January 5th, 2010 | 
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I’m originally from asia but currently live in the US and met the love of my life. I swear this girl and I were made for each other and have so much love for each other. We both want to get married but…I would like to raise my kids to be non drinkers (and she agreed to that but i expect her to not drink, at least at home or in front of them) and would like the possibility of either moving overseas or possibly even to another state, but she is completely refusing to even entertain the ideas. Will I ever move? I don’t really know, i just want to know that she would be ok with it.
All i really want to do is know that my future wife or wife when she is is willing to do whatever it takes and is willing to do anything for her husband and family, is that too much to ask? I must point that she is very close to her family, as i am close to mine but that is a big reason why she would not want to move, naturally.
Any and all thoughts are most welcome, thanks in advance.
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First I think you need to talk to her about it BEFORE you get married! If being closer to your families are both proprities to you and your families are on opisites sides of the earth then it may raise a problem. You definitely want to talk to her about everything you mentioned before marriage. Maybe you guys can come to a compromise. I dont think you are asking anything that is too much just be open and honest with her and if she says she cannot fathom moving you may have to be prepared for that and think of what will come of it if she says she cant leave. Good Luck!
I don’t think you are ready to get married. How many changes are you willing to make for her? Why are you pushing her on these things – are you trying to find weak spots, so you can find a reason to back out? Do you think she drinks to much or do you have a phobia about it? I don’t understand why you are pushing her on the moving question when you already know the answer. Perhaps taking trips together might help, or visiting friends that have moved away. But lots of people never move out of their home town, so I don’t understand this issue. If you have agreed with her on this already, why are you forcing it now?