June 15th, 2011 | 
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If you were in a domestic violence marriage and both used drugs and then the victim decided to turn her life over to God. Would be Ok to leave the husband? The husband always went out and cheated on the wife every chance he got? Would it be ok to move on and marry a christian guy one day? He’s claiming he changed but really hasn’t he’s still using drugs and living the sinful life. Is it ok to leave him behind. You don’t want to be with a man that doesn’t love God you feel you shouldn’t have to go back to this marriage? Should you? Let me know your opinion please!
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This question is a no-brainer: yes.
well ya
yes it’s ok to leave but watch your back he might try to get even…im afraid he might make an attempt to kill you
Just because he found God doesn’t make him an angel. If you feel you’re in danger, then you need to get out of the relationship, no matter how much he SAYS he’s changed. If you can’t SEE the changes, then do what’s best and leave before you get seriously hurt.
yes divorce that guy it is perfectly OK i would divorce my husband if he was like yours
Get out NOW! If he has truly changed, you would be able to see it.
yes
LEAVE…run…get out. Everyone has the right to happiness and a fulfilling spiritual life. Usually when 2 people are on a path they have a common interest and it makes for a HEALTHIER RELATIONSHIP.
yes
sounds to me like you already know this answer. God wants you to have a fulfilling life. If being with an abuser and a drug addict is fulfilling, then okay. But, you and I both know that is a lie. You also sound like you are dealing with some guilty feelings. You can’t save a person if they don’t want to be saved. You are putting your life on hold for something that will never, ever materialize: a guy who has changed. Divorce this man… move on to a more fulfilling life with the christian man.
Yeah, if you want out of the marriage, then get out of the marriage.
Duh.
Oh, and don’t forget about the annulment (if you believe in that kind of thing).
Regardless of spirituality, domestic violence is a good enough reason to divorce him.
yes
1 Cor 7:12 ff
Yes yes and yes!
I don’t know what religion is involved; if it’s catholic, I believe you can buy an annulment. In other cases, I THINK that if there are good enough reasons, they decide that god will forgive you, or that it was never a marriage in the first place.
I am a biblical counselor and in the Bible Jesus says in Matthew that if there is a affair then you can leave. In the old testemant God allowed divorce. If there is abuse, affair, or addiction then you have biblical grounds to divorce.
I’m not a religious person but if you are looking for an answer from a religious stand point -YES it is ok. The Bible talks about divorce as the last solution. But, it does say it is ok when one strays from the marriage sexually. This is the only reason it give you to divorce. I disagree with it being the only reason.
Of course its OK to divorce your husband. The bible says that GOD only recognizes divorce if 1) adultery was committed ( which it was.) and 2) Your husband wasn’t taking care of home. But to put your mind at ease just pray on the matter and God will show you what you need to do but I think that you already know what needs to be done.
Most definitely a loud YES! The man needs H-E-L-P!
I don’t think it has to have anything to do with religion, if he beats you, leave him, whether you want to stay or no, unless you both get a kick out of beating each other. if you just don’t want to be with him, leave him.
First things first, the wife must get to and remain in a place of safety away from the abuser! No one can serve the Lord here on Earth when they’re dead and too many women have trusted or felt sorry for an abusive man and ended up dead or permanently maimed. When someone is an abuser, you should never meet with them in person without the police or in a court supervised setting. The Book of Proverbs warns us to stay away from an ill-tempered man.
Next, the woman should do whatever it takes to insure that there is a legal separation (abusers can harm legally and financially, too)and get custody of any children that may be involved.
The wife should also get into Biblical/Christian counseling. There are so many mental, emotional, physical and spiritual issues to deal with when emerging from an abusive relationship. Considering the “next” relationship should be put on the back-burner for quite some time.
The wife needs to continue to grow and nurture her relationship with Christ first. As she walks closely with Him, He will show her what steps to take.
Divorce is a sin, but it certainly is not unpardonable. When Christ died for our sins, He died for all of them. There is new life and the possibility for a new marriage for Christians, but when leaving a marriage where so much abuse has been involved a lot of healing must take place first!
No. But, if you do you are not allowed by Scripture to remarry. (until your husband dies) Divorce is one of those hot topics that every so called Christian has an opinion, but few seek to discover what God’s opinion of it is. He does have an ‘opinion’ and I encourage you to find out what it is before you do anything rash. Do you have faith? Then why not exercise it. Paul says who knows if your modest, chaste behavior, coupled with a meek and quite spirit wouldn’t be the very thing to bring your husband to the Lord. Are you fearful for your safely? Trust in the Lord, He will not allow you to suffer beyond what you can endure. Read Psalms 91 and tell me if you can’t trust Him with your life? He is faithful in all things. If you need flee for your life, then flee for a season, but don’t burn your bridges which were sealed with an oath to your husband and before God. As for the cop out answer that everyone seems to subscribe-“except for fornication“. Why is it that Jesus didn’t allow for the same exception to those who spoke to in Luke 16:18? Is He playing favorites? Or might there be an explanation to the so-called exception clause in Mt 5:32? There is, but people are so quick to latch onto a verse that supports their preconceived notions and sinful desires. That is why Paul called such false teaching, “doctrines of demons“. They who subscribe to it think they are being Biblically directed, but their thoughts are from the pit of hell, meant first to deceive them and then ruin them. That is why the church is FULL of second, third and fourth time re-married adulterers and adulteress. They divorce and remarry to their own damnation, without regard for what God states in His Word. To these deceived ones who refuse to acknowledge their sin and repent, Christ will say: ‘Depart from me ye workers of inequity I never knew you’. Remember the Book of Revelation says very plainly: that liars, fornicators, adulterers, murders, etc don’t make it into the Kingdom of God. Both Paul and Jesus do allow for divorce, but not remarriage if the husband is still alive. Period. Do so at your own risk. Listen to the voices of the deceived to your own peril. Study it out with an open heart and pray for light. A heavy cross? You bet. Carry it with joy.