July 31st, 2010 | 
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situation 1yr marriage wife wont let go of older kids 17 19 21.i feel like our new start has never began.wife blames me for her kids not being around her well lets see i got set up with a drug charge by the 19yr old and 17yr wont follow home rules.21yr old has her own huspand but still wants her mommy daily. and in the mean time its always my fault.i dont keep her kids away from her but she is always telling them diffrent. i have 3 kids of my own that i dont get to see but i do pay child support on all 3 of them and support my wife and share every thing with her. its so bad that SEX dont even happen in my marriage does any one have any advice other than counseling. try it .
Posted in QUESTIONS ABOUT WIFE'S DRUG ADDICTION | 
Tags: huspand/wife, know, marriage, neither, over, speak., up.here
first of all did you know this before you got married to her? if so then you need to deal with it, when you marry someone you marry their family as well. you two really need to try be there for each other and if she cann’t control her kids, then why should she blame you, doesn’t she have an ex they can go for things as well?
the kids just got in the way and became additional reason, but ultimately I guess, she no longer feels any love for you, let go already.
you should let her go
sounds like it is time to go, how did you get set up with a drug charge, did she do this befor you were married, women don’t normally change that fast around their kids, could this be something you didn’t see before marriage, as from personal experience i can tell you love is deaf, dumb, blind, and just plain stupid most of the time as if we really look with open eyes, and really see there are almost always things there before the marriage that if we truly thought about it we would not marry that person, if we looked at it honestly
dale t
Once someone gets something in their head it’s hard to get it out and I know how you feel, But you are going to have to ask her a difficult question, She’s the only one that knows the answer,
She feels she’s losing her kids sorry pal she’s going to chose her kids, I know that it’s strange.
You’ve been married one year, Just ask her how she feels and what does she want you to do. If you have to move out then do it. Because her kids weren’t raised right, That says alot about her, You should have seen this before my guess you love her you chose not to see it.
It sounds like you live with a bunch of welfare hick kids that’s slang but if you could see what i’m talking about then you’d know what i mean just get your answer and be able to walk out the door without looking back…
How do you know it is over? Did you say “I do”? Then it is over. Once you get married your loving relationship is over no matter what your circumstances are. You can be soul mates and that will be destroyed. Some people realize this in weeks and get divorced others lie to themselves for years. You just realized it. All the counseling in the world won’t help. That is just another lie. Once this is all over if you are ever lucky enough to fall in love again DON’T EVER GET MARRIED!!!!