September 2nd, 2010 | 
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When I am not home she comes in with her son to snoop around(she once lived in the home)If I am not in the living room when she arrives she goes back to his bedroom following his father.I didn’t realize this was going on except I would come home at lunchtime and find our bedroom door locked on the days she was to come pickup him up. She finds excuses to come into the home.I had enough,so I called her and told her that when she comes inside my home she stays in the foyer. She got beligerent.This woman has tried suicide 4 x since I have known her and 8 x total. She admitted that she did it for attention,the last time she scratched her wrists. I have only been in her home twice and both times was to get the son out of the home because her 3rd husband and her were drinking and fighting.She is getting married again without divorcing the 3rd husband,she has an alcoholic and pill problem.I love the son as my own and he knows it. What should I do in the future?
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If I were you I would talk to my husband about it have him speak with her. As a hunband he should be concerned about how you feel. And he should do something about it!
Oh God.. I’ve been there..I feel for you…That was the most frustrating relationship of my life. Main thing is.. HE’S the one who has to set her straight. If he doesn’t Get out. Save yourself the grief.
Are you sure the son is better off staying over night with her? I think maybe if she has so many problems and is suicidal it would be better if he just saw her some evenings and weekends (day only) that way you or your husband would always be around when she come to collect him or drop him off. So you could meet her at the door.
I don’t mean to be cruel but the most important factor here is the child. He must be in the most stable environment, and it sounds like that is best provided by you and your husband.
Who has residence? I think you should try to change the living arrangements for the son.
Good luck x
Change the locks on the door and tell your husband you are sick of the mess in your lives, and if he doesn’t fix it he may not get a key to the new lock!! She doesn’t need to be in your home when you are not there anyway. Someone with no control over herself doesn’t need to be around a child. He’s seeing this as normal behavior. This isn’t doing him good at all. Your husband should be a father and keep him away from her. Feeling sorry for her isn’t helping her.
Qukkky. good luck
Where is your husband and why does he let this go on? She is mentally abusing the son. In all probability, you and your husband could get custody with limited visitation where there must be a third party present when she sees him. Call child protective services. There are lawyers who deal especially with this type of problem. If you cannot afford one, try finding one who will take your case probono. Lawyers have to do probono cases once in a while. Get a restraining order. Kick your husband in the butt and tell him to take action. His son needs security.
Sorry this may sound very cold and I don’t mean it that way. But, it was her house first. True, she shouldn’t be going in it, but how would your feel if you were living somewhere else, your family was still in the home you created for them, and you weren’t welcome there. Granted, it is not the same and you have been working hard to create the home so that it is your new familys however, she still sees it as hers because she lived there with them. It isn’t right what she is doing, but she continues. Move. Get a new home that is just yours and your familys from the start.
Also, realize that she has many issues and pursue the fact that the children should not be with her without supervision. She sounds very unstable.