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Ted Kennedy has done so many things to be lauded as the greatest liberal hero!

1) Ted helped raise money for the IRA, to make bombs and buy guns, to kill innocent English men, women and children.
2) Ted led a selfish life of adultery, alcoholism and hard drug usage- what a role model!
3) Ted as a father- all his kids are rehab screw-ups, what a Dad!
4) Ted was a great husband, drove his wife Joan into alcoholism, cheated on her to shame Bill Clinton.
5) Ted’s legislation ensured high school students got higher wages, handicapping American business to compete with other countries.
6) Ted has embraced every enemy of the USA and sided with terrorists and communists, to go down in history as the father of socialism in the USA.
7) Classy guy, Teddy, let a woman drown and then bullied the local law and bullied the girl’s family, to never serve a day in jail for felony manslaughter, DUI and leaving the scene of a fatal accident.
8) Scholar- was expelled twice for cheating in college.

One accomplishment, Teddy has stunned the world, both his supporters and his opponents can not dispute- Teddy has now gone over 6 months without a drink!

Should we change St Patrick’s Day, to St Teddy’s Day?
red solidarity- are you saying the IRA was justified murdering innocent men, women and children with bombs and shootings? terrorism is OK?

cars when I was backing out of the driveway? I know its my fault and I shouldn’t drink & drive but they both had their rear ends sticking out way too far.
Jeez, such harsh reactions, I was only moving the car out of someones way, not driving somewhere, her friends, Jim & Kevin know that I hit the cars and I am paying for the damages, but my wife tends to overeact to petty things

my wife and I have been married close to 2 years. No kids together. No property together. Shortly after we got married, my wife started to drink too much and lasped into alcoholism. She went to rehab and goes to AA meetings. She has fallen off the wagon once. As if the wife’s alcoholism wasn’t bad enough for a new marriage to endure, my wife is financially irresponsible. She was self employed when we met and because of the economy had to get a regular job. But that has been hard to find and basically she barely makes enough to cover her own expenses let alone contribute to the community. I took her off my credit card because she runs up too much debt. Her car payment is way to high for somebody who earns so little but she wont sell it and get something else because she is upside down. Bottom line, I would have to pay for another car for her. No thanks. I have told her that if she cant make the payments and the bank is close to repossessing it ( its not in my name, like I said we have NOTHING JOINT), I won’t give her the money to make the payments. When we met she had gone belly up on her credit cards and just lost her house. I had some debt but she really racked it up until I cut up the cards. On principal, I think that both spouses should suppport the community goals and debts. Its not like when she stayed at home she was a perfect homemaker. That has true value. No, my wife did nothing around the house when she did not work. She would cook some though. Bottom line, I am frustrated. We see both joint and individual counselors but I am struggling with how long I give her to shape up before I file for divorce. The trust issue is gone because she lied to me so many times relative to her drinking and I don’t feel “safe” with her in the financial department. I feel like I will always struggle with her financially because of her irresponsibility. If something happened to my paycheck we would be screwed because she cant pick up the slack. Sometimes I think we are on the same financial page but ultimately she ends up not budgeting properly and i have to cover things like nail jobs and getting her hair done. Not to mention I pay for her gas to go to and from work which is a long distance from our home but it was the only job that she could get. And frequently she is out of spending money for food, etc., so I pump her up when I can. I know I am better off WITHOUT HER FINANCIALLY than with her. I believe ultimately her irresponsibility will be intolerable, actually it is now, and I am struggling with how much more I have to take. I was considering telling her in our joint therapy that I am giving 6 months time and then I will revaluate my happiness and security in the relationship and if its just not there then I am done. If anybody has any suggestions, I would appreciate some advise. Thanks.
no i dont live in san antonio. west coast. i have been to one al-anon meeting only to conclude that those poor people look like they have been dragged by horses because of their alcoholic. I don’t want to be that for sure. The sixth month goal is more about me being happy in the relationship. U cant change a person with addictions only they can.

We have been fighting a custody case since 2001; I have always been the non-primary/possessory conservator. I discovered recently (this week) that my child’s father’s wife had a DWI trial case dismissed in 1998. Her attorney was, the now present judge presiding our case. Wouldn’t this be a conflict of interest? Granted I’m not blaming their past relationships on any failure of the case nor am I saying the judge recognizes the connection, but who is to say? What would normally happens in this situation? Thank you.

