How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

Archive for July 31st, 2010

Hello, one year ago I married the prettiest lady in the county. I met her at a local church. At that time I was in a drug and alcohol treatment center. After my wife found out that I was in treatment she accepted me with open arms. She stated to me that my recovery is her recovery as well. going into the relationship I bagan to use again. My wife found out and thats when things started getting bad in our relationship. My wife supported me through this ordeal of relapsing, and she even started going to meetings with me. I did not show any appreciation for her standing behind me. I began to become verbally abusive to her and her kids. I had the ambition to start a lawn business and she supported me with that. She financed me two trucks in which I still drive, She open up credit cards in which I abused. she also emptied her retirement because of me. On one day four months ago, I came home intoxicated, and high, I hit my wife that night and went to jail. she took out a temporary restraing order out on me. that night was my bottom and I admitted myself back into rehab. Even after taking out the restraining order she still allowed me to come over to spend time with the kids.I took advantage of that and became more selfish and controlling. I would call her a hundred times a day, texting her constantly, never taking no for an answer. She finally told me that she needs her space and time to heal. I did not understand that, realizing that I am currently in recovery and I need time to heal myself. My wife is very pretty, smart, intelligent, loving, and most of all she is a true christian lady. she has a 15 year old daughter and son that is going to be 10 in about a week. I love those kids like they were mine. I would express to them the importance of their education, I talked to them about life issues like a real father would. I spent alot of quality time with them, taking them out on fridays and doing the things they desired to do. I love those kids and I miss them. My wife has been out of a job for almost 31/2 months, the only income she is receiving is unemployment. I have been helping her as much as I can, but I lost my job, now I can’nt help her like I was. We both go to the same church, but she told the officials that she has a temporary restraining order and that we should be attendig different services. now she has totally shut me out of her life. she don’nt answer my calls, she don’nt call me, she may e-mail me if it something importat or she is mad. She is very bitter towards me and I have become afraid of her. she still allows me to drive the two vehicles thats in her name and I still have a few of my things in the house. Today, I am doing good in recovery, I am deeply involved in the church, and I am growing in the word of god every day. I am doing it for me now.These are the questions I need help with, she is not telling me anything like she wants a divorce or what our future will be like, when wiill she talk to me again,? I am giving her space and time to heal, when do I know when to contact her? I Got a part time job this week, do I tell her? What do I do now? I have acknowledge my wrongs and I take full responsibility for what I did. I love her and she is the lady I want to be with for the rest of my life. No one knows how I feel besides God. I truly love her. I just want us to live a joyous and happy spirutual life now. And I want to rebuild what I tore down of hers. She is currently atending co-dependency classes and various other groups. When do i ask her will she attend marriage counseling with me after I finish with my individual counseling? At what point do I give up and file for divorce? Or do I just hang in there? Please help me, i need and want my family back.

This song is a man singing about going to aa and talks about people you hurt the most and at the end of the song his wife showed up at his aa meeting

I just found out that my brother is addicted to oxycodone and has been for over 6 years. (It was perscribed to him for an arm injury and he became hooked.) His wife is leaving him with their two kids, he’s been stealing from our mother, etc. It’s ruining his life and he hates himself for doing it but he tells me he feels as if he will die if he doesn’t take it. He tried a detox program (for three days) but it didn’t work. What can I do to help him? He has no health insurance and no money, and I don’t have any financial resources to help him out, either. Are there any ways I might help him detox at home safely? What resources are out there to help him stay clean afterwards? I am terrified for him.

My roommate’s son is a heroin addict, a wife and child abuser and a convicted criminal. He recently got out of jail for doing time for armed robbery and assault with a deadly weapon with intent to kill. We called his PO when we found out that he was doing heroin (AGAIN), and they’re going to test him when he goes in. I think he may know he’s getting tested because magically, three weeks before his PO meeting (for some reason it’s only once a month, I don’t get it), he ‘quits’. A day after his meeting he’s wasted again. If he ‘quits’ now, and his meeting is 5 days away, will it still show up in his urine test?

I am in now way trying to be antagonistic, however, I noticed that so much focus during the primary elections has been put on Obama for his affiliation with Rev. Wright . After Wright’s rants came to light, people began to judge Obama by the actions of this seperate individual which has resulted in a slight loss of his popularity. However, if the American people are going to judge a candidate strictly by the company that they have kept in the past…why not judge McCain? It is a widely known fact that McCain’s wife was addicted to prescription drugs for 3 years before entering rehab and getting clean. This was WHILE they were married. Basically, McCain’s wife was a drug addict. Why have people not punished him for the actions of his once irresponsible WIFE the way that the people have punished Obama for the actions of his once irresponsible FORMER pastor? Is it a double standard and why? Please not crazy responses just sincere answers.
Good point to the first poster: Also, it has been speculated that she helped speed along the process of him and his first wife’s divorce…that doesn’t sound like a lady with much integrity. Why isn’t McCain’s popularity being lowerd because of his affiliation with her?

I love this woman with all of my heart and would do anything for her, but she is married to my Alcoholics Anonymous sponsor and has two children with him. We are currently seeing each other secretly. I just don’t know what to do, and I don’t know what to do without her. I’m lost and have no way to know what I should do. Any suggestions?

situation 1yr marriage wife wont let go of older kids 17 19 21.i feel like our new start has never began.wife blames me for her kids not being around her well lets see i got set up with a drug charge by the 19yr old and 17yr wont follow home rules.21yr old has her own huspand but still wants her mommy daily. and in the mean time its always my fault.i dont keep her kids away from her but she is always telling them diffrent. i have 3 kids of my own that i dont get to see but i do pay child support on all 3 of them and support my wife and share every thing with her. its so bad that SEX dont even happen in my marriage does any one have any advice other than counseling. try it .

About 5 nights out of the week my husband drinks about a case of beer and stays up very late. (We’ve been married for about a year.) Sometimes I have to work nights and when I come home he is already very drunk. Other nights, like tonight, I try very hard to get enough rest, but he stays up and watches t.v. very loud and I end up staying up most of the night while he passes out snoring and hogging the bed.

Only when he’s drunk do we tend to argue and he slurs his words and follows me around sometimes picking a fight. I try to tell him about it the next day, but he never believes me. I tape record it on my iphone as evidence to back me up when i talk to him now.

It’s another sleepless night for me (he was watching “the hangover” and blasting it over our stereo system) and I have been doing research on how to help this problem and I have found that most people say it is the fault of the wife and that he probably doesn’t like his life.

I try to be good person, I try to have a good relationship with him. He has a job he loves and he makes tons of money. He seems to be escaping his life, but I’m not sure why. I’m not a nagging person by nature and I am very supportive of him and I work hard and I am very good with money. We do both work, but we spend as much time as we can together doing nice things.

I want to fix this problem and when I read that I could be causing it I was very hopeful, because if I am I want to make it stop, I love him and I want him to be happy and I don’t want us to fight or be exhausted all day at work. I love being married and I love him. Please help if you can or if you have any ideas! Thanks!

while driving in washington my ex wife got pulled over while intoxicated. will she be charged with a felony ?