August 31st, 2010 | 
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When my wife and I do get to make love (see other questions), she says I spend too much time with foreplay. That I should just get to it. I’m so confused about that because just about everything on this board says I’m supposed to slow things down and focus on getting her in the mood.
I love foreplay. It is so fun and intoxicating. What can I do?
Thanks everyone. My wife is 33. She’s a stay at home mom. Read my other questions for the things I do for her.
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Because….she wants to get it over with!!!
give her what she wants.
All women are different. Your woman requires something different than some other women do. Do what makes her happy. She’s the one you’re trying to please, right?
Sounds like shes not really interested and wants to get the whole thing over with. You need to have a talk with her and let her tell you exactly what it is about the whole thing that she doesnt like.
Maybe your doing something unpleasant! Ask her as your going along if this is okay.
What you are supposed to do, is please your partner…and hopefully they also want to please you. If your wife doesn’t like foreplay, that’s fine. If you want to know why, you’ll need to ask her.
Many women dig lots of foreplay, but some don’t. The key is knowing what your partner likes and dislikes and taking that to heart, and not doing what you did for your last partner or what you think women (in general) want.
A good lover pays attention to their partners desires, and doesn’t assume that person will be like any others they have been with. ☺♥☻
Well, she could be like me- when I’m in the mood I’m in the mood and want to get right to it. I’m not a big one on foreplay either. She also might be one of those wives that isn’t feeling fulfilled and just wants to get through the act as quickly as possible. This is when sex becomes more of a chore for women. Sit her down and make sure she’s feeling satisfied and not just doing it because you want to.
Because she obv isnt in the mood really and she is just doing it to satisfy you and so she wants to hurry up and be done with it Im sorry this is so harsh sounding but I think in my oppinion this is the honest truth. In all reality it may not have anything to do with you or what you are doing her hormones like I said in the last question you asked maybe jacked up.
come give me the foreplay – lol – i never knew there was any such thing as too much foreplay – i think its more of a turn on than sex – i say if you can get me off by making out and caressing or even taking my clothes off – then your a god – stop wasting your foreplay on someone that doesnt appreciate it
Are you ready!
Are you through yet?
Sounds familiar.
Sometimes it is hot just to have our hair pulled and get fu****
mix it up a bit.
Did you try talking to her?
Everyone on the board is not sleeping with your wife – I hope. They do not know your wife. Why would you believe a bunch of total strangers over your own wife.
Apparently, she doesn’t mind foreplay, just don’t drag it out past her point of passion. Do take it easy and focus on her mood for awhile, but when SHE says go – get on with it!
Probably because she just wants to go to sleep
Dennis G
I expect the quantity is not the issue but what. Listen to her and you should be able to tell which things she like and which are boring her. Focus on her rather than focusing specifically on getting her in the mood.
every woman is different. you have to learn how much foreplay is needed with her.
because she dosent want to do it in the first place, u can do nothing, either deal with it or leave
Switch it up so that you are both happy. One time foreplay one time not and so on.
She might like it better if she isn’t expected to have it every time.
Wow! I’ve never heard of too much foreplay. It sound like she just wants to do the deed and get it over with. Doesn’t she enjoy sex?
Maybe she needs to see a doctor – has she gone through menopause? Sometimes women lose their desire for sex along with their hormones. Or is something stressing her out at home? Does she need help with the kids or housework? There might be some reason that you don’t know about. You need to have a heart-to-heart talk with her and find out the answer.
Could be many reasons. Maybe she doesn’t enjoy sex very much and has a very low libido. Is she usually very tired? Does she have a demanding schedule? Does she respond to your caress or just act bored? Maybe you need to try pre-foreplay, nice dinner out, warm bubble bath you’ve fixed for her with a glass of wine, some candles, maybe a box of chocolates. Offer to wash her back, no foreplay, just try to make her relax and enjoy. Then if your lucky ; ) she’ll be more “in the mood”.
If she still seems “in a hurry” sounds like you need to have a serious talk. Sex should be fun and enjoyed by both of you. Is she shy? Self conscious of her body? Tell her how beautiful she is, how sexy she is, women love complements and it helps us feel sexier.Good luck.
Tell her to let you know when she has had enough foreplay.You can’t read her mind!!
And were do you live again?…… And your phone number is?…… And we are meeting where?…….. Sure we can foreplay all weekend I would love to thanks.
~Kitty Kat
it requires cooperation and mutual understanding
Well everybody is different, and with that it also comes the different level of libido… She might rather get straight to it, some women cannot go ahead with foreplays for too long… I think it’s because it’s too much “teasing” lol and at the end they get tired of it… and dry, if that is not the things that can turn them on in that moment…. I looooove forplays but it’s happened to me too in the past, that I couldn’t focus on the thing for that long and at the end I got dry and lost my sex drive for the moment!!! Maybe see if you guys can find something in between…. Of course don’t eliminate totally but see if you and her can work something out half way…. =)
im also a stay at home mom with 4 kids if my hubby did all this foreplay stuff with me, it would just bore me to death!! i dont know why, i think its partially because i just am TIRED, want to get it over with, and after how many years…foreplay just doesnt do a whole lot for me.
i also agree with jenny…sex can be somewhat of a “chore” for me also…and it doesnt turn me on if the hubby wants it and not me. maybe she thinks that too?