How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

Archive for July 29th, 2010

He is more self centered and secretive I think than while he was drinking. He goes to AA chairs a meeting as well and still hasn’t done half of the steps especially apologizing to the wife who stood by him all this time. Help

Are there any products, like at Trader Joes or Whole Foods Market that offer a good healthy way to cleanse your intestinal tract and detox your system? There is a lot of “products” out there, like on infomercials that cost hundreds of dollars. Im sure there is a better way then what they offer (and probably less expensive). Any tips or recommendations would be appreciated! Im not looking for drug detox system either. My wife came across some late night commercial and it looks like a gimmick, Im hoping to find something better, more reliable, from a reputable place too. Thanks for anything!

It’s about a dysfunctional marriage: the husband is an alcoholic and abuses the wife; the wife becomes addicted to cocaine; the husband has affairs and the wife’s mental health deteriorates. The novels ends with the husband pimping the wife and the couple living in a seedy motel by the ocean.

How can I make it more interesting? I don’t know; maybe I’m being too hard on myself, but something seems missing.

When she’s doing lots and lots of heroin and you know she secretly wants to bang all of your friends, would you be okay with that?

It’s a drug infused hippie honeymoon, who wouldn’t want that?

I’m asking for my bestie, Jo Jo

His second wife Cindy, the daughter of a wealthy Budweiser beer distributor, was addicted to prescription narcotics and even stole hard drugs from a medical charity that she ran. McCain acknowledges that she didn’t want him to run, and only agreed once he promised that she doesn’t have to go to New Hampshire or Iowa.
Source:http://www.realchange.org/mccain.htm

My wife just started going has been for two weeks has been to three meeting per week. I ask hire how they have been and she keep saying that the people are not like her at all and that she just can’t connect. She has found one group that she feel like she fits in and her sister are also in that group. I wonder if her going to a group with her sister will make it so she can open up more or less? She said she has not spoke at any meeting just been and observer and said she was an addict. If she is not talking at the meeting do that mean that she is getting anything out of it? Do most people talk at the meeting? Any insights or advice would be great.

Why do I get mad when my new wife spends money on her sons, my stepsons?

There real DAD is a total DEADBEAT, never payes child support, never calls, drugs and alcohol.

I have a daughter from past marriage and pay child support!

My wife was younger when she had her boys, now 30yrs old.

I really get mad when she wants to spend money on her boys why?

Money is not a problem, she gets really pissed if I buy my daughter something and not her boys!

Why am I having these raw emotionals, wife was a hooker, stripper before I married her, what is going on in my mind?

Should I stay married, I seem to be really pissed that I am the provider, I am not saying that I am EVIL, I am just really pissed, how could the real DAD be such a loser!

I am a self made success, Why would this DEADBEAT, drop off and not provide for his kids somewhat?

What should I do this not emotional sound for my wife, my daughter, stepsons.

She usually drinks during the day when I am at work and is visibly intoxicated when I come home.

She swore she wouldn’t get fat after marriage, but here we are, a year later and she’s tankin-up. I think she just trapped me to let herself go on an eatin’ binge.

Oh, I know. “Take what you like and leave the rest.”

But honestly, what about the newcomer who gets subjected to this stuff that gets touted as AA principle? “Step Series” are the norm here in South Florida these days, replacing Step Meetings. In these, you get one Worthy (chosen by a committee of Worthies, of course) who “shares” for 13 consecutive weeks at the same meeting. Most of them speak for the entire hour, which reminds me of an alcoholic “sharing” at an open bar. Never mind that conference-approved literature (‘A Member’s Eye View of AA’ actually says “The newcomer is greatly relieved that he does not have to submit to any lectures”. The opening format often says, “If you have had a drink or drug, please do not share…”. Sounds reasonable. But what about ‘Bill’s Story’ that ends with “…every AA meeting is a duplicate of that first meeting at the kitchen table.” Bill was drinking throughout that meeting with Ebby.

Shares from the floor are filled with ‘AA Tradition’ such as “Stay out of relationships for the first year”, or derogatory stuff like, “Your best thinking got you here”. Today (and what prompts this), we had a guy who has 25 years expand on these by saying, “I have learned to make it so that I keep any temptation out of my bed.” Great. You’re chaste. But since when is that shopped by an oldtimer as being a goal to attain? This followed on his smooth talk last time when he gave us a ten-minute dissertation on his “acceptance” that as a Jehovah’s Witness he had followed the answer that came from prayer and so”in spite of temptation”, benignly allowing his wife to die rather than having a blood transfusion and thus “defiling the human body”.

Besides seeing the newcomers indoctrinated or repulsed as the case may be, I myself am increasingly wary when i walk into the door of any AA meeting — at least those which do not take place in a church. Ones in churches seem to be relatively free of this sort of twisted stuff — so I’ll offer that as what might be a useful suggestion to those who have less than my own 13 years.

Your thoughts? And please. Keep it encouraging if you can. I’m just about at that place talked about in the 1st Tradition where “the alcoholic goes back into his cave, thinking how great AA might have been”.

I know. “Don’t Think”. Next…
Great and encouraging post, raysny. I’ve been to World Service to try and signal the disease within AA. It was like that episode of Star Trek: the one with the all-powerful creatures with the big brain-heads and silk robes doing little or nothing but “observing”, if that.

Not their business? How about your last stupendous sentence?

My wife is currently in rehab for alcohol, bulimia, and depression. She has been having problems for years and I finally told her if she doesn’t get help and stop, that I was going to get a divorce. She has now been there for 4 days and I still have no idea what’s going on? I know she’s in detox, but they haven’t told me how long she will be in there. Does anyone know how long someone should be in rehab with these problems? I think she should stay there for at least 90 days, but she seems to think she can get out in a couple weeks. ??????

He laughed when i yell at for smoking reefer, so I beet him with the walking stick, my grandpa beat with me. My wife say it is wrong to do to child, It cant bee bad he only bleeded out a little bit, and smoking the pot is bad for the soul, I don ot want to him be drunk alcoholic!
why swear at me?