How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

Archive for July 23rd, 2010

police prove she was intoxicated from marajuana instead of just having it in her system the police searched the car found nothing he smelled nothing i cant even believe she was arrested do we have a good case to get this dismissed or thrown out

and he gets drunk at parties, and snoop dogs in it ?

Hello, I am a 27 year old man who is having major issues with binge eating. My weight fluxuates between 185 to 230 a couple times a year as the problems come and go. I’ve always been a heavy eater but never gained weight until college. A few years ago I dropped down to 185 and that is when the rollercoaster began. My wife, whom I met a little under 3 yrs ago is Bulimic. She has fought the disease for over 10 yrs and is only 24 yrs old. As of now we are binging multiple times per week and cannot seem to get control of it. I find myself spending upwards of $10 per day at the snack machine. We are consuming close to 10k cal each per day we binge. There is much more to this but not enough char. to type it all. She went a whole year when we found out she was pregnant but it recently started up again. Our son is 6 months old and this is hurting us both emotionally and financially. I’m worried about my son’s future. Drs. have not been able to help. Suggestions please. Thanks
There is much more to this situation. I suffer from social anxiety. I take cymbalta for it and when I miss a couple days the urge is uncontrollable. My mind WILL NOT focus unless I binge, this does not mean 3 Lean Cusines but for example chineese take out, two cokes, four pop tarts, and a piece of bday cake ~4″x10″. All gone in less than 10 minutes. My wife is a fitness instructor and their is constant conflict regarding food. This goes much deeper but not going into it. I also suffer from depression Want to stop bad but much easier said than done. When the urges come they take over, you lose control. Control that does not come back from counting to 10, or snacking on something healthy but an annoying hyper, itchy, can’t focus on ANYTHING no matter how hard you try feeling – until you eat until you cannot eat anymore. I have to satisfy feeling this at work to do my job (IT). Then I feel like I’ve taken a step back. Also self concious over weight. 6’1″ 230lbs.
My wife and I both hide this well. We are both very attractive people, her body looks great, mine is slightly overweight. We both always concerned about our looks. We’re both very nice to everyone we meet and very well liked but it feels like we are wearing a mask. People think we are these perfect people but we hide our secrets very well. I know this sounds like I’m tooting my own horn but I’m just repeating what we’ve heard from others. I’m reaching out here because I’ve exhausted all avenues and am very desperate. As my son gets older he will begin to pick up our behavior. I’m confident if we can begin to gain control over this we will be able to start improving our relationship, financial situation and other areas of our lives that continue to degrade.

I am hiring for a entry level position in my company, warehousing. There is an opportunity to move up to higher positions from there. An interesting app crossed my desk and I decided to call him in to interview.

Here are the facts: The man is 46 yrs. old. Limited job experience outside of his former career as a landscape contractor (which he can no longer perform). He has no driver’s license owing to past DWI’s and doesn’t even own a vehicle, though he says his wife is dependable to drive him. He has been on parole since 1993 (from a 1984 robbery conviction) and will be on parole till 2020. He reports twice a month during my normal business hours (I have verified this this info).

On the other hand, the man is educated and does seem highly intelligent, says he learns quickly. He seems sincere, earnest and is genuinely likable with a good sense of humor.

I sort of want to give the guy a break, give him a chance, but there are younger and more experienced applicants. What do you think? Would giving him a chance to make good be the right thing to do in spite of his limitations?.

I do not agree with President Bush on a lot of things, but I cannot tolerate people making up lies about the president either. I just want to know the truth.

I got into a discussion with a certain person that suggested that the president is still an alcoholic, and that his wife plans to leave him once he finishes his term. Evidently, he obtained this information from a news paper. Now we all know that the average news paper isn’t always the most reliable source of information, yet this individual reads the paper as though it were the very Bible. What is the truth? Continuing alcoholic or liberal bs indented to downgrade the president.

After all, the man was drinking and driving, assaulted his wife, and left the scene of an accident. This doesn’t sound like the type of role model that young believers need to be looking up to.

My husband came home with an oxy 40 yesterday (he’s been on a week binge) and I took it from him and told him I flushed it down the tiolet. I asked him to show me I meant more than the drugs. He freaked out about me dumping it in the toilet and I knew his answer. I went to a friends house and left him there to think. We made up and I went home. I didn’t flush it down the toilet and gave it to him after he said I meant more. He just took line after line as I cried in the bedroom. He chose the pill over his wife. What would you do?

Most of the right-wing identifying people I know – and see here on Y/A – seem to really hate themselves.

Of the right-wingers I know – two are alcoholics, one got a DWI and lost his job, another one is a chronic complainer and acts like she hates her kids. Another woman here at work (a conservative, we’ve talked politics) was just complaining about having to buy gifts at Christmas. Another BIG conservative just had his wife (my friend) leave him because he was abusive.

They are just really unhappy, hard to be around people.

Is there something about people in that party that lends itself to this kind of dysfunction?

They talk about family values, and working hard, but none of them do. Its like they WANT to be that way, but have no capacity to do so.

I know I shouldn’t generalize, but it seems to be a pattern. Most democrats (that I know) are much more connected to people and have a lot less emotion issues. At least none of them sit half the day in a bar like a few conservative friends I have.

Any thoughts on this?
@Librals our Reely Smorter:
You proved my point. Instead of explaining what I’ve been observing, you used insults and anger.
@Arnold Slick from Turtle Crick:
Thank you for proving how negative and bitter you are. If you think I’m making this up, you shouldn’t have answered.

I voted for Obama based on his politics and platform. Its strange how you negate people.

Our friends (my co-worker) are having their annual 4th of July party. My wife and I have known the couple and their family for about 3 years. One of my best friends (whom my wife dislikes) has been invited to the partytoo. My wife says she will not go if my best friend is going. She even asked me, “Why haven’t you taken care of this by now?” She wants me to ask my friend to NOT go to the party. I told her it is not my place to tell my friend what he can and cannot do. She has even gone as far as to tell the hosts of the party she may not be coming if my friend is invited. I told her it is not her place to tell someone who they can and cannot invite to their own party.

My best friend is someone with whom I play ball with every week or two, and we will go out to the bars every now-and-then for a few drinks. On a couple of occassions I have gotten too drunk to drive home and my wife has gotten very upset with me. She blames not only me, but my friend for my getting too drunk. This has happened a couple of times in the past 8 months. Once was after my wife and I had a fight. It was the first time I didn’t come back home until the next day. Another was after a going away party for one of my former co-workers.

We are going to my husband’s office party tonight. The owner of the company likes to drink too much and then he goes around hugging and hanging off of all the wives.

How do I handle this awkward situation without having a negative impact?

I went to a concert while on the medication Chantix to quit smoking. I drank two beers and the next eight hours I can not tell you what happened. I got busted eight hours later for DWI. This was just the start of my problems. After I got out I called my work which I have to use a company vechile. I lost the job after 4 years of nothing but high marks on everyone of my performance reviews. I filed for unemployement and am disquailifed for 8 weeks. I talked to the bank and was working out some options to keep my house but now my sewer backed up. To add to all the pressure now my wife’s sales have fell below guidelines and she is getting fired in the next few days because of everything I have done. I have 3 teens at home and my savings have been drained with lawyer fees, court cost and just general expenses. I put in a hundred resumes to jobs I am well suited for all the way to jobs that ask if you want fries with that. I am going to lose everything and possiblly have to file bankrupty on top of it. My question is has this ever happened to anyone and is there any hope of anything in the future. I am having a hard time seeing it.