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I’m in a marriage I definitely want to end. We have one son and he is 18 yrs. old. I know that a divorce can be a bit pricey and if you knew my wife she wants everything especially the house. One of the main raesons we’re splitting is because of her (bitching and ) alcoholism. Right now I’m not in a financial position to pay a lawyer but I still don’t want to be around her either. I have thought of getting my own little place until I get it all together. What course should I take and is separation a good idea? Thanks guys.

If you grow up in Hawaii , raised by your grandparents, you’re ‘exotic, different.’

Grow up in Alaska eating moose burgers, a quintessential American story.

If your name is Barack you’re a radical, unpatriotic Muslim.

Name your kids Willow , Trig and Track, you’re a maverick.

Graduate from Harvard law School and you are unstable.

Attend 5 different small colleges before graduating, you’re well grounded.

If you spend 3 years as a brilliant community organizer, become the first black President of the Harvard Law Review, create a voter registration drive that registers 150,000 new voters, spend 12 years as a Constitutional Law professor,
spend 8 years as a State Senator representing a district with over 750,000 people, become chairman of the state Senate’s Health and Human Services committee, spend 4 years in the United States Senate representing a state of 13 million people while sponsoring 131 bills and serving on the Foreign Affairs, Environment and Public Works and Veteran’s Affairs committees, you don’t have any real leadership experience.

If your total resume is: local weather girl, 4 years on the city council and 6 years as the mayor of a town with less than 7,000 people, 20 months as the governor of a state with only 650,000 people, then you’re qualified to become
the country’s second highest ranking executive (and according to the actuarial tables, a 30% chance of succeeding the president during your first term).

If you have been married to the same woman for 19 years while raising 2 beautiful daughters, all within Protestant churches, you’re not a real Christian.

If you cheated on your first wife with a rich heiress, and left your disfigured wife and married the heiress the next month, you’re a Christian.

If you teach responsible, age appropriate sex education, including the proper use of birth control, you are eroding the fiber of society.

If, while governor, you staunchly advocate abstinence only, with no other option in sex education in your state’s school system while your un-wed teen daughter ends up pregnant, you’re very responsible.

If your wife is a Harvard graduate lawyer who gave up a position in a prestigious law firm to work for the betterment of her inner city community, then gave that up to raise a family, your family’s values don’t represent America ‘s.

If you’re husband is nicknamed ‘First Dude’, with at least one DWI conviction and no college education, who didn’t register to vote until age 25 and once was a member of a group that advocated the secession of Alaska from the USA, your family is extremely admirable.

What if?

Obama/Biden vs McCain/Palin, what if things were switched around?…..think
about it. Would the country’s collective point of view be different? Could
racism be the culprit?

Ponder the following:

What if the Obamas had paraded five children across the stage, including a
three month old infant and an unwed, pregnant teenage daughter?

What if John McCain was a former president of the Harvard Law Review?

What if Barack Obama finished fifth from the bottom of his graduating class?

What if McCain had only married once, and Obama was a divorcee?

What if Obama was the candidate who left his first wife after a severe
disfiguring car accident, when she no longer measured up to his standards?

What if Obama had met his second wife in a bar and had a long affair while
he was still married?

What if Michelle Obama was the wife who not only became addicted to
painkillers but also acquired them illegally through her charitable
organization?

What if Cindy McCain graduated from Harvard?

What if Obama had been a member of the Keating Five? (The Keating Five were
five United States Senators accused of corruption in 1989, igniting a major
political scandal as part of the larger Savings and Loan crisis of the late
1980s and early 1990s.)

What if McCain was a charismatic, eloquent speaker?

What if Obama couldn’t read from a teleprompter?

What if Obama was the one who had military experience that included
discipline problems and a record of crashing seven planes?

What if Obama was the one who was known to display publicly, on many
occasions, a serious anger management problem?

What if Michelle Obama’s family had made their money from beer distribution?

What if the Obamas had adopted a white child?

You could easily add to this list. If these questions reflected reality, do
you really believe the election numbers would be as close as they are? This
is what racism does. It covers up, rationalizes and minimizes positive
qualities in one candidate and emphasizes negative qualities in another when
there is a color difference.

Educational Background:

Barack Obama:

Columbia University – B.A. Political Science with a Specialization in
International Relations.