Everybody does it right? A few beers, You dont think your ability to drive will be hindered…I am representing a husband whose whole family, 4 little girls and his pregnant wife…killed by someone who just had a couple of beers….Do you drink and drive?
the drunk driver says only had two beers very quickly on way home after work, bartender only served 2 beers, tested just over legal limit…went over center line, drivers behind him said he had been weaving…no cell phone involved
Yes I am an attorney, and yes I have drank a couple of drinks at a lunch, or at a dinner and driven home..thinking 1 or 2 drinks, I can drive ok…what lesson is that for my kids…I can say I will never do it again, nor will my husband, never….

Kan. doc convicted of conspiracy in pill mill case
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An interesting concept to think about… please read carefully

The flesh is sinful, we are born into a sinful world, we inherit sin in our flesh when we are born. Since the fall of Adam all flesh inherits sin and we are all a corrupted version of the original creation.
Along with sin come corruptions of the flesh that we are born into. We can admit that people are born with tendency’s such as alcoholism, they are predisposed to a certain type of sin. Some people are born with stronger sex drives than others. Just as we can’t choose what family we are born into and the habits we will pick up from them, we also can’t choose our genetics. Yes God created Adam and Eve perfect, but after sin came into their flesh all flesh since them is defiled and corrupt.
So what i am getting at, is that i think people can be born with certain tendency’s that go against what God originally intended for man, obviously, we are corrupted sinful flesh.
However, when we accept Christ and are born again, and become a new creation we are to turn away from the sin in our lives, or the things that go against what God says is acceptable and right. We are to longer accept them, even if we think we were naturally that way. Just because someone is predisposed to alcoholism doesn’t mean that when they become a Christian they have a free pass to binge drink every day and not try and stop. Just because someone has a stronger sex drive then others doesn’t mean that after they become a follower of Christ they can have sex freely with whomever they want, or they can cheat on their wives/husbands.
I believe the same for homosexuality, whether you say you had a homosexual tendency from birth, or you were exposed to it at a young age and it has become ingrained in your mind and sex drive, that doesn’t mean that when you accept Christ he is okay with you continuing in what he calls sin.
Remember we are all born into this sinful flesh and world, we are asked to turn away from that, be born again in spirit and truth, repent (or turn away) from sins and the sinful flesh. It may not happen over night, but we can not accept sin in our lives if we are a new creation in Christ.

I can give all of the scripture references if anyone would like
Jon, I understand where you are coming from and i am not throwing stones at you. Man was created in the image of God.. meaning Adam and ever were, and we are offspring of them. However, we have been corrupted by our sinful flesh, God is not sinful as we are, and when we become born again in spirit and truth (when people accept christ), we are to turn from the sinful flesh, and become new creations. We can no longer accept the things that God says are not acceptable. Now this applies to Christians, so i am not judging anyone, and I am not sure if you are Christian or not. Also after we are born again we need to crucify our flesh and the sins of the flesh, and often times this is an ongoing battle.
Tom- i have no idea how anything you just said relates to my statement.

Also to whom it was who said i didn’t say that it’s a choice to drink, thats exactly what i am saying! We may be not choose the circumstances we are born into, and the tendencies we have, but we can choose to turn away from them when are born in spirit and truth and are a new creation in Christ. And only the power of Christ in us can give us the strength and ability to turn away from these things for good. God is the only one who can restore us to the person he intended us to be.
Melanie – read what i said again, i said you could be born with certain tendency’s since or flesh is tainted with sin but that doesn’t make it acceptable to God.
Tim A – Leviticus 18:22 – “Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable.”
Genesis 2:24 “For this reason a man will leave his father and other and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”
1 Corinthians 6:9-10
9 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals,[a] nor sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.”

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Don’t get me wrong. I don’t hate my soon to be ex. wife. i realized she was a narcissist. she was wounded as a child by her mother. however her mother still has control over her. she’s a child in an adult body. we married and blended familes. she had a daughter and i had two kids. i knew the pain for the kids and us about not working out. she obviously didn’t. she was engaged twice before me and her daughter went through multiple fathers. she told me you’re the only father she will ever know. then she left. she’s a narcissist. i stood up to her crap. she wasn’t strong enough to move away from her narcissistic mother. now her daughter is paying the price as well as my 2 kids. she’s been doing this for 10 years and everybody cleans up her messes so she just moves on. her mother is so narcissistic she wanted the marriage to fail. they say the best way to make a narcissist realize and grow is to expose them. outside she projected the perfect woman. she had DWI’s, abortions, and broken relationships that nobody questioned. It was oh you pick the wrong guys. Wrong! I finally exposed her to her parents. The ones she was afraid of. All the stuff they didn’t know only the poison she told everybody to get sympathy. Now she’s stalking me every morning. I’m the parent she never had and she’s mad as hel@. They say punish the little kid in them then love them for it because they never had that when they were a kid. I’ve had no contact with her for 3 weeks though after she left. What should I do considering she’s a narcissist? If you don’t know about narcissists, don’t answer. You wouldn’t understand what they need or what you need to do so they can experience true love. They never had it and it’s foreign to them. I don’t want to destroy her but just her false self so she can love. How to do that? I really need answers from the therapists trained in this.

