How Do I Get My Wife Off Drugs?

Archive for July 4th, 2010

Heres the deal, my husband is in the USAF and is deployed right now. His friend lost his wife a couple months ago and has struggled with alcoholism. I was there for him when he needed someones shoulder to cry on. He slept on my couch one particularly bad night. I got him dinner and hung out with him the next day. My husband is fine with all this. I am a very faithful wife and would never screw around on him. Just being a friend. About once a week afterward, I would check up on him and make sure he hadnt relapsed and making sure his son was doing okay. One time I brought him some encouragement cards that I thought would keep his spirits up. I want him to know I am always there for him and his son but I dont want him to think I am coming on to him by being overly friendly. People have a way of exaggerating things when husbands are deployed. Do any of you see a problem with how I went about trying to help him out?

I’m looking for the title of the movie that had a spanish man and a white man that were driving around all day smoking pot and getting drunk while their wives thought they were out looking for job. Cant remember much more about the movie. Thanks

I’m getting into brewing my own beer and making my own wine. Everything I spend any time on either of those projects, she indicates that I’m obviously an alcoholic which I naturally deny. If anything, I feel that at this level, producing my own beverages makes me less of one because of the time factor involved in waiting and producing something drinkable.

Any other homebrewers get this same lecture at home?

I grew up hearing cops talk (and sometimes laugh) about planting evidence or lying under oath in court. A couple of times, waiting for my mom to get off work. Hearing judges and prosecutors rehearsing a witness. The judge saying “no, you can’t say that like that in my court room. You have to say…”

An MP who wanted to get a guy shipped back to CONUS so he could sleep with the guys wife, showed me how he manipulated the results of a breathalyzer test to get the guy busted for DWI.

I didn’t realize the implications of what I was being asked to do at the time. But the MI unit my wife was assigned to asked me to perform tasks that resulted in a civilian having in their possession something that would suggest they were guilty of a crime.

The governor of the state of illinois felt the judicial system so flawed. He commuted the entire death row to life sentences.

Google Frank Lee Smith and read that. I don’t think I could convict anyone. I wouldn’t believe the evidence.

Make the arrest, throw him in a jail cell and forget about him until they raid all over the news that Obama’s missing the next day before telling sgt that you had arrested Obama for DUI the night before or would you stand there kissing ass all the while allowing him to call for someone to come pick him up? In all honesty.

If you would allow him to call for a ride, then whats the difference between Obama, and your family, friends, your wife’s father, your wife’s father’s mother, your wife’s father’s mothers friend, your wife’s father’s mothers friends father, your wife’s father’s mothers friends fathers daughter, your wife’s father’s mothers friends fathers daughters pet rat?

A lawyer for the third, Victor Arana, said his client, Angel Hernandez-Garcia, was arrested on Halloween on a charge of driving while intoxicated.

Arana said his client, who has since pleaded guilty to the DWI charge, had been living in Austin with his wife and two children and working in construction.

His client, he said, is not a criminal.

“These are tough cases because there are families involved,” Arana said.

“The only difference is he was born on one side and we were born on the other side,” he said.

http://www.statesman.com/news/local/federal-judge-questions-immigration-prosecutions-216667.html

Sorry it’s long..

Case Study 3 – Paula Evans
Paula Evans is a 25 year old woman brought to the emergency room by her boyfriend, who has become progressively more alarmed at her complaints, demands, and errant behavior. Her chief complaint to the staff is “I keep thinking about wanting to kill myself.” Paula is a competent secretary, has her own apartment, and is self supporting. She is also attending university classes in the evening because she wants to advance her education and does not “want to stay a secretary all my life.”
The current crisis began when her boyfriend, Mark, refused to consider her demands for marriage after a 2 year exclusive relationship. Paula began to call him at work demanding more and more time, finally threatening to kill herself if he didn’t spend every evening with her. Mark reported that her demands, phone calls, and escalating threats were becoming intolerable and were making him want to break off the relationship entirely. On the evening Mark brought Paula to the emergency room, he had told her that he had to go on a business trip and would be away for several days. Paula insisted that he was doing this just to get away from her. She became severely agitated and began to talk wildly about killing herself. In the emergency room, Paula angrily belittles her boyfriend in front of the staff and accuses him of using and then rejecting her. After physically separating the arguing couple, the staff is able to obtain a history of the progressive development of Paula’s symptoms.
In response to the stress of the past several months, Paula has developed fluctuating depressive moods, a tendency to over sleep (especially sleeping in the evenings and on weekends), and a tendency to binge eat that has resulted in a 20 pound weight gain. Paula says she is constantly anxious and has been having increasing difficulty concentrating on her studies. She has continued to work throughout this stressful period, seeking support from those in her office. Attention from Mark or her co-workers produces a brightening of her mood that she is able to sustain while they are with her.
Paula experiences her most severe symptoms when she is alone. These include prolonged fantasies about hilling her boyfriend and a desire to hurt herself. She says that on several occasions she has cut her thighs with razor blades and describes watching herself do this as if from a distance, numb and dead inside and feeling little pain. Paula says that at these times she feels fat and unattractive as well as completely unlovable and worthless. At such moments, she calls Mark on the phone and threatens to commit suicide unless he comes and keeps her company. Mark reports that she has also begun to lose control of her temper. For example, shortly before he brought her to the emergency room, she attacked him with her fists in the midst of an argument.
Paula was the youngest of four children and one of two girls. Her parents separated and divorced when she was 3 years old because of her father’s alcoholism and physical abuse of his wife and children. A family secret was that Paula was sexually abused when she was 10 years old by a brother 5 years her senior.
In adolescence, Paula associated with a rebellious group and became involved in drug abuse and early sexuality to fit in. Paula said that her mother attributed Paula’s teenage rebellion to a need to “find a father” and that she thought that Paula had gotten “her sexual urges confused with wanting to be loved and cared for.” By age 16, Paula had already embarked on the pattern of chaotic unstable involvements with men that continues to characterize her adult life.
Her first drug overdose occurred at age 17 in response to a perceived rejection by her boyfriend. A series of intense relationships followed this incident, each of which followed a similar pattern: Paula would become progressively more clinging until she gradually alienated her partners. Each rejection was marked by a period of anger and self abuse, followed quickly by a new and identical relationship. Paula’s current boyfriend is only the latest in a long series of disappointing partners.

