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And I later woke up and discovered that I had been so brutally raped. And I went down to the kitchen to grab a drink of water. And years of abuse passed through my mind, driving me to temporary insanity. And I grabbed a tube of superglue, went back to the bedroom and glued my wife’s va-jay-jay shut. Would feminists yell “Way to go!” and write a story in the New York Times praising my actions?
Thuper Duper: Marriage is inherently abusive for any man.

Ok I have a 12 year old girl, and My wife (her step mother) and I had found out last minute that we were to go to a function. my dad and Alchie said he would watch her. when we came back 4 hrs later he was TRASHED he could not see straight and he did not know where he was/what he was doing

Much to my disappointment and my wife’s Shock

I have not said anything to him, he stayed the night because he could not drive. Or make it down the 3 flights of steers and left this am about 9 ish back to his mothers house…

He does not admit he has a prob or that he needs help.

I have already cut all unsupervised access to my daughter by my dad, He is removed from the authorized pickup list at my daughters school, He has 1 OUI/DWI . Probably not necessary but at this point I’m securing her as much as i can..

I grew up in a dysfunctional home. I Survived an Abusive childhood and will Never subject my daughter to what I went through , By 10th grade I had been to more AA meets than
most recovering alcoholics have been to in 3 years, I had to make sure he went. 3 nights a weekend 2 on Sat and 2 on Sunday… (I never went with the “Cool kids” to drink because I knew the road they were heading down and i didn’t want that ride… )
I’ve read the “Big Blue Book” 3 times and can recite any of the hit rock bottom stories..

To put it mildly I don’t drink.

I need to protect my daughter from the affects of alcoholism. She has already had a rough life. He mother broke it off with me and marred/divorced a deadbeat and my daughter was being taken for the emotional ride.

What do i do..

Other than know the i cant do anything does not help. the Serenity prayer just doesn’t work for me

We were at a party. being responsible we stayed the night because we were to drunk to drive. A few of use slept in the living room. My wife was drunk, extremly when went asleep. she was sleeping next to me. When I woke up she wasn’t there. I went down to the bathroom thinking she was there, but across from bathroom is a bedroom & I heard noises. I poked my head in & to my astonishment she was there, with barely any clothes on. She was giving pleasures to another man. When I confronted her she looked shocked… She said, ” I thought this was you.” I do believe, because she has never strayed before. Could she have been so drunk that she thought it was me? I want to believe her. Kinda weird to, turned me on.

whoever can help me with this ASAP will get a lot of best answers from me for questions. or something. we’ll make this work! i’m desperate though

For each of the ethical dilemmas outlined below, please provide an explanation for how you would handle the situation and what ethical principles or frameworks would guide your decision.

Ethical Dilemma #1
Your regular beat includes stopping by the mayor’s office most days of the week, and you regularly talk with the mayor’s secretary. One day the secretary says that she will treat you to lunch and the two of you can discuss “what goes on behind the scenes.” Should you accept the offer of a free lunch, even if she says that is the only way you will get the information?

Ethical Dilemma #2
A local member of the city council has been arrested for soliciting a prostitute. This man, whose wife died six months earlier from breast cancer, has two daughters ages 11 and 15. The daughters are schoolmates and friends of your children, and you are aware they are in counseling to deal with their mother’s death and have had a very hard time with it. You alone have this story. Do you run it?

Ethical Dilemma #3
You recently discovered your newspaper’s biggest advertiser, Michael Moore, has received his second DWI and has lost his driver’s license. Moore is the owner of Moore’s Ford Dealership and is a golfing buddy of your newspaper publisher. The DWI is public record, so other media outlets should eventually have it, but nothing has been published yet. What do you do with this tip you received over the telephone from a friend inside the police department?

