August 13th, 2010 | 
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i’m 16 years old.
my dad used to drink and use drugs for about 40 years.
until recently he started going to aa (alcoholics anonymous).
he has been sober for about 2 1/2 years now.
everything with him is going pretty good..
except that my mom does drugs and drinks too.
every time she starts acting weird, me and my dad assume that she is on something. (it’s kind of obvious)
she used to do meth with my dad, but now that my dad is clean, we think that she is hiding it.
my dad is extremely stressed about this because he doesn’t want to go back, and he doesn’t want to see his wife like this.
he just wants to be happy.
also, my mom doesn’t work,
for about 10 years, she has been saying that she’s going to get a job, but she never does.
my dad is supporting her cigarette habits and is paying her child support. (i don’t know why)
my dad is just about done.
he wants a divorce but is scared that it might just make it worse.
we, my dad and i, both don’t know what to do.
i’m serious, please help.
also, i’m doing very well in school right now and don’t plan on doing drugs or drinking.
another this is that we have told my mom MANY times.
she always runs away from her problems.
also, her parents died when she was 12, so that might have something to do with it.
she doesn’t have much family to live with if my dad was to divorce her.
and i have absolutely no money, seriously.
my dad either.
he can barely pay our rent and the electricity.
i don’t have a job because i work my butt off at school.
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Wow, my heart goes out to you, and I will say a prayer tonight for your mom and dad. She needs some kind of intervention.
I have an uncle who is like this. All she needs is love and comfort but also rehab. She is probably just really scared. Go with her, show her that you will stand by her side through it all, it will boost her spirits. It helped my uncle out pretty good ;) good luck
You are sixteen and need to focus on your own future right now. You can work and go to school and get into college and hopefully she will be inspired.
I’m very sorry about this time in your life. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. She needs to go to AA as well, hun.
Whats in your wallet?
Tell your mom that to stop it. Because it can kill her.. tell her that u love her and tell her to stop from going on drugs or else she dies. She will cancer, Other problems
Yeah, you and your dad need to intervene. Sit her down and talk to her and be upfront. If she doesn’t listen to you, then check her in to rehabilitation. And yes, in this case, a divorce would make things worse.
my friend sent his mother to a clinic
all i know is that shes not going to get for a long time
he hates her and his father and him have been doing way better and now have better cash flow
his dads clean now
but i would never personally know
Thats good that your dad choose to quit && you don’t plan on doing drugs or drinking. I suggest you send your mom to rehab for treatment thats the only way.
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Your father is just going to have to get the divorce. Sometimes people need to hit rock bottom before they change their ways. If your father keeps supporting your mom’s habits, she will not get a job to support herself.
Both you and your dad should sit her a** down and tell her how you both feel and that she needs to go to rehab and that you are willing to support her all the way.
If that doesn’t work, well, give her the boot so she can learn her lesson. My brother started using drugs and everything fell apart for him like loosing his kids, wife, house, job, etc., until he got his act straigten out. Now he owns his business, got his wife back, kids, etc.
it will get worse before it gets better but you have to leave your mother behind, you and your dad have to move on, you might even have to testify that you think she is doing drugs, your dad will not have to pay child support if you are with him, she will have to get a job to pay him for you. She needs to hit bottom before she will help her self. you and your dad need to get out nomatter how bad it gets. She may even land up homeless or dead, but you and your dad need to fix your lives and leave the bad people behind, even if you love your mother, you have to show her by example that she can’t do this to you guys anymore, because it does mess up your life and your dads life. I know I had to divorce a drug attict. it has been 5 years now and he is still a looser and I have a better life. Life is hard enough when your are clean, your mother is making it worse for everyone. She is selfish
I’m sorry at 16 your in the adult seat.. But I can tell you you and your father can not do anything until she wants to get help you can not force her she needs to know how you and your father feel.. Your dad staying with her isn’t helping and he should get you out and his self before he gets caught up in her addiction.. She will pull him down as well as you.. Make it clear to her rehab, or no family till she gets clean..Give her no money.. By giving her money your dad is just helping her get more drugs and alchool… Good job to your dad for getting clean.. This is hard, but tough love is the best when all else fails…. Sorry for you ….
I’m sorry about your mom. I went through the same situation. There is nothing you can really do. Your mom has to want to change for herself. Maybe you can write her a letter, and let her know how you feel about her. The cold hard truth really hurts, but it could do her some good.
First of all, I commend you and your Dad on keeping the Eye on the PRIZE!!!… Especially your ‘POPS’ for thinking of you as an inspiration to get his shat together ( he lost time with you then, He’s taking time Now!!) As for your Mother, ”tough love is in order… If she can’t see it… apply the pressure, If she can’t see that… cut her off… I know it’s hard but, as I said tough love is in her best interest. Ask a Pastor, or whoever you can seek guidance from, because this is an issue to keep you guys together and at peace. Whatever happens will… Have a happy new year, and good luck..
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