Harvard – Juris Doctor (J.D.) Magna *** Laude

Joseph Biden:

University of Delaware – B.A. in
My question is — how can Republicans actually be serious about voting McCain/Palin? I know this isn’t going to change their minds, obviously, I wasn’t born yesterday. Just wanted to make a point like they try to do 24/7 on here. This is NOT a rant, this is a question, so please don’t report it. I don’t report YOUR lame posts.
Accidentally cut off after Joe Biden’s education

Joseph Biden:

University of Delaware – B.A. in History and B.A. in Political Science.

Syracuse University College of Law – Juri s Doctor (J.D.)

vs.

John McCain:

United States Naval Academy – Class rank: 894 of 899

Sarah Palin:

Hawaii Pacific University – 1 semester

North Idaho College – 2 semesters – general study

University of Idaho – 2 semesters – journalism

Matanuska-Susitna Colle ge – 1 semester

University of Idaho – 3 semesters – B.A. in Journalism

Education isn’t everything, but this is about the two highest offices in the
land as well as our standing in the world. You make the call.

When you’re feeling despair and hopelessness it’s hard to find the right support. You’re looking for emergency help so that you, your kids, and maybe your very old mother who can barely walk, can get the heck out! All I see under the word “support” is talking in a group, sharing your feelings, blah, blah, blah. How can that help when you need to run away from a jerk? Support – what a joke!
When you’re feeling despair and hopelessness it’s hard to find the right support. You’re looking for emergency help so that you, your kids, and maybe your very old mother who can barely walk, can get the heck out! All I see under the word “support” is talking in a group, sharing your feelings, blah, blah, blah. How can that help when you need to run away from a jerk? Support – what a joke!

It’s not as easy as it sounds. I’m talking about two people on disability income and retirement and the only asset is a car. With mom’s medical attention (a hospice nurse who comes twice a week) and my illness….these suggesions aren’t enough. Somebody said go to Social Services. What will they do?

Our relationship fell apart when he got married. Many conflicts with his wife and disagreements over him pulling away from his daughter (from a previous relationship). I knew in my heart the wife was not the right person for him. Before they got married he told me if he did not marry her he would lose her. I tried to go along because it was his wish but things went from bad to worse. The more he alientated himself from my granddaughter the angrier I became. My father stopped contacting me when I was a child – and although we eventually reconciled – I just saw history repeating itself. The new wife had been friendly to me and my granddaughter and her mother but shortly before the wedding did a complete 180. She wanted nothing to do with my granddaughter and excluded her from the wedding. Family members suggested she was jealous of them and my relationship with them and felt threatened. I wrote letters and emails trying to reassure her that there was room in my life and love for all but she is very black and white, no grey area, no agreeing to disagree. My son continued to distance himself from me, his brothers and sisters. I was very angry and contacted an ex sister in law of my son’s wife. There were so many common threads in what I was experiencing and she and her family experienced. The sister in law of course had all the details on the wife’s family that were never shared, mental illness, alcoholism, a grandfather who was in prison for murder (verified) She predicted that the alienation of my son from his family was the first step then they would get pregnant. All this happened. I wanted even more to stay close to my son – being very concerned. My son and his wife found out I had spoken to the sister-in- law and cut all ties with me – nasty emails – returning christmas presents – zero contact with my grandaughter. I knew too much. 10 months later I got a text message that their son was born. I took as a good sign and called and sent emails – no responses. I try leaving message once a month just to let him know I love him and tell him what is going on in my life. Requests for his new mailing address and baby pictures go unanswered. There is some glimmers of hope with my son being contact with one brother, his uncle and one set of cousins. This weekend I got the news that my son will be deployed to Afghanistan in May. It is a job that he is good at and loves and I am very supportive of his service to our country. Not normally tearful, I have been crying all weekend – A mother’s worst fear – losing a lost son. Any suggestions of how to reconcile with my son and daughter-in-law will be greatly appreciated.
Thank you!
Vee

A police officer pulls over a speeding car. The officer says, “I clocked you at 80 miles per hour, sir.”

The driver says, “WOW, officer I had it on cruise control at 60, perhaps your radar gun needs calibrating.”

Not looking up from her knitting the wife says: “Now don’t be silly dear, you know that this car doesn’t have cruise control.”

As the officer writes out the ticket, the driver looks over at his wife and growls, “Can’t you please be quiet for once?”

The wife smiles demurely and says, “You should be thankful your radar detector went off when it did.”

