July 30th, 2010 | 
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I’ve been married for 2.5 years and we have a 2 year old, last may ’09 my wife had a flare up with her colon (she has ulcerative colitis) I knew she had the disease when we married but never experienced the flare up. She was is tons of pain and I have to work mon-fri, so she moved home with her mother who lives a few blocks away. She was put on steroids and other drugs and we began fighting mostly due to the fact I felt she should be home with me. I mean we married through sickness and health right? But her condition has fluctuated greatly in the past 9 months, we speak everyday 3-4x, but she says that she has no interest in moving home until she is feeling 100% better. I feel I have been very patient throughout and have not always acted the right way or said the right things but I have been here for her. Her sister lives with her mother also and helps with the baby because she doesn’t feel good, and I feel I can’t compete with this, I mean there are 2 extra sets of hands over there and I am only one man. Additionally her father passed the year before our wedding and I feel she likes being over there to make sure they aren’t alone (she’s the oldest) and bring joy to their lives (our son). The doctor said she is on the verge of getting better, but I have been hearing this for a year. So basically I am tired and wore down, we did go to a marriage retreat in October which has improved our relationship, but she still wont move home……should I give her an ultimatum? Move home or lets move on? Oh and also she won’t let me come and pick up my son and hang with him alone, she thinks I won’t watch him close enough, but I do see them both 5-6x a week
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You are already divorced; make it formal and that gives her a year to get her act together or you go through with it.
I think that she’s being unfair. She can’t keep your son away from you, just for no reason, unless you’ve proved to have wronged her in some way. I think you should definitely tell her that this situation is a big drastic and you are with her to support, love her and take care of her. But actions speak louder than words, so prove that you are going to be there for her. Maybe she’s afraid that you will not take care of her? But I’m not sure that divorce is the answer, you will look weak and you have a son. That is not smart to leave because it seems she is afraid herself. Be strong for her.
Move home or move on is definitely the way you need to go. The only difference between what you have now and being divorced is likely how much you’ll pay in child support. But at least you can find a woman who will talk to you and be there for you then.
And her side of this story is…?
Accept it and enjoy it. It’s like you are dating a chick that lives 2 blocks away.
Do you know how many guys would pay to have their wife live a couple blocks away.
You have a good thing appreciate it instead of fretting about it.
Rent out your own house and move in with her. She (or her mother) can’t complain. You’re married, and you have a child!
please dont be silly, how come you dont move in with her and her family. come on. she love you that why she dont want you to have to deal with her when she sick. she really love you and want make you to see her when she healthy. dont get mad at her. if you love her then move in with her family then you can have your wife and son and 2 extra person to help you..