Of course, pro-illegal supporters will be the first to say that “Many more Americans are killed by citizens”. I SAY, those killed by illegals would STILL be alive if the illegal that killed them had not come here in the first place!***********************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************DWI killer of mother, daughter gets maximum sentence
By Terence Corcoran • tcorcora@lohud.com • January 14, 2010
CARMEL — An illegal immigrant who was driving with no license and a blood-alcohol level nearly twice the legal limit when he plowed into and killed a Southeast mother and daughter received the maximum sentence Wednesday of 8 1/3 to 25 years in state prison.
Conses Garcia-Zacarias, 35, who has been held in the Putnam County jail since the June 8 fatalities, pleaded guilty in November to two counts of vehicular homicide in the deaths of Lori Donohue, 37, and her 8-year-old daughter, Kayla. The second-grader and her mother were leaving the girl’s dance class at Seven Stars School of Performing Arts in Brewster when Garcia-Zacarias struck them with a pickup truck.
The act instantly took away half of the Donohue family, leaving Robert Donohue and his 5-year-old son, Christopher, grieving for the wife and mother, sister and daughter they lost.
“Explaining to my 5-year-old son that he can never again hug and kiss his mommy and sister has been devastating to him, me and our whole family,” Donohue told the court Wednesday.
Donohue was accompanied in Putnam County Court by more than two dozen friends and family members who took up four of the six rows in the courtroom.
Lori Donohue’s father, John Luhrs, 70, of Bethel, Conn., also gave a victim-impact statement. He placed photos of his daughter and granddaughter on the prosecutor’s table before looking up at Putnam County Judge James Rooney and saying, “Your Honor: A parent’s worst nightmare.”
Lori Donohue grew up in Yonkers and rose through the ranks at Dorian Drake International Inc. in Harrison, where she worked as a sales manager. Kayla attended JFK Elementary School, played softball and swam. She was a Girl Scout and had been collecting cookies to send to troops in Iraq when she was killed.
Kayla Donohue was pronounced dead at the scene of the 6:35 p.m. crash while Lori Donohue was flown to Westchester Medical Center in Valhalla, where she later died.
In an instant, all of our lives drastically changed,” Luhrs said. “Our hearts are absolutely broken — no, our hearts have been ripped out.”
The deaths grieved and outraged the community and reignited the debate about illegal immigration, drinking and driving, and the hiring of undocumented workers.
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Garcia-Zacarias worked on horse farms in the U.S. for several years and the white, F-350 Ford pickup truck with Florida plates he was driving that night was registered to Valerie Renihan, a horse trainer who leased the house on Tonetta Lake Road in Southeast where Garcia-Zacarias and several other men were living.
Renihan, whose Facebook page said in June that she was working out of Staysail Farm in North Salem, has said through an attorney that she never gave Garcia-Zacarias permission to use the truck and that he got drunk that day and stole the keys.
Neighbors said he and the other men living in the rented house regularly used the vehicle.
Chief Assistant District Attorney Christopher York said the criminal investigation is open and active.
Rooney said Garcia-Zacarias told a probation officer that he was so drunk the evening of June 8 he did not remember the fatal crash.
Police say he sped down the wrong side of Brewster’s Main Street and barreled through a T intersection at routes 6 and 22. The truck crossed the narrow parking area dividing the road from the dance school building and ran over Lori and Kayla Donohue as other horrified parents, children and instructors stood nearby.
Through an interpreter, Garcia-Zacarias expressed remorse and talked about how his actions have hurt his own family.
“I apologize to the family and I ask forgiveness. It was not my intention and it’s something that could happen to any of us,” he said. “I ask them to forgive me. I have my two daughters over there (in Guatemala) who are also suffering because of this.”
Garcia-Zacarias will serve his sentences on the two counts of vehicular homicide concurrently, or at the same time, as stipulated by the law, Rooney said.
“Do not look to me for forgiveness,” Rooney told him in imposing the maximum. “God may grant you mercy, Mr. Zacarias, but this court will not.”
Garcia-Zacarias faces deportation to his native Guatemala after serving his time.
Donohue said his family would fight any effort by Garcia-Zacarias to shorten his sentence.
“At every parole hearing he has, he will see our faces,” Donohue said

An honored judge was out at a bar drinking heavily when he checked his watch and saw how late it was. He decided to chance driving home to his wife ASAP, and only got about a mile in before he hit another car. Fortunately neither him nor the other driver was hurt, and the judge agreed to immediately pay him several thousand dollars if he would forget the incident. The other driver agreed, and the judge wrote him a check.

Later, the judge got home and found his wife asleep, he quietly took off all his clothes and contemplated what he would tell his wife in the morning and how he would explain the car damage.

Next day, the first thing he said to his wife, “I’m so sorry I was late last night honey, but you wouldn’t believe what happened, this drunk driver hit me head on and then sped off without stopping, and I had to talk to the police for several hours.”

After assuring his wife that he was not injured, the judge headed off to work.
Later that evening, the judge came home and decided he would alleviate the mood.

“Honey, you’ll never believe this,” he said, “The guy who did a drunk hit and run on me last night showed up in my courtroom and I gave him five years hard prison time.”

“You should have given him ten,” his wife replied, “I did the laundry today and apparently he puked on your shirt and pooped in your underwear too.”

I mean besides ‘contempt’…etc.

BACKGROUND: Let’s say a man gets arrested outside his wrecked car, intoxicated.

But the police feel sorry for him, seriously, let’s pretend, because he has kids, a wife, a mortgage and is *very* worried and sorry.

…so the police charge him with a PI, Public Intoxication instead of a DWI…

MY QUESTION: Could the judge *up* the charge to DUI/DWI (etc) when he goes to his trial?

Thanks for any advice.