As the officer makes out the second ticket
for the illegal radar detector unit, the man glowers at his wife and says through clenched teeth, “Woman, can’t you just sit there with your mouth zipped?”

The officer frowns and says, “And I notice that you’re not wearing your seat belt, sir.That’s an automatic $75 fine.”

The driver says, “Yes, well, you see officer, I had it on, but took it off when you pulled me over so that I could get my license out of my back pocket.”

The wife says, “Now, dear, you know very well that you didn’t have your seat belt on. You never wear your seat belt when you’re driving.”

And as the police officer is writing out the third ticket the driver turns to his wife and barks, “WOULD YOU PLEASE STOP TALKING??”

The officer looks over at the woman and asks, “Does your husband always talk to you this way, Ma’am?”

AND FOR THE GRAND FINALE!!!

The wife says, “Only when he’s been drinking.”

OK
i don’t want people to think I’m a B**** my husband and i are having lots of problems he was arrested for a DWI for the second time he will do some hard time before he got arrested we sleep in different bed we are together just because of our daughter. I visit him every week i mail money talk to him on the phone and i do everything he needs . I’m by myself i work and try to do the best i can’t. He has been gone for about 1 year I still waiting. i haven’t talk to any of my friends but i do feel so lonely all the time. my good friend form high school call me about 2 days and we hang out he got marry and he is also having some problems like me. wife walk away form him with their 2 kids. i wanted to know i don’t want to be with him but i do want to hang out and i know that if my husband was here he could me mad that I’m hanging out with a guy but we are not doing anything plus i like talking to him because he is having the same problems as me. i cry every day i don;t know what to do. if my husband was here i know we would not be together we had too many problems but i can’t move on with my life knowing that he is in jail i know if my responsibility to help him and be here for him. but i also know that 5-10 years waiting is my whole life. i promise i didn’t do anything with my guy friend we talk and it was my girl friends her boyfriends my daughter and my guy friend.

The husband of my best friend is an alcoholic. Lately he has lost weight and is starting to look older and rather unhealthy. He was always good-looking and well-built. Both his parents are diabetic, so we have been trying to get him to see a doctor for a check-up. Like all alcoholics, he is in denial, and although he is worried about his weight loss and apprearance, he blames other factors, and even his wife, for his weight loss. Is it likely that his problem is the result of his alcoholism? Maybr he doesn’t have diabetes, but my friend is worried that his drinking is having disastrous effects on his health. What can be done to convince him to see and doctor and to get help for his drinking?

I was convicted of a DWI.. Been on probation 7 months with 1 yr and 5 months left. My wife is a professor and lost her job in Texas and because we need two incomes to pay the bills she had to find another job. The Job found is at a University in Utah. My great uncle lives there and I’m going to attempt a transfer using him as the current family resident. I have several questions.

1.) can I use my great uncle and if I can is it a guaranteed transfer?
2.) should I wait until my wife and son have lived there for 180 days and then use her as a family resident?
3.) will it hurt to try both transfers? Uncle 1st then Wife 2nd?

I understand that I committed a crime but it was before I met my wife and before my child was born and being without them now would be extremely traumatic for me.

I do not have a drinking problem and do not think it is fair of her.

Sept. 22, 2006, 7:41PM
Slain officer missed suspect’s gun in search

By MELANIE MARKLEY, JENNIFER LEAHY and ROSANNA RUIZ
Copyright 2006 Houston Chronicle

The Houston police officer who was gunned down by a suspect Thursday after a routine traffic stop apparently missed the man’s weapon in a pat-down search, Capt. Dale Brown told reporters today.

Juan Leonardo Quintero, a 32-year-old illegal immigrant, has been charged with capital murder in the shooting death of Houston Police Officer Rodney Johnson.

Brown said Quintero apparently was not under the influence of drugs or alcohol at the time of his arrest.

Brown said that Quintero had a criminal history from 1995 to 1999, convicted for DWI, failure to stop and give information and indecency with a child. His driver’s license was suspended and he was deported to Mexico by immigration officials in 1999, Brown said.

Quintero has been working for a landscaping company in the Deer Park area and was driving a company Ford double-cab pickup when Johnson stopped him for speeding, Brown said.

Quintero, who apparently in the pickup with a co-worker and the two daughters of his common-law wife, was traveling 50 miles per hour in a 30-mile-per-hour zone, he said. He had picked up the two girls from school and was taking them home, he said.

