How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

Archive for July 19th, 2010

So basically, it’s this song about a man who is an alcoholic and the only line from the song i can remember goes something like …. told my mother/(or) wife and child that i wouldn’t go near it again.
- haha now i know that’s probably not enough to get any help, and i know this is not how it goes exactly, and probably none of you will have any idea what i’m talking about. but it’s worth a shot to ask..so if you know a song that goes somewhat like that.. PLEASE let me know! :)
a man sings it.. it’s not rap, pop. not really rock either, and i’m pretty sure it’s not country. hope that narrows something down.. HA! sorry..

my husband has the occasional drinks with his buddy and I tell him to take a taxi or call me if he shouldn’t be driving.
Yet I just heard from his friends wife that he indeed drank too much and still drove.
I will get more firm from now on but was wondering how other people have dealt with same issues?
He’s never a reckless driver but that doesn’t justify that he can nor should handle drinking and driving…Please share, thanks!
Thanks for all the quick answers. You all are so right and enough of this BS. I will drive him next time and pick him up or he can cab back. At least he won’t have a car or his keys.

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The man accused of hiring a hit man to kill his parents in their opulent Coral Gables home, got help from a jailbird, according to the defense team which opened its case Thursday. The jailhouse witness bolstered the defense claim that the confessed gunman in the case acted alone.

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BACKGROUND: My S.O. and I have been together for 3 years. He has a son that is almost 8 y/o. When my S.O. was with his (second) ex-wife, she ran over and killed a man while drunk driving and under the influence of drugs. She truly got away with murder by spending 30 days in jail and 10 years of probation along with drug/alcohol treatment. She was later put back in jail for another DWI and possession of drugs. During this time she was playing the role of Mommy to my S.O.’s son. He was 3-6 years old. She had told Anthony (the son) that police are mean. She told him they hit her and only fed her bread while she was in jail for “speeding”. Not sure how much he truly comprehended of that but he now fully believes police are mean and does repeat what she had told him about being hit and not being fed. The birth mother is not in the picture and we don’t know where she is. He hasn’t seen her since he was taken away from her at one year of age. I didn’t know any of these people until later.
PROBLEM: We have caught this child stealing three times. Yesterday he stole a pack of gum while at the airport. We were in a shop buying HIM a snack. The cashier and I didn’t even see the kid take the gum and he was standing on the side of me. I noticed it hours later when the gum slid out of his pocket. He is also a firebug. He tried catching the stairs on fire while everyone was sleeping during the night.
I am seriously thinking of backing out of this mess. I have NO experience with any of this stuff!
QUESTION: Does his father take him to the local police and have the sh*t scared out of him about breaking laws and going to jail? We are paranoid that what he was told in the past will be confirmed in the childs mind about police being mean rather than here to protect the innocent. At the same time, something needs to be done with this child. He is headed down a very dark road if he doesn’t change.
ADVICE??????????
BTW- this child shows no sign of anger. We have brought him to physicians, school counselor and two professionals and they just say he isn’t ADD or ADHD, he “chooses his actions” and needs to learn right from wrong. Because of his age, they say there isn’t a program available for him. We live in Florida.

We were in a different airport by the time I saw the gum.

My wife has a shopping addiction. She constantly binges with money we need for bills. I gave her 500 dollars a month to try and satiate her need to shop, but she always ends up becoming angry and verbally abusive towards me once that money ran out. Yesterday she had drained all 4800 dollars from our savings account and went on a shopping binge. I came home took the stuff and returned it. I knew she would be upset, but I was not prepared for what she said. She said you’re just like “Joe”(not his real name). Joe is a man she dated who was physically abusive to her and later tried to rape her after they broke up. I’ve cried many tears for the pain that man caused her and to be told in her eyes I am the same as him was unforgiveable. I moved out yesterday and am seriously considering divorce. I just can’t live with being compared to a woman abuser when I have treated her like a queen. Should I go back? And if so how do I forgive her for something that cut me so deep?