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A male driver is pulled over by a cop and the following conversation takes place:
Man: What’s the problem officer?
Cop: You were going at least 75 in a 55 zone.
Man: No sir, I was going 65.
Wife: Oh Harry. You were going 80.
(Man gives his wife a dirty look.)
Cop: I’m also going to give you a ticket for your broken tail light.
Man: Broken tail light? I didn’t know about a broken tail light!
Wife: Oh Harry, you’ve known about that tail light for weeks.
(Man gives his wife a dirty look.)
Cop: I’m also going to give you a citation for not wearing your seat belt.
Man: Oh, I just took it off when you were walking up to the car.
Wife: Oh Harry, you never wear your seat belt.
Man: Shut your mouth, woman!
Cop: Ma’am, does your husband always talk to you this way?
Wife: No, only when he’s drunk.

it was to his wife about his alcoholism and how sorry he was ?it came out around 1996

Can someone recommend a book about how alcoholics think? I’m not looking for something that explains it is a disease (I already know that) or something that is a self-help “cure” for alcoholism. I’m asking because a drunk driver killed my parents. We came to find out he has been an alcoholic for decades (bottles hidden from his wife, for example) and I want to understand his line of thinking. He thinks he is a victim in the accident too and it is not all his fault somehow. I’ve been searching Amazon but a book recommendation would be great.

Ok, I’m currently married but may be seperating from my wife. She doen’t want me to go out and drink and drive home because she says that SHE would have to pay the fine,not me, and HER insurance would go up, not mine.The car in question has both our names on the loan and both on the title ( not sure how it’s written on the title) So,,,,I think this is a bunch of crap. If i get caught with a DUI, I go to jail,loose my privilage to drive, and have to pay the fines. Just because her name is on the loan and title of the car in question, whould she be affected by this at all? Thanks for your help!!

There are many parts of Ted’s life, that somehow may never be mentioned by the media:

1) the family money came from crime, his father was Irish mafia, every
bit as criminal as any Italian mafia
2) Ted’s parenting- adulterer, alcoholic, drug user, who’s kids have
followed in his snail trail- drug addicted kids; drove his wife to
alcoholism with his womanizing and “do as I say not as I do”
lifestyle.
3) Ted’s senate legacy- raising the hourly wages of high school
students, making USA noncompetitive in the world
4) Ted’s felony manslaughter- fled the scene of a fatal accident, left a
young lady to drown, bullied local authorities and bullied the
Kopechne family, to never serve a day in jail after committing felony
manslaughter
5) Ted secretly funded money for the IRA to make bombs to murder
innocent people in the U.K.
6) Ted has been the “heart and soul” of socialism in congress.

When Ted passes on, will he go to heaven? Will he be eulogized as a great American hero, despite the selfish, elitist lifestyle he led?

Will accomplishments be manufactured to hide the truth about Ted Kennedy?

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090820/ap_on_re_us/us_kennedy_massachusetts_senate

michael P- I’m not sure if you are lying, brainwashed with socilaist Kool-Aid or both. Whether you are ignorant or spinning, Ted Kennedy did in fact commit felony manslaughter, I never said he was convicted of his crime, he bullied the local authorities to escape the punishment anyone else would have received.

Educate yourself and read the book by Joseph Gargan, the Kennedy cousin who was there at Chappaquidick-. who detailed how Teddy left the scene of the accident, was drunk, asked his friends to say they were driving, swam to his hotel and showed up next day, after sobering up, shocked to hear his friends refused to perjure themselves for Teddy and his ambition. Get educated before you spew your lies, comrade.

http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m1282/is_n22_v40/ai_6790798/

Why is it that every time you listen to sports,it is not about sports news but about another athlete,getting accused of doing drugs,getting arrested for dwi,or beating or cheating on his girlfriend /wife (whatever). eg. Kobbe Bryant,O.J. ,Bengals problems this year with their players,last years problems with the Vikings players on their cruise ship, the Frenchman with the steroid problems, the problems with players out of control with no dicipline,T. O. for eg. ,the raiders and their history of player problems on and off the field.

Kan. Doctor Convicted in Deadly Pill Mill Case
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