Johnson decided to arrest Quintero because he did not have any identification, Brown said. Although Johnson patted him down before handcuffing him, he apparently missed the 9-mm handgun he concealed under his waistband, he said.

Although Quintero was handcuffed behind his back, Brown said he apparently manipulated his handcuffed hands under his legs to the front of his body so he could fire his weapon. His hands were again behind his back when officers arrived, he said.

The suspect also fired at a wrecker driver who had been called to the scene by Johnson at the time of the arrest. The wrecker driver had spotted Johnson in apparent distress in the front seat of the car and was approaching the police car when the shot was fired. He retreated until officers arrived.

His wife, Theresa Quintero, said he has expressed concern about immigration officials and whether he should return to Mexico.

Theresa Quintero said in an interview today at their home near Hobby Airport that the couple has been married since 1997.

HPD’s Brown said records reflect no arrests for the suspect since 1999, but he said officers were still researching records.

Chief Harold Hurtt defended his policy against enforcing immigration laws, saying the situation points to the need for stronger enforcement at the border since Quintero had been deported.

“If the government would fulfill their responsibility of protecting the border, we probably would not be standing here today,” Hurtt said.

A Harris County prosecutor said in court this morning that, while seated in the back seat, the suspect pulled a 9 mm handgun from his waistband and shot Johnson in the face. The officer was able to push an emergency response button, alerting dispatch of a problem.

When other police arrived at the scene, Quintero remained in the back seat with the gun in his hand, the prosecutor said. Police found bullet casings inside the car.

Quintero kept his head down while waiting to be called before the judge. During a brief hearing, he answered “Yes” when asked whether he understood the charge against him.

Quintero has been charged with capital murder in the 248th District Court, said HPD spokesman John Cannon.

Cannon said the suspect gave “a full confession” to the shooting.

A source familiar with the scene said Johnson was shot four times through the plastic shield separating the front and rear seats. Johnson managed to push his emergency button before collapsing. The 12-year veteran of the department was taken to Ben Taub General Hospital where he was pronounced dead.

The suspect reportedly struggled as officers tried to move him to a different vehicle.

“They finally got him in the other car, but he was scratching and fighting and acting crazy, like he could win in a fight like that,” said Clara Rodriguez, who lives nearby.

Johnson, 40, was the first HPD officer killed in more than two years.

“He was very personable,” Hurtt said. “We will miss one of our true soldiers in Rodney Johnson.”

At least a dozen law enforcement vehicles cordoned off a large area at Randolph and Braniff where the light bar atop Johnson’s patrol car continued to flash long after the shooting. Temporary spotlights illuminated the scene into the evening as evidence technicians scoured the area. The owner of a nearby machine shop was called to the scene because bullets apparently pierced the wall of his building and investigators needed to get inside.

Before the suspect was taken to HPD headquarters, he was stripped of his clothes, which were placed in evidence bags, and dressed in a white jumpsuit. He was then taken downtown in the second of three patrol cars that left the scene shortly after 7 p.m.

‘It just breaks my heart’
As news of Johnson’s death spread, police officers gathered in small groups but said little. One HPD sergeant walked to a patrol car, took out his cell phone and made a quick phone call, taking a long drink of cold water from a bottle.

“Something real bad has happened by the airport,” he said.

Rodriguez said that she and her neighbors in the small subdivision between Telephone Road and Almeda Genoa knew Johnson well and that he was well-liked.

“He would always wave and smile when he saw me,” Rodriguez said. “He was a real nice guy. All he was trying to do was enforce the rules.”

Rodriguez said Johnson stopped her once for speeding when the speed limit was lowered on Telephone Road. She said he politely asked her to slow down and did not ticket her.

“He was just so very nice,” she said. “He was not ever mean. It just breaks my heart. I feel so very bad for his wife. He got up and went to work this morning, and this is what happened. This is what happened to one of the people who protects us, who truly took care of us.”

Johnson graduated from high school in Oakland, Calif., then enlisted in the Army, serving as an MP until he was honorably discharged in 1990. He served as a corrections officer for the Texas Department of Corrections (now the Texas Department of Criminal Justice) and as a Houston police jailer before attending the police academy and graduating in 1994.

Johnson was assigned to the southeast division that year and to the southeast gang task force in 1996. While on the task force he received two Lifesaving Awards from the department and one Medal of Valor from the state. He was married to Houston police officer Joslyn Johnson. They have three daughters and two sons between the ages of 14 and 19..