My husband and I have a 8 month old daughter, I won’t let my husband or my daughter see his mother. I have a gut maternal feeling that tells me not to. Im not sure if he loves us the way he should, he’s more concerned iwth his family than he is with his wife and child. His mother has taken babies out of carseats, she fed my baby 16 oz of milk when she was a month old, which is way to much even though i asked her not to she won’t listne to me and he won’t either. He says if the baby cna’t see his mom he is going to leave. Should I let him leave?? I cannot go against my maternal instincts, or I know something trajic will happen and I will never fogive myself. There’s more thngs she’s done wrong, to much to explain. She took my child and went and got her husband some beer and drove around with him drinking, she said she was driving but I always see him driving. I know he was driving drunk with my child, I’ve caught her in too many lies to believe that. He always takes up for her

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BACKGROUND: My S.O. and I have been together for 3 years. He has a son that is almost 8 y/o. When my S.O. was with his (second) ex-wife, she ran over and killed a man while drunk driving and under the influence of drugs. She truly got away with murder by spending 30 days in jail and 10 years of probation along with drug/alcohol treatment. She was later put back in jail for another DWI and possession of drugs. During this time she was playing the role of Mommy to my S.O.’s son. He was 3-6 years old. She had told Anthony (the son) that police are mean. She told him they hit her and only fed her bread while she was in jail for “speeding”. Not sure how much he truly comprehended of that but he now fully believes police are mean and does repeat what she had told him about being hit and not being fed. The birth mother is not in the picture and we don’t know where she is. He hasn’t seen her since he was taken away from her at one year of age. I didn’t know any of these people until later.
PROBLEM: We have caught this child stealing three times. Yesterday he stole a pack of gum while at the airport. We were in a shop buying HIM a snack. The cashier and I didn’t even see the kid take the gum and he was standing on the side of me. I noticed it hours later when the gum slid out of his pocket. He is also a firebug. He tried catching the stairs on fire while everyone was sleeping during the night.
I am seriously thinking of backing out of this mess. I have NO experience with any of this stuff!
QUESTION: Does his father take him to the local police and have the sh*t scared out of him about breaking laws and going to jail? We are paranoid that what he was told in the past will be confirmed in the childs mind about police being mean rather than here to protect the innocent. At the same time, something needs to be done with this child. He is headed down a very dark road if he doesn’t change.
ADVICE?????????? Should I just bail-out of this situation before the I Do’s?
BTW- this child shows no sign of anger. We have brought him to physicians, school counselor and two professionals and they just say he isn’t ADD or ADHD, he “chooses his actions” and needs to learn right from wrong. Because of his age, they say there isn’t a program available for him. We live in Florida.

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Here is my situation. I have struggled w/ achohol for about eight to ten years. I am currently in treatment to regain control of my life. Needless to say it has taken it’s toll on my marraige.
I have had a series of events occur in the last six months to put me in a pretty bad depression to which has driven me to drink harder to cope w/ daily life( loss of job, loss of insurance, totaled car, and much more), and to be able to sleep. Which has also made things worse with my wife. She keeps telling me that I need to be happy w/ myself before I can be happy w/ others (her). But the way I feel, being a good husband and a good father IS what makes me happy, but if she is not willing to not be so hard headed how can I be happy? It is hard to relay the entire situation but it is an endless cycle of depression, alcohol, argument, unwillingness to look at this from a different view point, and not knowing how to help one another. My question is how can I get her to listen and to me & hear me?
The ansewers i have recieved have been pretty harsh. Like I said it is a hard story to tell. We have been together for about 7 years, and married for 2. Now she still drinks to in spite of my problem (not as intense as me but drinks still the same even though she said she would’nt. Me y’all don’t get what it I’m asking. Advice on how to be a real love agian and how to get her to at least get her to hear me out!!!

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The man accused of hiring a hit man to kill his parents in their opulent Coral Gables home has taken the stand at his murder trial. Christopher Sutton is charged with master-minding the shooting that killed his mother, Susan, and left his father, John, wounded and blinded for life.

