September 3rd, 2010 | 
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we have three daughters together and our youngest is 4 years old. I’ve been clean for about 8 years and I haven’t really looked back on it, Heroin is good stuff and I’m not saying Im immune to it because I can easily fall back into that old habit but I choose not to for my kids. I never told my kids about my drug problems ever, I was planning on telling them when they were a little older. We haven’t gotten into an argument like that in front of the kids since we divorced 3 years ago, she said something and I said some things that weren’t exactly nice and she said really loudly “I liked you better when you were shooting up heroin, now you can’t blame your stupid decisions on being “high” I left as soon as she said that and when I went to pick my daughters up from school my oldest asked me if I did drugs when I was younger and I told her I did and I dropped it. In reality I wasn’t that young, I was 27 and she was 7 years old when I stopped. I’m suprised she didn’t remember her mom and I getting into it when I came home at 5 in the morning high out of my mind. I haven’t really explained to her the full details do you think i should? I kind of have to , she’s getting to that age where drugs are the “cool” thing to do and I don’t want her to go down the same road I did. what should I say, oh yeah I did drugs for 4 years straight and I only stopped because your mom threatened to never let me see you and your sister if i kept doing it?
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firstly…she is wrong ….secondly tell your children
Well, I guess it’s time to have a serious talk with your girls. They’re old enough to talk about it. Ask you questions and have you answer them honestly. You don’t need to get into the nitty gritty, but I would advise being upfront about your addiction. Addiction tendency can be heredity and they need to be aware that this is something they should be looking for and avoiding. I am a dry alcoholic and know I’ll need to talk with my son one day about my abuse of it and how I overcame it and what destruction it did in my life. Your girls are old enough. They know. Time to talk about it.
And it might be nicer to say “I cared about you and your sister more than heroin so I knew I had to stop.”
Sit them down and calmly explain that you made some stupid choices when you were younger.
Answer any of their questions as honestly as possible.
Don’t try to ignore it because that will only make it worse.
My mom brought up my dad’s drug problem to me and my sister, so I have a view on it that might help you talk to your daughters.
They love you. You are their dad. Period, the end. I knew my dad had drug problems in the past, and he actually didn’t quit. He almost lost his job over it when I was 17, and I still love him. I love him even as he does it now because that is his decision. I even went to the therapist that his job made him go to when he turned up positive in a random drug test.
He almost didn’t tell me about it even when I could tell. I could smell it, and I could see it when he was high. Your girls know, and it will hurt them to know you never trusted them enough with the full truth. So talk to them about it, and they will respect you for the courage and appreciate the trust you had in them. And they will even take away the mistakes you learned from it. I’ve stayed away from all drugs because I have a living example. It’s the best you can do for them.