My wife likes to drink when we go out 3 or 4 times a week, but she more often than not gets drunk.

The other night she drunk so much she was crawling around on the floor when we got home. When she went to work the next day I had to go pick her up because she had the shakes and felt dizzy.

I take care of her when it happens but it worries me that she always has to drink so much.

Sharon is a 25-year-old woman brought to the emergency room by her boyfriend, who has become progressively more alarmed at her complaints, demands, and erratic behaviors. Her chief complaint to the staff is “I keep thinking about wanting to kill myself.” Sharon is a competent secretary, has her own apartment, and is self-supporting. She is also attending university classes in the evening because she wants to advance her education and does not “want to stay a secretary all her life.”
The current crisis began when her boyfriend, John, refused to consider her demands for marriage after a 2-year exclusive relationship. Sharon began to call him at work demanding more and more time, finally threatening to kill herself if he didn’t spend every evening with her. John reported that her demands, phone calls, and escalating threats were becoming intolerable and were making him want to break off the relationship entirely. On the evening John brought Sharon to the emergency room, he had told her that he had to go on a business trip and would be away for several days. Sharon insisted that he was doing this just to get away from her. She became severely agitated and began to talk wildly about killing herself. In the emergency room, Sharon angrily belittles her boyfriend in front of the staff and accuses him of using and then rejecting her. After physically separating the arguing couple, the staff is able to obtain a history of the progressive development of Sharon’s symptoms.
In response to the stress of the past several months, Sharon had developed fluctuating depressive moods, a tendency to oversleep (especially sleeping in the evenings and on weekends), and a tendency to binge eat that has resulted in a 20-pound weight gain. Sharon says she is constantly anxious and has been having increasing difficulty concentrating on her studies. She has continued to work throughout this stressful period, seeking support from those in her office. Attention from John or her co-workers produces a brightening of her mood that she is able to sustain while they are with her.
Sharon experiences her most severe symptoms when she is alone. These include prolonged fantasies about killing her boyfriend and a desire to hurt herself. She says that on several occasions she has cut her thighs with razor blades and describes watching herself do this as if from a distance, numb and dead inside and feeling little pain. Sharon says that at these times she feels fat and unattractive as well as completely unlovable and worthless. At such moments, she calls John on the phone and threatens to commit suicide unless he comes and keeps her company. John reports that she has also begun to lost control of her temper. For example, shortly before he brought her to the emergency room, she attacked him with her fists in the midst of an argument.
Sharon was the youngest of four children and one of two girls. Her parents separated and divorced when she was 3 years old because her father’s alcoholism and physical abuse of his wife and children. A family secret was that Sharon was sexually abused when she was 10 years old by a brother 5 years her senior.
In adolescence, Sharon associated with a rebellious group and became involved in drug abuse and early sexual behaviors to fit in. Sharon said that her mother attributed Sharon’s teenage rebellion to a need to “find a father” and that she thought Sharon had gotten “her sexual urges confused with wanting to be loved and cared for.” By age 16, Sharon had already embarked on the pattern of chaotic unstable involvements with men that continue to characterize her adult life.
Her first drug overdose occurred at age 17 in response to a perceived rejection by her boyfriend. A series of intense relationships followed this incident, each of which followed a similar pattern: Sharon would become progressively more clinging until she gradually alienated her partners. Each rejection was marked by a period of anger and self-abuse, followed quickly by a new and identical relationship. Sharon’s current boyfriend is only the latest in a long series of disappointing partners.

This is a question but I’m sure some jerk will report it within the hour. Will you pray for my brother? He’s is just on a path to hell. Right now he is in the county jail for a DWI. From what I hear he is also leaving his wife and moving to another state to live with another brother. The man needs some serious Holy Spirit intervention. Would you please pray for him?

So, my daughters father, is a dumb alcoholic, and just killed his wife while drinking and driving. So, he is most probably going to prison. I have been getting child support weekly, and that money is really needed in our family to stay afloat. So when he goes to prison can i still collect some sort of child support or is that impossible?
haha, i was young and dumb, only 17, didnt have any self respect!

Ok, i get it, no money. Just hopeful that there might be a way.

I try to accept her reasons , sometimes I’m close , then I seem to drift back trough all the hurt and dissapointment all over again. She says she truly loves me but because of my alcoholism she cant trust me and needs to have her own security. I pray to God for forgivness for us both, but I still have some resentment that is tearing at my faith …any advice would be appreciated.

i got my first dwi in city limits, hit a gas pump handle,refused breath test, i have 4 kids not in the car when this happened i dont drink at all my first and last time drinking i,m in a divorce/child cusodty battle were the wife beat the kids ran off for 9 weeks before makeing contact then tried suicide went to meatal hospitle then vanished again will i lose my kids and go to jail or do i have a shoot at probation the dumb ass in missouri