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We are in the middle of going through a divorce. He has his ex-wife staying there. He had the locks changed. I can’t get and half of my and our 4 year old daughter’s things are still in the house. We both have a toorneys but they are closed for the weekend. I sent my husband a text saying I was on my way over to get my new key with a cop escort. He said I have no right to do that and he would call the cops too! It’s still my house! Do I not have a right? My husband is getting drunk at our home and he is on probation for a dwi with our daughter in the car.
sorry for all the typos! I was typing fast!
Texas. I left b/c we were fighting, not b/c we were divorcing. He texted me later that week he wanted a divorce.

I have a wife that’s a real pain in the ass at times. More often than not actually. When she’s really bad, I drink myself into oblivion and her whining doesn’t seem as bad anymore. I don’t mind going on these little binges at times, it actually seems to strengthen our relationship.

**Also, all you “communication is key” people do NOT answer, thanks. Been there, and done that for years. Maybe she’s just a bitch…?

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I am very unhappy w/ my atty & the way he represented me. To sum up my case: My fiance was attacked by 2 drunk random females, I tried to break things up in her defense & was attaked by a male from behind. We were wrestling on the floor when police showed up. One cop spurred me from behind and hit his forehead on the back of my head and he got a cut. I was arrested for disorderly conduct and told I would get out in a couple of hrs but later I was added on the charge of assulting a peace officer.
I really was just defending my soon2be wife & in no way was in the wrong. Im a bookeeper and have never been in a fight in my life. I have a clear record & I was sure I had a good case. But my atty’s attitude towards my case was the total opposite. At 1st he said he could help me, charged me 1500. retainer + add’l fees for any further work. But once I paid the retainer, he didnt even try. There was no other witnesses other than my fiance and I, so I told him to put me on the stand and i’ll testify cuz we were the victims. But he kept saying the facts were against me & I should just plea guilty and avoid a jury cuz I could be locked up for 2-10yrs.. I insisted I was innocent, but he never fought for me, just kept urging me to take a plea bargain so we didnt have to go to trial. I even drafted up about 11 diff points I came up w/ that he could use to defend us.. and im not even the atty. Thats what i was paying him for!!!
Anyway, I knew he wasnt goin to help me so by Gods grace, it turns out my mother knew a friend of the D.A & I ended up getting 6 mo. probation w/ deffered adjudication. He thinks it was his negotiations that got me that deal though.
So I finally got a final bill and he charged me additional 2,500.00 in extra fees on top of the retainer. He charged me 100.00 for EVERY motion (ex. motion for discovery, motion for probation, motion for a witness list.. ) He also charged me for “research on file for discovery”, “research on motion for probation” etc. Shouldnt he already know his stuff? This is his job, why am I paying him to learn? He also filed sepinas against 3 police officers The bill said his assistant took 1 hour to draft up each sepina @ 100/per hr. So I have to pay 300 bux for 3 sepinas .(which btw, never got served because supposebly the 3 cops were all on vacation and couldnt be found).. Now im not stupid, all the 3 sepinas are exactly the same , the only thing that changes is the names of the officers. So I understand it took 1 hr. to draft the 1st sepina, but the other 2 didnt take an hr. each.
Lastly, he also charged me for every call he made to me. Even when he left me a message, I am being billed for that also. I think this is outrageous. Now Ive never been in trouble or dealt w/ lawyers, so maybe this is normal, but I think its crazy how he is charging me. Shouldnt a criminal case be a flat rate.. just a certain price up front? I know my co-worker had got arrested for DWI & possesion of cocaine charges and he was charged a flat rate of 2800.00 for both. I only had one and im being charged 4,000.
Is there anything i can do, or is this legit? Im bearly making it & only agreed to go w/ him thinking 1500.00 was the bulk of the amt, and i’d only have to pay a little more in add’l fees…. Not another 2500.00. What can I do if i cant come up w/ this money? Can I go to jail? I really need some sorta advice on what my options are. Please help..