September 5th, 2010 | 
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Hello! I have been with my husband for 5 years together and married 3 out of those five years. My husband has two children from a previous marriage ages 12 (girl), 7 (boy). I have a daughter from a previous relationship age 8 (girl). Well to make long story short my “step-daughter” told her mother first of something she “found” in my drawer and her mother called my husband and said you need to call your daughter so when he did she told him what she found in my drawer. Which then in turn caused a big war almost divorce. The something was of a grassy substance she said that she found and he believed her. We talked and I thought everything was worked out. But then last night he tells me that “He is losing interest in me” & “he does not love me.” He also was me to take a drug test every 30 days to make sure I am not doing drugs. And he treats his children better than my child and I understand those are his children and my daughter is the step daughter to him but I treat his children the same as if they were my own children. SO should I keep hanging on to this marriage or should I just walk away. Please help and any advice would be appreciated. Believe me I love my family and I have told him I am Deeply sorry for not being “the perfect wife.” and I am not doing “what I am told.” So please help.
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So your husband is buying into the gossip that his daughter is spreading to his EX.
If he does not believe you and wants a drug test monthly, then you may be fighting a losing battle.
I think I would point out to him that you are VERY ANGRY with his believing a child and not his wife. I would add that you WILL NOT subject yourself to drug testing and would suggest he should test his children.
I would further point out that this guy is about to lose the best thing he ever had and that he needs to change his opinion and do it fast because you are considering divorce and taking him to the cleaners.
In the big picture you probably have little chance to recover from this.
Assuming she was not lying you have significant lifestyle differences with your husband and worse assuming you are being set up you do not want to be with any guy who takes the word of a spiteful conniving child over the word of his wife.
There will be a day that he will regret being so foolish to buy this story but then he does not have such a good history in marriage anyway does he?
Keep trying…counseling…it must be tough to have kids involved from previous relationships. But this sounds like somehting that can be easliy fixed. No real reason to give it all up
You need marital counseling.
I doubt that a 12 year old would out and out lie for no reason. If drugs have been an issue in your past, it’s easy to see how things have got this far. Good for him for wanting to protect all the children from something they should not be exposed to. I’m not saying it was right, just that he is reacting with the kids best interests at heart. Counseling will be the only way you’ll get back out of this mess.