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Okay, so I’m not exactly shy. But at times I’d much rather be shy. I guess you could say I’ve got A lot in my life to be depressed about. I’ll give you a person who depresses me then write why.

Father: He used to be an Alcoholic, got a DWI in August, (Which he thinks I don’t know about). Used to fight with my mother all the time, they’re divorced now and still fight. He’s VERY controlling. He keeps touching me and it makes me feel disgusted, not in nasty ways just little icky things. He has naked pictures of girls on his phone. He has two new kids that he cares about much more then me. He cheated on my mom 3 times. Final time , with his wife as of now. He yells at me , slaps me, keeps threatens to punch me.

Mom: She has condoms all over her room, calls me fat, (IM NOT FAT, IM SKINNY IM 12 for crying out loud!!!!!) gets all all mean 2 me when her ex-bf ruins her day, yells at me all the time, never wants to do anything with me, calls me mean names like slut.. & more. oh she never appreciates that i do well in school. apparently a’s & b’s aren’t good enough for her

step mom- never feeds me dinner, talks bad about me to my dad, is always getting me in tons of trouble, is mean to my blood brothers & sisters. is just a stuck up b***** ughh

and i’ve got more things to worry about. like my bestfriend hates me now, idk why. and this kid i really like stopped talking to me.
no i dont want to see a cousnler. my parents will freak at me and be like blah is nothing i do good enough, blah blah blah. then the cousler will tell my parents everything. (she did when they got divorced, and she told the court).
is there any other ways to help. like hotlines… instant messageing help? pills..

oh and im on no meds or anything that would make me feel this way.
thanks for ur time
i’m not really into the whole ‘god’ and religion thing.. i dont really have one

I had a contentious 3 year divorce that finally ended in 2005. Since the divorce started 8 years ago, my ex-wife has bad mouthed me to the children and it has created massive amounts of turmoil in our lives. Now my older daughter (19) lives with me and she does not speak to her mother very much. My younger daughter (18) lives with my ex-wife and she barely speaks to me. Whenever I try to work things out with my younger daughter, she constantly brings up financial issues between me and my ex-wife, and often accuses me of trying to hurt her mother since I have had to take her to court a few times. My younger daughter is clearly brainwashed and embroiled in our divorce. My ex-wife even brought my daughters to court with her the last couple of times we went. Each time the judge removed the kids from the courtroom. When I had to take her to court because she was caught drunk driving by the police, she convinced the kids that it was a simple mistake on her part and that I was the real one to blame for harassing her.

I do not badmouth their mother and in fact I rarely talk about her at all. I also refuse to discuss divorce issues with the kids, even though they want to talk about them. I think my ex-wife knows that, so she puts ideas in the kids heads and twists the truth in order to show proof that I am a bad person. The kids are even afraid to go to the doctor because their mother gets the kids in the middle of arguments between us regarding whether they need to go or not. I am responsible for the insurance, but mom has to pay the $20 co-pay for going, and any unreimbursed medical expenses. Mom does not even want the kids to go to counseling since she has to pay the $20 copay per session.

I am tired of going to court over issues mom should be abiding by. She routinely ignores the court’s orders and in the end since she embroils the kids in it we all lose. I don’t know what to do because I feel that she will stop at nothing in order to get her way, even if it means hurting the kids.

Any suggestions?
Libby:

I meant to say that I do not badmouth my ex-wife to my kids.

You are missing the point that the kids are emboiled in issues that only the parents need to be involved in. Most of the things my daughter is bitter about is financial, and all of that is why mom should not be paying for certain things the court has already ordered her to pay, like her share of college tuition. I think my situation is different than yours. This situation is about emboiling children in the middle of adult issues in the divorce, not that I am 50% responsible for the turmoil so I should own up to it.

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My husband x wife is a piece of work. She has lied and cheated to get what she wants and now the kids are picking up these nasty habbits. She has told us she has cancer then we never hear anything else about it. She has called my husband and left a message stating that she had heard things about him saying that he wanted to get back together with her. The big one is the divorce, She got everything and we got the bills. And for the next 10 years we will be paying not only child support but about 20K in bills that should have been split in 1/2. She’s never home and she now has 2 DWI but only spent 15 days in jail and the lawyer tells us there is nothing we can do. She is now dating a man from the prison and he is out now. When we ask she says it is none of our business. She cheats the system when it comes to houseing, free lunches for her kids etc. She has even gone to the hospital after they were divorced and put my husband down as the gauranter on her medical bills. Oh we only get the everyother weekend and 6 weeks out of the summer. She also gets to claim them both every year on income taxes. Please someone explain how this happens. Help becasue I have lost all faith in happiness.